05 Apr 2019, 1:21 pm
Yeah, it seems only fair to everyone that I should be addressing our miscommunications.
I'm still totally unclear on how to do this. 
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05 Apr 2019, 3:04 pm
05 Apr 2019, 4:46 pm
Well my focus is towards some better ways of introducing the subject of neurological troubles in a direct conversation. I want to be more honest & candid about our differences so we can find more common ground, but I need help regarding how to start this exchange.
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05 Apr 2019, 11:22 pm
It's another Friday night doing nothing though. I did at least get some usable code figured out. 
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05 Apr 2019, 11:41 pm
05 Apr 2019, 11:48 pm
I'm well aware this kind of thing takes a lot of time, partly because I'm guilty of the above but mostly because the preconditions of being a savant hacker with almost no social life. Considering my isolated background, my social mistakes at least make a decent amount of sense with any context whatsoever.
I guess I'm trying to start by addressing our shared mistakes, as it were. 
Everyone can enjoy reminiscent talks of our most entertaining bad decisions.
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"Standing on a well-chilled cinder, we see the fading of the suns, and try to recall the vanished brilliance of the origin of the worlds."
-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
05 Apr 2019, 11:49 pm
05 Apr 2019, 11:54 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
Alita wrote:
cberg wrote:
Part of all these technical disciplines for me is expecting myself to absorb all the necessary info before I even realize I'm done studying. I'm trying to avoid applying my absurd standards to loved ones.
That's an issue for me too. Then I realised our subconscious mind has far more power to absorb info than we give it credit for. Now I look at 'cramming' in a totally different way.
You naughty...
As you can all see, this is a very iterative process.
These aren't even the posts I was thinking of, they're just relevant. Whomever said I get distracted expecting my love life to make sense was spot on.
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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
06 Apr 2019, 12:03 am
cberg wrote:
I'm well aware this kind of thing takes a lot of time, partly because I'm guilty of the above but mostly because the preconditions of being a savant hacker with almost no social life. Considering my isolated background, my social mistakes at least make a decent amount of sense with any context whatsoever.
I guess I'm trying to start by addressing our shared mistakes, as it were. Everyone can enjoy reminiscent talks of our most entertaining bad decisions.
I guess I'm trying to start by addressing our shared mistakes, as it were.
Everyone can enjoy reminiscent talks of our most entertaining bad decisions.I agree, and it definitely sounds like it shouldn't be problematic at all, at least to me. Again, I hope you have some luck!
I've personally had to learn the hard way to be a bit more careful, unfortunately. I've struggled a lot with finding balance in how I share things. One of the first I shared too little. And then I would share too much... and then last year I did both at the same time, somehow. I shared too much of the wrong things I guess? It's maddening. I don't think I'm going to have luck with anyone other than other Aspies who might be able to empathize with the struggle. But how in the hell do you find people that are just as reclusive as oneself?
06 Apr 2019, 12:13 am
They found me, insofar as I can remember them acquainting with me in between our intermittent partying. I gave up labeling people by neurology years ago, diagnosing me correctly would be near impossible & I don't really believe in a scientific definition of sanity anyway.
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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
06 Apr 2019, 12:19 am
06 Apr 2019, 12:57 am
I'm more comfortable with adrenaline buzzes than I am without. I think that's part of why I'm on here digging around for ways to relax everybody, inevitably beginning with myself.
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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
11 Apr 2019, 6:56 pm
Alterity wrote:
Cberg - are you looking to come up with ways to bring up the subject of ASD?
I think typically you can start most conversations by asking questions about the other person and their life. People do tend to like to talk about themselves.
I think typically you can start most conversations by asking questions about the other person and their life. People do tend to like to talk about themselves.
I need to get better at this, yes. I'm wondering if there are things about people in general that fit the patterns of ASD as well.
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-Georges Lemaitre
"I fly through hyperspace, in my green computer interface"
-Gem Tos
12 Apr 2019, 1:46 am
17 Apr 2019, 5:45 pm
Alterity wrote:
I'm not sure if there is a real good way to bring it up. It's a lot easier to have someone ask you questions about ASD than to just start talking about how you function. A person would think that if they would ask you about it, if they care for you in an attempt to understand better. But I suppose that other people would also struggle with not knowing how to bring the subject up and maybe worry about offending us.
I had someone comment to me once about how they always had to say hi to me first. First I apologized and told them it wasn't personal, but then I elaborated that it was of a part of my Aspergers. (since then I've tried to make an effort to say hi when I see them). That was an opportunity to talk about it that sort of just fell in my lap... But maybe there are other instances like that have gone by that haven't been noticed. So keeping yourself aware for something like that, you could make an easy transition into talking about it.
I don't know how to bring up a lot of things to people either x.x
I can't think of anything in general that would be like ASD that isn't vague, or situation oriented. At least not at the moment.
I had someone comment to me once about how they always had to say hi to me first. First I apologized and told them it wasn't personal, but then I elaborated that it was of a part of my Aspergers. (since then I've tried to make an effort to say hi when I see them). That was an opportunity to talk about it that sort of just fell in my lap... But maybe there are other instances like that have gone by that haven't been noticed. So keeping yourself aware for something like that, you could make an easy transition into talking about it.
I don't know how to bring up a lot of things to people either x.x
I can't think of anything in general that would be like ASD that isn't vague, or situation oriented. At least not at the moment.
So much of this is also dependent on culture. In our Western Anglo-Saxon world, small talk and constant smiling seem to be more necessary for the fabric of society to hold together. This is not the case in a lot of other places.
You ever watch those movies where one friend calls up another and begins their call with, "So I was doing [A, B, C] this morning and I thought to myself [X, Y, Z]. Like, what do you think of that?" And their friend just talks to them as if they were in the middle of a conversation. No hello, no what are you doing, just down-to-earth convo. I really don't understand why life can't be like that in reality. What's stopping us?
18 Apr 2019, 1:07 pm
