19 Jun 2019, 10:14 am
Teach51 wrote:
The women are TELLING all you men that they don't choose partners according to the criteria you are so intent on attributing to them, most of you are projecting your masculine analysis on women and you are not LISTENING to the essence of what they are saying. 
Maybe if you start listening and accepting what they say regardless of how illogical it is to you, you may begin to have positive relationships and learn to internalise that women need different things to men in order to be happy .
It doesn't make sense to say to a woman "no, you are wrong, you don't choose partners because of good chemistry, humour, good character etc, I know better! It's money, good looks and status that you want."
This is how men compete with each other, not how women choose partners. You are not getting the female psyche at all.
Maybe if you start listening and accepting what they say regardless of how illogical it is to you, you may begin to have positive relationships and learn to internalise that women need different things to men in order to be happy .
It doesn't make sense to say to a woman "no, you are wrong, you don't choose partners because of good chemistry, humour, good character etc, I know better! It's money, good looks and status that you want."
This is how men compete with each other, not how women choose partners. You are not getting the female psyche at all.
THIS!
Sure, there are women who want a guy who has it all (I think they are the exception rather than the rule), but there are lots of women out there who don’t. We’re all different and want different things.
With that being said, a positive attitude and the desire to improve one’s self (in any area) are very attractive qualities, to me, in a partner.
I’ve dated people who had all of the “disadvantages” that Marknis does.
I’m sure that some guy will respond and tell me how I’m wrong and that it’s not possible, though.
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19 Jun 2019, 10:22 am
Fnord wrote:
Teach51 wrote:
... It doesn't make sense to say to a woman "... It's money, good looks and status that you want." ...
How many women do you personally know who have married a homeless man from off the street?Just asking.
That's a little extreme Fnordi
A man with a good steady job will do for most women.Money was never an issue for me chosing a partner as long as he had a solid work ethic, that was sufficient. Gold diggers and social climbers are something else entirely of course and they probably don't make the most compassionate wives.
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19 Jun 2019, 10:37 am
Twilightprincess wrote:
Lots of people who are on SSI (not even SSDI) who are raking in $800 a month are in relationships.
These people often become homeless for a time because they don’t submit necessary paperwork and lose their benefits for a time.
These people often become homeless for a time because they don’t submit necessary paperwork and lose their benefits for a time.
These things only exist in the First/2nd World
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