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Is there anything bad about marrying a woman from outside your culture? Maybe that's the idea!

Also, I'm not "open minded". I'm extremely picky. Just not in the areas you stress.

Well, I don't think Marknis is a math genius though, nor most of us, so your criteria doesn't really give much hope to anyone.

I can't speak for others but for me it opened a whole new world of girls

marknis makes it hard for himself by dreaming of finding a "nerdy" girl...those types either don't date or are taken...

Well, talk is easy really.

My ex of 2 years claimed to be 'ideal' in this manner, always claiming that she doesn't care about looks and status and , and that she loves me endlessly bla bla.

After she cheated on me though, I did find out the reasons she hated in me from chatting her via a fake account (using a random bodybuilding guy photo) on the dating app she frequents a lot , she complained about her ex (who's me) for the very things she claims she doesn't care about (My short height, she even complained about my narrow shoulders lol, and even about social status and transportation (I share car with siblings so not always car-mobile) ) - and she was willing to cheat her current bf with the fake me, eager to get his phone number! lol. She turned out to be a b***h tho, that's for sure.

So yeah, don't blame me if my stomach turns while reading such idealism!

I agree. My sister-in-law used to be similarly idealistic. Now she is married to a hardworking guy with just a regular job and I heard that they have to pick which utility bills to pay this month. Finances are easy when you are alone, but it is very different when you have a family with kids.

That must really hurt. Manipulating women exist and are difficult to identify. You deserve better.
It's very immature to discuss exes on social media and a trustworthy woman ( and there are trusworthy, mature women) would not do such a thing.

I know what it feels like to be betrayed, it's really hard to trust again.

In my country working class guys meet brides from the Philippines, Thailand and the Ukraine on- line. There are agencies that make a good living organising this. It is a marriage of convenience, the girls are unbelievably poor but often incredibly beautiful and some of the guys are physically disabled though not all. Sometimes it fails for various reasons, but often it works. Occasionally the girls are just looking for citizenship then disappear, sometimes the guys abuse them and treat them like sex objects. In the main though it works, and a respectful, loyal commitment develops. There was a documentary in my country that followed these couples for 5 years or so from the initial contact. These were all guys who couldn't find women in their own country. Asian girls who I know personally are really sweet, kind, loyal and hard-working, not as self-opinionated and demanding as myself at least

It is definitely an option worth exploring.

I know a few people who have done this. It’s a risk—but it can prove to be rewarding.

It is, inherently, an exploitative situation, though.

I am not an alpha male.....but I have succeeded in attracting women. And I feel like I still attract them, despite me being 58 years old. It’s because I have a Wolfman attitude.

I say....screw those who only like alpha males. They are missing out on the virtues of males who don’t feel the need to blatantly expose their alpha-ness.

To be fair, this is a misrepresentation of the men who look for wives from Asia. The big attraction is loyalty and family values, something sorely missing in our western materialist orientated culture.

^^ Not always , my cheating ex is Asian .

Yeah I guess that happens....

I agree with you on that point. Unfortunately this was not the big attraction for the men in the documentary. They wanted a good looking woman to look after them and a steady sex supply in the main.

I agree Cyber that these values of loyalty and family values are gradually disappearing,and seem to still prevail in Eastern cultures, the Western world is in a sad state indeed.

There’s still plenty of “family values” in the West—trust me.

There’s good and bad in “traditional family values.” Many times, there’s a “compulsory” aspect to them. Like you feel compelled in many ways.

If you’re an outsider within your family, “traditional family values” don’t feel so good.

Under decent conditions, though, family values promote stability and provide a bulwark against forces which bring many people down.

I still believe in “traditional family values”—but more as an ideal to shoot for, rather than as an actuality.

Yeah I agree with what's being said about family values...I'm sure people do follow these. But girls who have good family values end up dating guys in their church.