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I know an excellent juke joint outside Clarksdale, MS. Morgan Freeman has an excellent restaurant in the area as well.

I like juke joints. I wish I would have went to the one which Harpo built in "The Color Purple." I like that bluesy, rhythmy-type music! And watching the gramophone spin......

When I think of a good muscular physique, I think of Hugh Jackman in X-men, Mark Wahlberg(whom always looks the same, no shrinking and bulking for roles), AJ Styles(pro-wrestler), Stephen Amell(Arrow tv series), Steve Reeves and Jean Claude Van Damm. I think a physique like that can be obtained naturally with the right genetics, although maybe not with as low a body fat as some of them. It's obvious Hugh takes care, but you can still get that size naturally, just not as lean.

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Been here. You'd like it!

Yep....I would like to drive from Memphis to Clarksdale, and on to Biloxi some day.

My first encounter with the Southern culture was the movie called "Sounder," which I saw when I was about 11. It had great blues music in it! And it preached excellent values. I knew that kid was going somewhere in life!

I'm thinking of possibly moving back to somewhere in the southeast when I retire, but that won't be for at least 5 years. I'll be practically prehistoric by then.

Maybe we can all have a juke joint get-together, even if I will be too old to even tap my toes anymore.

I think I'd really enjoy that!! !! !

Some of these guys have to build big sheds because they're lacking in the tools department.

My tools are sharpened and finely honed.....ready to tackle anything!

I never said it had to be *big* shed - a little shed is all that's necessary. Don't want to give your tools too much room to rattle around and possibly get damaged.

And most of the guys are totally right, Eureka, I've never received a message, and rarely a reply before my looks change. The okcupid clearly showed how women only find 20% of guys on okc as above average, I guess I was somewhere at the end of the scale of those 20%.

To be honest, not all of these has initiated contact with me, for most of the Arabs it was me, some messaged me because I've viewed their profile, some I've messaged them first because I found something interesting in their profile, some because I rated/liked their profile...etc. Some of them visited Lebanon and some were planning to visit Lebanon (and most ended cancelling because there's always something bad happening here every while, car bombings, assassinations, ISIS...etc).

You might think that those women are desperate or look too unattractive or that they're the slu*ty type with plastic surgeries and having pics with exposed clothes and doing duckfaces on their profiles, but they're totally the opposite of that.

Most of these women are physically and normally attractive, with very normal pics on their profiles, far from the typical attention-seekers, some are even like extremely attractive to the point that I've suspected they're fake until being proven wrong via skype or Line (and the reverse image tool on chrome is useful to detect fakes), and I was like always in my head "but why?? Why do they need this?", - for example one of them looks somehow like Jennifer Lawrence (even more attractive) with dark brown hair, another looks like a younger version of Enya.

They're far from hopeless, at least in the looks department, I am totally sure they don't have any lack of attention from men (and even sex for some), most of them are of the liberal to moderate type and single by choice more than anything.

It was a phenomenal thing that I kept wondering about, what makes it even more phenomenal for me: I don't get that kind of interest in real life, it's only happening online mostly - except with two Lebanese and one Egyptian flings that I've met later (but things started online with them too). I suspect that my short height (slightly below 5'4) is a big turn off for first impressions in real life, and I have a very good reason to believe that (personal experiences, objective observation, comments from women in real life regarding it) - it's something that can't be shown in pics or video, and I do look totally skinny in normal clothes - there may other things too like posture, quirkiness in social settings... those are things can't be much shown too, even in a cam-to-cam conversation.

The main reason why I've stopped online dating altogether (aside of the job crisis) and got bored of it is because I've realized that none of this attention/interest is real - no matter how hard I try to look or sound genuine, none of it is real.

I highly doubt (almost sure not) that any of those .... "fans" would have liked me or even notice my existence if they first saw me in real life and I even doubt that many of them would like me the same if they meet me for real.
Online dating (and all similar apps) lately was like a "Matrix" world to me figuratively speaking, it's far from reality, and I've decided to take the red pill even if that means I have to live a totally romance-less/sexless life, therefore disabling my okc and stopping activity on others.

boo, you've got this whole "what women want" theory built up in your head, and it's ... you know, it's like what I used to see my ex-bf do, the AS one. There was a great deal he didn't notice, but to generate a sort of worldmap, a view of the world and how things went, he'd collect a bunch of data points -- points that'd seem very odd and random, if you didn't know him, because they were all usually, one way or another, point-missing -- and come up with a weirdly thin explanatory story. And the view of the world that emerged was seriously truncated and off, which resulted in his bumping into metaphorical walls all the time in real life, all invisible to him till he walked straight into them, and becoming angry and paranoid because of his inability to manage.

We've been over and over this here. Short guys get dates. Fat guys get dates. Even unemployed guys get dates. Men without cars get dates. *Mentally ill* guys get dates. Lots of these people even marry and reproduce. These things are not the deciding factor.

One guy I almost married, and was with for 7 years, -- he was obsessed with the idea that short guys get the shaft. And they do. *From other guys* whose first question on meeting another guy is "can I take him". Most women don't give a s**t about height unless you're a circus dwarf. But this guy is 5'6" and thinks he's got a handicap. Same guy who's been with one girlfriend or another for...er...the last two decades? Usually longterm relationships? Oh, and he's an artist, doesn't make money, either.

Anyway. Eureka's correct, women surely do share the juicy details with each other, and we tend not to get embarrassed with our good friends and worry about issues of status. Boy toy? Do tell. Phone sex? Rilly, how'd you do it? Some of the descriptions are quite delicious. Tbh, as I've gotten older, I've found that *men* are pretty well unafraid to do tell-alls, too. At least to women they trust.

The only thing I can think of that's given me any pause about another woman -- apart from "she steals and lies and backstabs" -- is when an Orthodox woman nearly killed her infant through religious neglect, child had a heart defect but was swaddled all the time and the woman was so uneducated and ignorant that she didn't see the child was dying. The visiting nurse spotted it and whisked the baby off to the ICU. That made me extremely angry. But other women in the community have been able to overlook that much more easily.

By and large women are pretty nice to each other. The things we tend to judge have to do with breaking the nice/supportive/sisterhood code, not whom you're f*****g and how.

Well all beautiful women are different in their preferences, my current likes me lean but she doesn't mind either and would rather me focus on mental growth and knowledge over hitting the gym a lot so I train 3 times a week instead of 6 now. I think how you carry yourself and the image you have is far more powerful over big biceps.

Pffff T. I have never said short or fat can't get dates or married, but it's a turn off for a lot of women, a lot of them rejected or refused to dance because I am shorter than them;
and plenty of studies show that, are you saying I am liar? You are dismissing my personal exp.

Anyway you are focusing too much on the height part; my last post was more than that.

LOL, I wonder how many posts before lock.

Let's bet on a countdown.