12 Nov 2017, 7:04 pm
XFilesGeek wrote:
sly279 wrote:
NorthWind wrote:
sly279 wrote:
NorthWind wrote:
sly279 wrote:
My optimism died after 20 years of failure and rejection. Have you been ejected by thousands of women? Told your ugly by hundreds of women? I have. I’d like to see anyone keep optimistic after that.
Where do women tell you you're ugly? In what kind of situation did they do so? Did they outright say so, or is that your interpretation of their reaction or something else they said that might imply you're ugly?
Aside from school kids I do not see many people calling each other ugly. Sure some people are very rude about rejecting someone but, assuming that the majority of those thousands of women rejecting you were on dating sites and not in real life, were those calling you ugly also from dating sites? Did they bother to reply to you just to tell you they don't want to date you because they think you're ugly?
You don't look unusual therefore I can't imagine it's random strangers walking up to you just to insult you, unless maybe on rare occasion some teen but that happens to most.
Unattractive is ugly. Just more fancy way of saying it.
Women tell me I’m unattractive all the time,. I message them and they like sorry you’re not attractive.
Some have plain said I’m ugly.
Unattractive may be similar to but not the same as ugly. It doesn't need to refer to looks and it's more subjective. Like, I'm usually not attracted to men a lot older than myself, but that doesn't mean I think they're all ugly. Obviously most of them look average. The reason why I'm not attracted to them is because I don't feel particularly mature (not even for my age, let alone compared to someone 15 or more years older than me) Also obviously, I shouldn't tell them they're unattractive because they won't know the reason why I'm not attracted to them is very subjective.
Obviously most of these women won't have felt not attracted to you because of age but maybe at least some of them meant it in a very subjective way due to some other subjective criterion and don't think you're ugly and most definitely not hideous. In some cases the wording might just have been clumsy rather than them being mean spirited and thinking in very negative ways about you.
The ones who directly called you ugly likely were just jerks whom the internet enables to act that way because on the internet there are usually no consequences to being a jerk. You tried with a lot of people. Naturally you also met some jerks. Some of them might be arrogant and think they're a lot better looking than they actually are.
Of course that doesn't change your reality of being single.
Honestly, if you live in an area with high obesity rates you're probably average looking (some men thinner than you, some fatter and an average face for someone your built). If you live in an area where almost all men are slim then your looks would be below average right now (or at least at the time you shared those photos) but they may go to average if you lose a little more weight.
When people reject me they meant my looks. They liked my personality. They usual like you’re a great guy and we have a lot in common but sorry I don’t find you physically attractive or I find you unattractive.
And reddit am I ugly everyone said yes and said I’m like 1/2 out of 10.
Which makes sense why I get rejected and ignored so much on dating where physical looks is the first gate to dating. If they don’t like you looks they won’t talk to you.
Never said mean spirited, in fact to most people saying they find you unattractive is the nice way of letting down someone you find ugly. I don’t blame or hat them as much they can’t change they find me ugly and I wouldn’t kiss or be with someone I find ugly. It just sucks that there isn’t any women who find me physically attractive or handsome.
I live in a college area with a high pop of youn thin hot women and men. There’s a lot of fat older men40+. But my age range is mostly thin and hot. They come from all over the world to attend the university. Interesting fat women don’t seem to come from Japan, Europe, Canada, etc to attend college half way around the world. I dont know why do fat women not go to college further away or do those other places have few fat people?
Also bunch of women from other states.
Local college I went too had probly 50/50 except dentist and nursing where they were all smoking hot women 0.o(side note had to put down our family dog Tuesday:(. The two nurses were really pretty) the university on the other hand is 90% thin attractive people. And has 60% women/40% men. Do attractive people get special treatment for grants and loans to expensive colleges? I bet they do get preference. The ones going to the community college get federal grants anyone can get but that won’t cover the 10,000-18,000 a term for the university. Community college is 3,000 a term.
I dont know I’m just making guess as to why the pop of the university is as such.
Clearly I don’t stand a chance with hot women or any women going to either college so it’s irrelevant, sadly du to public funding nearly every woman here goes to college and it’ll get worse as the state is planning to pay for 2 years of college for every ne graduating high schoolers, so in the future every single woman will go to college and thus be too good for me
Judging by your pictures, you remind me a lot of the guys I saw when I was stationed in Germany. The facial structure is quite similar.
If you ever get a chance to try international dating, I'd suggest taking it.
How would that work? We’d never be able to meet.
12 Nov 2017, 7:58 pm
sly279 wrote:
XFilesGeek wrote:
sly279 wrote:
NorthWind wrote:
sly279 wrote:
NorthWind wrote:
sly279 wrote:
My optimism died after 20 years of failure and rejection. Have you been ejected by thousands of women? Told your ugly by hundreds of women? I have. I’d like to see anyone keep optimistic after that.
Where do women tell you you're ugly? In what kind of situation did they do so? Did they outright say so, or is that your interpretation of their reaction or something else they said that might imply you're ugly?
Aside from school kids I do not see many people calling each other ugly. Sure some people are very rude about rejecting someone but, assuming that the majority of those thousands of women rejecting you were on dating sites and not in real life, were those calling you ugly also from dating sites? Did they bother to reply to you just to tell you they don't want to date you because they think you're ugly?
You don't look unusual therefore I can't imagine it's random strangers walking up to you just to insult you, unless maybe on rare occasion some teen but that happens to most.
Unattractive is ugly. Just more fancy way of saying it.
Women tell me I’m unattractive all the time,. I message them and they like sorry you’re not attractive.
Some have plain said I’m ugly.
Unattractive may be similar to but not the same as ugly. It doesn't need to refer to looks and it's more subjective. Like, I'm usually not attracted to men a lot older than myself, but that doesn't mean I think they're all ugly. Obviously most of them look average. The reason why I'm not attracted to them is because I don't feel particularly mature (not even for my age, let alone compared to someone 15 or more years older than me) Also obviously, I shouldn't tell them they're unattractive because they won't know the reason why I'm not attracted to them is very subjective.
Obviously most of these women won't have felt not attracted to you because of age but maybe at least some of them meant it in a very subjective way due to some other subjective criterion and don't think you're ugly and most definitely not hideous. In some cases the wording might just have been clumsy rather than them being mean spirited and thinking in very negative ways about you.
The ones who directly called you ugly likely were just jerks whom the internet enables to act that way because on the internet there are usually no consequences to being a jerk. You tried with a lot of people. Naturally you also met some jerks. Some of them might be arrogant and think they're a lot better looking than they actually are.
Of course that doesn't change your reality of being single.
Honestly, if you live in an area with high obesity rates you're probably average looking (some men thinner than you, some fatter and an average face for someone your built). If you live in an area where almost all men are slim then your looks would be below average right now (or at least at the time you shared those photos) but they may go to average if you lose a little more weight.
When people reject me they meant my looks. They liked my personality. They usual like you’re a great guy and we have a lot in common but sorry I don’t find you physically attractive or I find you unattractive.
And reddit am I ugly everyone said yes and said I’m like 1/2 out of 10.
Which makes sense why I get rejected and ignored so much on dating where physical looks is the first gate to dating. If they don’t like you looks they won’t talk to you.
Never said mean spirited, in fact to most people saying they find you unattractive is the nice way of letting down someone you find ugly. I don’t blame or hat them as much they can’t change they find me ugly and I wouldn’t kiss or be with someone I find ugly. It just sucks that there isn’t any women who find me physically attractive or handsome.
I live in a college area with a high pop of youn thin hot women and men. There’s a lot of fat older men40+. But my age range is mostly thin and hot. They come from all over the world to attend the university. Interesting fat women don’t seem to come from Japan, Europe, Canada, etc to attend college half way around the world. I dont know why do fat women not go to college further away or do those other places have few fat people?
Also bunch of women from other states.
Local college I went too had probly 50/50 except dentist and nursing where they were all smoking hot women 0.o(side note had to put down our family dog Tuesday:(. The two nurses were really pretty) the university on the other hand is 90% thin attractive people. And has 60% women/40% men. Do attractive people get special treatment for grants and loans to expensive colleges? I bet they do get preference. The ones going to the community college get federal grants anyone can get but that won’t cover the 10,000-18,000 a term for the university. Community college is 3,000 a term.
I dont know I’m just making guess as to why the pop of the university is as such.
Clearly I don’t stand a chance with hot women or any women going to either college so it’s irrelevant, sadly du to public funding nearly every woman here goes to college and it’ll get worse as the state is planning to pay for 2 years of college for every ne graduating high schoolers, so in the future every single woman will go to college and thus be too good for me
Judging by your pictures, you remind me a lot of the guys I saw when I was stationed in Germany. The facial structure is quite similar.
If you ever get a chance to try international dating, I'd suggest taking it.
How would that work? We’d never be able to meet.
I don't know.
But you're a great guy, Sly I'm offering suggestions.
You're not ugly, and you deserve a good woman. I'd date you if I wasn't asexual. So, I'm just trying to help.
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Outrider wrote:
I find it absolutely unbelievable people are so shallow to consider "poor posture" a deal breaker.
I'd date a f*ckin hunchback if she took care of her health and looks and we had compatible personalities.
Sometimes when I'm very tired or dehydrated I probably walk with poor posture, I guess people are so shallow being tired is literally the difference between someone being attracted to you or not.
That's right, a bad night of sleep is actually a deal breaker in 2017.
We're only human, people!
I'd date a f*ckin hunchback if she took care of her health and looks and we had compatible personalities.
Sometimes when I'm very tired or dehydrated I probably walk with poor posture, I guess people are so shallow being tired is literally the difference between someone being attracted to you or not.
That's right, a bad night of sleep is actually a deal breaker in 2017.
We're only human, people!
I find poor posture unattractive, I find a lot of things unattractive, but lots of things are unattractive with out being deal breakers. Very often when I meet guys (maybe at work) I think they're unattractive but after a couple of months I find them attractive this is because I know them better. If you don't know someone at all there is only looks ect to go on so your assessment is going to be shallow.
This is why I don't do internet dating, I mean it's not like I can read anything in their face
In the books by C J Sansom the hero is a hunchback, he's attractive as a character because of the way he deals with the prejudice he faces.
