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16 Jul 2015, 5:52 pm

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I envy the power women have in their youth, people will say it's not a competition, but yet at the same time, people say life is a competition, so sounds hypocritical.
Which competition are you referring to? The competition between the sexes? The competition between rival women? Or the competition between men to be seen with the hottest girl?
well it's often argued, debated that womens peak attractiveness years start earlier than mens do
In that case don't envy them. Their power is short lived. Your power will last much longer. At 27 a girls looks have faded, her best years are behind her. Your power is increasing. Your best years are still to come.
Not really. As you get older, the women you're getting are older too and college age girls don't like men in their thirties, so these 'best years' won't be spent with the girls he missed out on. OP will never have a cute girl. The most he can hope for is being a provider simp for a woman who didn't want him for anything else and didn't like him enough to give him her most attractive years, as evident by the fact that he's 27 and has never had a girlfriend.
OK, now I'm sad. The OP will never have a cute 20 year old and neither will I. I'll never have a girl under 25. I'll spend thousands of dollars to provide for some thirtyager woman who gave her early 20s to some other guy for much less money. So life is all down hill after 25, right?

Yes and I commend you for such a quick turnaround. Never before have I seen a man change his view so quickly when confronted with logic that contradicts it. Maybe this forum is different or something.


so suicide?



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16 Jul 2015, 6:42 pm

sly279 wrote:
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RetroGamer87 wrote:
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WantToHaveALife wrote:
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I envy the power women have in their youth, people will say it's not a competition, but yet at the same time, people say life is a competition, so sounds hypocritical.
Which competition are you referring to? The competition between the sexes? The competition between rival women? Or the competition between men to be seen with the hottest girl?
well it's often argued, debated that womens peak attractiveness years start earlier than mens do
In that case don't envy them. Their power is short lived. Your power will last much longer. At 27 a girls looks have faded, her best years are behind her. Your power is increasing. Your best years are still to come.
Not really. As you get older, the women you're getting are older too and college age girls don't like men in their thirties, so these 'best years' won't be spent with the girls he missed out on. OP will never have a cute girl. The most he can hope for is being a provider simp for a woman who didn't want him for anything else and didn't like him enough to give him her most attractive years, as evident by the fact that he's 27 and has never had a girlfriend.
OK, now I'm sad. The OP will never have a cute 20 year old and neither will I. I'll never have a girl under 25. I'll spend thousands of dollars to provide for some thirtyager woman who gave her early 20s to some other guy for much less money. So life is all down hill after 25, right?

Yes and I commend you for such a quick turnaround. Never before have I seen a man change his view so quickly when confronted with logic that contradicts it. Maybe this forum is different or something.


so suicide?

Suicide goes against your instinct for survival. You probably won't do it even if it's the best option.



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16 Jul 2015, 7:22 pm

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^ I guess that makes two of us.


that's why it often makes me more bitter, resentful, frustrated, whenever people say "it's never too late, better late than never, you have plenty of time, it's not a race or competition"

I got this quote regarding nice-guys and bad-boys, because we all know that nice-guys fail with women, finish last with women, here is the quote I got from an Australian Dating Coach/Guru for men:

"Some nice guys have the mistaken belief that a woman will go through a “bad boy phase” and then eventually realize that she wants a nice guy who treats her like a princess. This belief stems from seeing very confident, assertive women in their 30s and 40s eventually settling down with a nice guy. Why does that happen? Simple. Women lose their attractiveness as they age. When a woman hits 30 years of age, she rapidly begins to lose value on the mating market. She eventually gets to the point where she has to accept whatever she can get because all the confident guys are either committed or still sleeping with women in their 20s."



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16 Jul 2015, 7:24 pm

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16 Jul 2015, 8:27 pm

WantToHaveALife wrote:
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^ I guess that makes two of us.


that's why it often makes me more bitter, resentful, frustrated, whenever people say "it's never too late, better late than never, you have plenty of time, it's not a race or competition"

I got this quote regarding nice-guys and bad-boys, because we all know that nice-guys fail with women, finish last with women, here is the quote I got from an Australian Dating Coach/Guru for men:

"Some nice guys have the mistaken belief that a woman will go through a “bad boy phase” and then eventually realize that she wants a nice guy who treats her like a princess. This belief stems from seeing very confident, assertive women in their 30s and 40s eventually settling down with a nice guy. Why does that happen? Simple. Women lose their attractiveness as they age. When a woman hits 30 years of age, she rapidly begins to lose value on the mating market. She eventually gets to the point where she has to accept whatever she can get because all the confident guys are either committed or still sleeping with women in their 20s."


I am sincerely sorry if I came across as insensitive here.


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16 Jul 2015, 9:01 pm

I had a few few fiends in college that never were really girl friends, but were friends. I'm 53 and have never had a deep relationship. I don't feel it is too late. It is harder to find significant numbers of people to approach at a later age because not as many in my age group are single. Find a group of club with a similar interest. You'll meet people of both sexes and find friends. That gives you more access to finding a single girl or guy.


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16 Jul 2015, 9:09 pm

A few fiends? :twisted:


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16 Jul 2015, 10:40 pm

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I had a few few fiends in college that never were really girl friends, but were friends. I'm 53 and have never had a deep relationship. I don't feel it is too late. It is harder to find significant numbers of people to approach at a later age because not as many in my age group are single. Find a group of club with a similar interest. You'll meet people of both sexes and find friends. That gives you more access to finding a single girl or guy.


why does it have to be so damn hard to stop feeling bitter and resentful, wish there was a way to remove the bitterness and resentment with ease. Maybe I should go visit a hooker or an escort to get some sexual frustration off of my mind.



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16 Jul 2015, 11:03 pm

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I'm 36 and have never dated anyone or had any kind of romantic relationship. I just don't have any realistic ways (for me) to make it happen. I don't work with any women and there are no single women in my small social circle. My lifestyle basically comprises going to work and coming home. I know I'm not going to meet any single women at work or home so that pretty much nixes that posibility. People tell me that could change if I just get "out there" but apparently that's some mythical place and I've never been able to find "out there". Must be up there near Narnia or something. I've tried online dating and that has never worked for me. I've never received a single response from a woman I've emailed. So, barring some weird situation where a woman I find somewhat attractive who happens to have weird interests like I do is driving by my house, has a flat tire and has to come and knock on my door for help, I just don't see it happening for me.


The UPS Lady! How about that? Oh wait, they're usually guys aren't they? Hmm. I'm banking on the UPS guy myself. Problem is Amazon is now sending most of my packages through the postal service! My postal guy is already married so that won't help. Darn. Well, back to the drawing board.


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16 Jul 2015, 11:26 pm

I still had some hope left of finding my one special Hunny, but after reading all of these posts (and you guys aren't even that old), I think it's time to cash it all in and get me one of these:

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17 Jul 2015, 12:05 am

I am actually quite alright with having a tailor-maid android-partner or cyborg-partner myself.

nurseangela wrote:
I still had some hope left of finding my one special Hunny, but after reading all of these posts (and you guys aren't even that old), I think it's time to cash it all in and get me one of these:

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I actually LOVE this idea, absolutely NO drama from such a lady, and after I grow my hair out to ankle-length, I will eventually dye it blonde, have it cut off & preseved into a cos-play wig, then oh baby... putting that onto my future robot-wife before taking her to bed with me & making hot & erotic intimate-videos together... :heart:


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17 Jul 2015, 12:29 am

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I am actually quite alright with having a tailor-maid android-partner or cyborg-partner myself.
nurseangela wrote:
I still had some hope left of finding my one special Hunny, but after reading all of these posts (and you guys aren't even that old), I think it's time to cash it all in and get me one of these:

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I actually LOVE this idea, absolutely NO drama from such a lady, and after I grow my hair out to ankle-length, I will eventually dye it blonde, have it cut off & preseved into a cos-play wig, then oh baby... putting that onto my future robot-wife before taking her to bed with me & making hot & erotic intimate-videos together... :heart:


Good luck with that. What is she saying, btw? You may want some peace and quiet sometime away from her constant "small talk" (cause I know Aspies just hate the "S" word) so I'd find out where her battery pack is after she arrives in the mail. Hopefully there aren't alot of parts that you have to put together and screw. :roll:


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17 Jul 2015, 12:55 am

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it's the constant pain, depression of not having had a girlfriend earlier in my life will forever stick with me, even if I ever do get a girlfriend, the bitterness, resentment, pain, frustration over how it took so damn long to finally get one will still be inside of me, even if I ever do get a girlfriend, i'll probably be saying to her "i wish I met you 5, 10, or 20 years ago", depending on when if I ever get one.

That's ok. For most of guys on this forum eventually this pain and depression of not having had a girlfriend earlier will be replaced with pain and depresion of not having a girlfriend at all. :D



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17 Jul 2015, 1:08 am

WantToHaveALife wrote:
it's the constant pain, depression of not having had a girlfriend earlier in my life will forever stick with me, even if I ever do get a girlfriend, the bitterness, resentment, pain, frustration over how it took so damn long to finally get one will still be inside of me, even if I ever do get a girlfriend, i'll probably be saying to her "i wish I met you 5, 10, or 20 years ago", depending on when if I ever get one.

She won't mind hearing that, as long as you don't follow it up with "because I wish I had a girlfriend all that time". People often say to their partners "I wish I met you earlier" but it usually means "because you are so awesome that I would like to have spent more time with you". The focus should be on finding the right person for you, not just finding a person. If you just want a girlfriend (whoever will have you), rather than wanting a partnership with someone you adore, it will often show, and be an unattractive trait. I don't have any words of wisdom about how to remove the bitterness and resentment but yes, it's important that you do. Perhaps start a new topic about how to do that and someone might have some useful advice?



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17 Jul 2015, 1:45 am

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it's the constant pain, depression of not having had a girlfriend earlier in my life will forever stick with me, even if I ever do get a girlfriend, the bitterness, resentment, pain, frustration over how it took so damn long to finally get one will still be inside of me, even if I ever do get a girlfriend, i'll probably be saying to her "i wish I met you 5, 10, or 20 years ago", depending on when if I ever get one.

She won't mind hearing that, as long as you don't follow it up with "because I wish I had a girlfriend all that time". People often say to their partners "I wish I met you earlier" but it usually means "because you are so awesome that I would like to have spent more time with you". The focus should be on finding the right person for you, not just finding a person. If you just want a girlfriend (whoever will have you), rather than wanting a partnership with someone you adore, it will often show, and be an unattractive trait. I don't have any words of wisdom about how to remove the bitterness and resentment but yes, it's important that you do. Perhaps start a new topic about how to do that and someone might have some useful advice?

Infact he has already pointed out that he just wants a girlfriend so that he can make experiences and he refuses to be serious with her. He also said that he doesn't wanna settle down with any until he has experienced a few of them.
But then he complains that woman are superficial. :roll:



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17 Jul 2015, 1:59 am

Holy f**k this thread is finally gone...yay it was such a pool of negativity so good its gone.


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