How To Get A Girlfriend If You're An Autistic Man

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Then there's plenty of miscommmunication in this thread, I believe.

AFAIR, I suggested that if someone does not like gyms for any reason, there are alternatives.

I echo what Issy said.

I appreciate every single one of your posts in here.

You made an ignorant comment.

You, magz, in particular brought up the time cost thing:



You equated the advice of working out (which both of us agree that it shouldn't be excessively lengthy) = spending too much time, which is something that none of us advised. Your post obviously assumes that the activity he suggested (hitting the gym) consumes too much time of the 24 hours a day and causing negating other areas, which shouldn't be the case at all. No one said that autistics should spend too much time in gym while negating/neglecting other areas.

"However, dating a less attractive woman who is plain, overweight, or nerdy, may be a better fit for many men on the spectrum. "

I have different problems with this.Basicly you say to settle with women who are worse than you just because of autism.
I would never settle for a woman below.I would rather be alone for years and search for better options instead.
These girls are most of the time are far below avarage.Why would an avarage looking autistic person settle for them?
You can also improve yourself in the meantime.

Thank you, Isabella and Where_am_I. It is appreciated.

I'm not attracted to plain personalities. This I've learned and confirmed with experience.

@The_Face_of_Boo
Okay, then I clarify what I had in mind:
There's only 24 hours a day so you need to prioritize. Obsessing about looks while neglecting human contact and mental health tends to lead nowhere.

Also, this post had two paragraphs. I think the second one fits exactly within the concept of "adding some exercise to daily routine".

I see you are new here.

Never ever on this site claim superficial characteristics can make one human being "worse" than other.

Are we clear?

Any kind of obsession is bad and usually it's a part of a bigger problem, but yet I don't think Nade or anyone giving this advice said one should obssess about anything (Too much assumptions).

I do agree with the the other paragraph.

So a nice guy is who can be exploited easily thats what a nice guy should be isnt it?

Nice Guy™ is something very different from a genuinely nice guy.

Assertiveness is welcome in actual nice guys (and nice girls).

Being simultanously exploited and entitled is the trademark of Nice Guy™.

Nope. There are limits to what someone can do socially if they're autisitc, everything else I dislike if no effort is made.

Poor social skills are part of the autism diagnosis. Poor social development, communication problems, several terms are used to describe the main trait of autism but at the end of the day, it's just poorly developed social skills which can't be improved on to the extent of an NT. It's just what autism entails.

That being said, personal looks are not part of diagnosis, having a driving licence also isn't along with to a modest extent having a job.

It's reasonable to make an effort on those seeing an autistic has control over them. It also adds to personality if someone has more going on in their life than just sitting at home all day eating like many autistics fall into the trap of.

I know several autistic people with whom I can have fun.
That's the social skill most important for early dating and I don't think autism diagnosis sets a hard limit on it.
Assertiveness is a social skill important in more advanced stages - and this, too, can be trained.

That's a little too close to home. Then again, I don't think a man has to be nice to be exploited by a woman.