any women here who have never dated, never had a boyfriend?

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If only it was that simple but unfortunately things are not as I imagined when I started my studies because despite the laws considering seducing games at work as sexual harassement it is still here and I am supposed to work on artificial intelligence research project so it is sometimes even hard to remember that humains have more than one gender because this topic is for now not very attractive to female so this is a dilemma because this is what I love so if I want to work on this I will have to handle it.

But anyways I think we all have unfair problem and I saw how hard it is for male autist so I should not be the one complaining so to come back to the main topic it is not that difficult to find female autist in my case here is, as an example, what you can read on wikipedia:

"Certaines femmes Asperger se désintéressent totalement de l'amour et de la vie de couple. Bien qu'il n'existe pas d'étude fiable à ce sujet.."

And my translation

Some female Asperger have no interest in love nor couple life. Even if there is no reliable study on this point

And this was confirmed by the two specialists who evaluated me (they wrote recognized french book about Asperger) so in fact this is pretty common

I would not say that it is very tough because this is not like there were intolerant at all or something. The main difference between France and what I would call "progressive society" like you have in San Francisco for example is that every difference is taken seriously and people who share those difference will create community like this website and make themselves been heard. For example my "other community", asexual they knows they exist and even if they are not a lot they created signs, flags, they go to the gay pride and everything and because people are "progressive active" they more or less accepted them and made them a place in a society. Everyone can be whatever it wants and have its place. In France people do not think this way they are more retained they will wait for the recognize of the science, the media, the law and the social opignon so as I said no one believe I am asexual because it is not "recognized" in France in a way that no one spoke about it no article on newspaper or anything. I know I am not explaining well but it is complicated but to make it simple if you are something "validated as existant in the public opignon" like gay or boudist for example people will be very tolerant in a way they will not event mention you as gay or boudist they will not care this is your personal matter no problem and everything (for example from what I can see in te USA people especially in media they tell te public if they are gay and maybe speak about it in France it is not the case if they are asked they will tell but if not they will not hide their boyfriend but will not show the hole country) but if you tell everyone you are part of something which has not already been approved by the opignon the media and everything people will think you are crazy and will not believe you just like they do with my asexuality which is for them something I invented because I would be afraid of sex.
Hope it is clear but to the main idea is American are hot blood they will accept fast and claim it and French are cold blood they will be suspicious but when they finally accept it they will not look at you as different and this explains why we are always late with social progress

Oui exactement bon évidemment ici c'est simplement une phrase simple mais lorsque je me suis faite tester (une première fois chez un psychothérapeute puis à l'hôpital comme le veux la procédure pour adulte en France) quand j'ai dit que je préférais vivre seule et ne rien experimenter cela a amené beaucoup de questions de mes interlocuteurs et je ne pense pas que ca soit un hasard

Not as good as I want but I am still a student so I have to take what they asked me for example the last one I worked on was a program determining precisely the percentage of each minerals on geological picture for a geological laboratory in Argentina. They asked me this because one of my best ability is working with neuronal networks and they thought it will be a good approach for this project which was in stand by for a long time but finally I did not even used it I found it easier to use a kind of 2D graph and treat pixel as an amount of data from which I used statistic-selecting algorithm to have just the info allowing me to make the good transition in my graph so finally it was not that cool sorry to disappoint you and in addition I could not even make the hole thing learning minerals by itself because they did not gave me enough time... But it was my first official project and they agree to let me work alone and the results were beyond all my hopes so even if it is what I am hoping to do all my life I really enjoyed.
I also did very little things like a program able to understand a very very simple text and answer basic question but this was for students when I worked for one of my teacher who asked me to be creative and find an amusing way to use mind maps.
Sorry I cannot enter in the details (plus I think my contracts forbid me to do so) but this is the kind of things you can do when you are only undergraduate

Wow! I'm impressed. Just think what you'll be able to do when you're a grad student.

Well it may be possible that the world ends first because I am only in the middle since I am doing two degrees at the same time (one engineer in electronic-computing science and a master in algorithm/ai) I got 6 years to do plus at least (depending of the money you get) 3 year of doctorate but with the world financial problems it is more like 4 or 5 currently and after that a lot of researchers have to do like 3 to 5 years of post doctorate which is just like being a doctorate student so the path is very very long and I only did 4.5 years so it is not for tomorrow

Wow! You're a genius!! !

Well if only it could be true but according to my parents I am more a girl taking all their money to have fun doing useless things on a computer so I guess they have another perception plus you have no real proof showing that what I did is that hard so trust me this is not the serious ai game just now because if we forget about money ai is very popular and a lot of people want to be part of it and there is a lot of real genius I will have to deal with. But at least it is stimulating I wish everyone could enjoy their job as I do

Ok lol. Well, your IT skills are far in advance of mine and one day you may be getting paid for your work. In the meantime, you're lucky to have parents are willing and able to fund your interests.

I am not sure it is really their will but whatever for sure I am lucky it is very hard to go through research path you need to pay years after years and international sometimes it is very hard for someone without a strong financial support to complete all this years and we have to live with almost anything since it is not my money I cannot afford buying things like videogames and in addition we cannot count on the states to pay the computers, the servers I need so my teenage room is now full of very old computers used as ftp server which I make my real pc believe they are ssd on which I installed lost of my programs because visual studio takes everything from my poor little pc. This is not good we cannot work with that each time there is no internet connection I cannot use my softwares and in some country they even have to pay licenses for things like visual studio and after all of this if you decide not to sell your soul to devil and work in public university you are well paid of course comparing to the global population but less than an ingeneer so I am not complaining for myself I do not need much but I cannot forget that I am probably taking the place of someone more skilled but who cannot afford this kind of life and it is not so fair

Your resourcefulness and capacity for self-sacrifice are remarkable. Why would your internet connection go down? Are you sure you wouldn't prefer to work for a corporation as a software engineer and get a higher salary?

The problem is my house is quite old and there is a lot of iron in here so it is impossible to make a good connection between the fiber and the server room under the roof (4th floor) so sometimes it crash at a critical moment.

The problem with big companies is ethical I think ai is the most powerful today's weapon at least in an economical point of view and the way those companies use it is terrible they steal money on financial market or track people to sell personal data. This is the only reason they want ai so badly because collecting data is very easy especially if your name is google facebook or amazon for example but this worth nothing if you cannot interpret them because they will be bought to create needs for people. For now we use analytic algorithms like statistic analyse genetic algorithm and some others coming from maths but nothing can understand better humain brain than a copy, faster (there is billions of billions) and cheaper. To me this is very agressive and I do not see the progress here. I love ai and my dream is trying to have an artificial brain capable of thinking of subjective things like beauty or humor. I find it amazing to try that is why I am here doing this and not to steal the placement some poor people made with their life money save or manipulate them to force them to buy a chimical shaving cream or an awful plastic donut.

I know I sound like a miss universe but what they call ai algo is nothing more than a thief to me so I do not want to have anything to do with this I prefer staying poor hoping that some day people will realize the need of an independant research and finance a little more.

The world is bad enough I will not make it worst