do you find autistic girls attractive?

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Well i don't mind them looking awkward, that's cute
I would rather date an AS girl than dating a NT because i can talk easly with guys and gals with AS >.>

Hey all. new here. just finding my way around. i WAS going to create a thread about something... but got sidetracked by this one. lol

on the subject of Aspie girls. Id say that i am ridiculously attracted to "them". perhaps its not specifically THEM (aspie) that attracts me but i guess they draw the same conclusions as i perhaps on looks, attitude etc. more like me, rather than less... or NOTHING like me.

always had a thing for geeky/dorky girls, glasses, wonky fashion, obvious signs of intelligence. I seem to have somehow gotten into romantic tangles with girls who are predominently... outsiders, academics, passionate about a subject, often writers (really... very very often they turn out to be writers.) i guess the "alternative" scene, art, music, fashion, culture etc... someone sensitive enough to enjoy the more unusual, and not give a damn about what anyone else thinks... is just so madly attractive.

i also have a theory that bi-polar has a big part in it too. i dont know why.

what else... er.... if its true that the geek will inherit the earth... can someone please move it up the schedule... i'm tired of waiting. or at least gimme a tv channel that doesnt reduce everything to mono-syllabic pap.

obviously.. girls are great (if you like that sort of thing). but id pick the "nerd" from a line-up of the worlds most "beautiful" people any day of week!! !! no contest!

glasses... my only weakspot

achilles heel? more like achilles entire body lol
ok now.. now im babbling.
R

oh, and by the way... i say say romantic tangles... but its probably fairer to say... i blunder into things causing chaos, mis-read everything, get freaked out, and mess it up completely. not a great track record. hoping to change that

not that i hope anyone has the same trouble as i do with ANY emotional/romantic pursuits, (i turn into a blithering idiot as soon as any of that comes my way.) but... itd be comforting to know someone else feels like a dumb-ass when i comes to this stuff.

(and others thoughts on the glasses thing too... unless im a freak in that respect. lol

Depends on if my ex-girlfriend really is autistic. I think so.

But, since she's the only girl I've been really attracted to at all in the past few years, it wouldn't even be that. I'm not attracted to autistic women (plural). I'm attracted to an autistic woman (singular... and assuming that she is autistic).

I have read through several comments on this thread and found it to be rather interesting.

I dont have autism, but my two little cousins and.. my girlfriend have it.

When i was first told she had autism i was a little skeptical, mainly because i have seen how some people are with it and i was not sure if i could deal with that sort of relationship. But, when i seen her all timid and shy.. VERY AWKWARD, walking down the path to the house with her mum, my mind changed.

She is adorable, has the most beautiful smile and .. well i just love her


One thing i like most about people with autism is, that they tend to be good at 1 thing. My girlfriend is AMAZING at drawing, she never fails to shock me with her drawings. She is overly obsessed with horses, but hey.. we all got obsessions.

That awkwardness you are all talking about.. i find that very attractive. It kind of keeps you on the edge as with my girlfriend i sometimes feel like she has gone off me.. but she hasn't .. its just the way she finds it hard to show her emotions. But when she does show them again, its like that very first time all over again. I love it..

She is very shy, took me about 3 weeks just to get a first kiss. 2 weeks just to get her to cuddle upto me on the couch.. a lot of peope cant wait in relationships, it is certainly the slowest i have had, but.. putting the waiting to one side.. she is worth every minute, every hour day and so on.

So if you want a true, slow in some cases but very fun relationship.. then dont let autism give you second thought EVER. You will most probably regret it if you do

Andy

I think, considerations of physical attractiveness aside, both genders like to date people who are different from the crowd in some way.

I only know 1 other autistic person other than myself, so I cannot speak with any authority given the extremely small sample size. She is fairly attractive, and has all the typical AS traits (awkward in large groups, can't stand sensory overload), and seriously all the guys are queuing up to chase her. She can play the violin well, is intelligent, but is always a bit of an oddball which I, having AS myself, can identify with.

I can conclude that the guys like her because she's special, and they all know it, even if they don't know it's a side effect of her having AS. I reckon it's her uniqueness that is attractive, because there are lots of girls physically more attractive than she is yet don't have as many suitors, so perhaps we may discount that as a variable. My pet theory is that she's different from everybody else, and in a different way. If you think about it, in a college environment (where I observe and draw my conclusions from, so take selection bias into account), everybody wants to tweak their image for maximum cool, so everybody kind of ends up being the same kind of different.

Here's where autistic people stand out: we're different not because we try to be, but because we don't know how to be the same. Maybe that's one point for us, then. (:

Erm....just as readily as I could find an NT attractive?

If the question is 'Do I feel emotional/identity chemistry' the answer is - I'm not sure. I think from what I've noticed there have been a lot of girls who I've been attracted to who were perhaps NT with OCD traits, or OCD and slight AS traits, but straight up aspies? I get the impression that talking to a girl and feeling like I've known her for years or getting that 'kindred hearts/spirits' sense with her drives me wilder than anything; unfortunately, at least for the aspie girls, it doesn't seem to go hand in hand with AS any more than it does with NT or anything else.

I'm heterosexual, but am distinctly more likely to find men with Aspie traits and/or eccentricities more attractive.

It's too difficult to really say because people with AS tend to be individuals and different, symptoms can vary, personality types can vary and connectivity can be perceived differently. For instance, no one can take two people with AS and say they're completely alike.

I suppose what's so good about both having AS is that you can have a mutual understanding, respect and acceptance for how you both are and respond to certain situations but you both need to be mature about it.

I find it awkward but I notice most of the girls out here are stunningly beautiful though I never met someone in person. I'm looking forward to marry an aspie girl someday that will share and understand my peculiarities and eccentricity.

Exactly, you are able to share a mutual understanding on common ground because you experience similar characteristics and traits. However don't think that simply because you are both on the spectrum that you will get along well or be compatible in every aspect, every person is an individual and they may have a different outlook or perspective or the characteristics you both have may vary.

I am not fuzzed whether they are autistic or not, what works for me is a good connection of personality and sharing interests.

Of course I do - though I would have to stress that it depends on the woman.

this would be so awesome. we sooo need this.

Being autistic myself, I had thought about what if I ended up with an autistic girl.

Except the one I did end up with for a time was not on the same functioning level as myself and she was a mjaor headcase, granted I know not all autistic girls are like this, as I have female autistic friends who behave way better than my ex, some who behave better than my ex are actually not even older than my ex but younger than her? isn't that something?

WOuld I date an autistic girl again? well never say never, I mean I don't know if the girl I end up with will be autistic like me or adhd (which I also have) or dyslexic or another disability or no disability or whatever, but she has to at least be mature for sure.

Of course I also too pondered what if I dated a non-autie who works with autistic kids.

Well all I can say is you never know what will happen.

If the question is about attractiveness then totally for me - I mean I really don't even see what they look like. I just like having someone around who I don't have to try to communicate with - I just can.
However 2 people with no idea how to communicate "feelings" is kind of a recipe for disaster. - in my experience.