Slys dating site advice help thread.

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Sly has never given the impression of being “fat phobic” in women or shallow, nor does he look down on people worse off than him.

I am sorry, but that isn’t fair. You might be getting some of those traits mixed up with some of the other males here.

I agree with the won’t help himself part, there isn’t really anything more other people can do.

She’s another case of those who throws accusations around, she probably unfairly projects her friend’s traits on him.

Saying things that imply because someone is fat they should have lower standards, then going on to say he doesn't want them anyway?
Maybe I should say it's fat-bashing?

Or just mean. Take it as you will. But it is far from nice and open minded.

I don’t think I have ever seen Sly say he wouldn’t date an overweight woman.

Well I wouldn’t date a super obese woman.
All the women I dated are what most people here would call fat. I consider them average or curvy? Or is chubby? I dont know if curvy is slightly fat or someone with curves like hourglass shaped. The definition has become confusing for me. I always thought it meant extra wieght. Anyways. I’ve never dated a thin woman. My size scale is different then most peoples though.

I’m constantly told as a fat guy I need to have low standards and accept I can’t date thin or pretty women. So equality would mean fat or super obese women should similar have to lower their standards no? Is not equality similar standards and being treated same regardless of gender? So should fat women be given same advice fat men? If fat men are told to date fat women shouldn’t fat women be told to date fat men?
Most men in America are fat. There’s 3,000 more men then women where I live most of whom are fat or obese according to doctors, so if fat women want to have relationships it figures they have to date fat men. So lowering their standards or accepting fat men would be in their benifit towards that goal. That’s all I’ve said I believe. I don’t fat shame I just wish there had been a similar movement against fat shaming men as ther was against fat shaming women. Where’s the chubby ken dolls or fat GI joes. Where are the fat male models. Where are the billboards saying it’s not ok to fat shame men and that men come in all sizes.

I’d say the below lady is averag not chubby or fat. I want a woman like her. I’d date a thin woman and I admit thin women are sexier.
https://thumb1.shutterstock.com/display ... 360453.jpg

I probably wouldn’t date someone this big or bigger.
https://d2nzqyyfd6k6c7.cloudfront.net/s ... k=-uqvKFjz

I’m a lot smaller then her and I’m 257(I gained 4 pounds over holidays.) back to starving. And 6’4”
One lady lost 250 pounds and is still chubby. Like she lost a whole me and I’m fat.
I’m on a diet and soon I’ll be well enough to hit the gym again .
So hopefully one day I’ll be thin. I’ll still find average women like First Lady attractive and date them. Though I find it unfair. As I’m always told I can’t date thin women cause I’m fat and women who stay thin deserved men who stay thin. But don’t see that said about thin men deserving thin women. It’s something I’ll just have to accept and deal with in the unlikely situation any woman dates me. What will suck is if I date and she eats whatever she wants while I have to watch my calories and what I eat. And it’ll likely mean separate dinners and really really really having to keep my will power up to not eat her snacks and deserts. I over eat sometimes cause my family. Like my moms birthday was Saturday so they got cake. Damn cake with its sweetness and frosting. And the fudge balls from Christmas . And they bring home fast food often or pizza. If I lived alone I’d be much easier to keep to my 1600 calories diet. I’d only buy food that keeps to it and limited snacks as if they aren’t in my house it’s eaier to avoid.
I suppose it’d be like having crack in the house with a recovering crack addict. Especially when I get sad I eat stuff around me. I generally only buy chocolate bars. They in sections so I allow 2 squares a day which is like 50 calories total.
Unlikely situation anyways a woman dating me and I’d never live with her anyways. I dont know what I’d feed her if she visits though. I only buy cereal, protein bars and shakes and rice and chicken.

Also I’m a cute fox kit carrying a big leaf now
Like silly fox kit that leafs too big

^I love it, he's so cute

It's not logical for a fat person to bash other fat people, and I have never seen him bashing fat people. He actually does seem in to overweight girls and call them curvy instead.

The girl in the first pic he posted I consider too overweight for me because I am thin myself, but to him she's not overweight. It's relative.

Honestly, I think you are trying too hard to find anti-overweight offenses from him while there aren't any.

Last edited by The_Face_of_Boo on 16 Jan 2018, 4:17 am, edited 1 time in total.

There are plus sized male models.

http://www.pinknews.co.uk/2016/03/17/ma ... ale-model/

The first pic of the woman you call average & not even chubby I would call at least fat & possibly even obese. Her BMI score may put her into the obese category for her height, too. The second pic I'd call obese to morbidly obese & I think medical professionals would agree. This gives me the impression that you live in a place with a very high obesity rate.

~6 years ago I was 242lbs w/ a 38" waist. (6'2") It's still tempting to eat junkfood sometimes - and I do, a bit - but yeah, I basically only buy healthy food & minimal junk so the worst I can do is overeat healthy food. So, yeah, that's a pretty good way to avoid junk food - don't buy it or have it in the house.

For the most part fit people are attracted to other fit people, but there are some fit people attracted to fat people - so, it's not impossible for you to date a fit woman while being a fat man. However, your chances will go up considerably the fitter you get yourself. And of dating anyone at all, really. It certainly doesn't hurt your chances any getting into better shape. I've certainly been hit on by a LOT more people the last couple years than probably the rest of my life combined. I'm currently approximately 195-200lbs around 13%bf approx. I'll be leaner by Summer.

Sly, if a morbidly obese woman here said “Why can’t I get anyone” and then said “I don’t date fat guys”, I can guarantee you, people here won’t back that unless they are extreme feminists. Most people would just say the same: Either improve yourself, lower your standards or accept it and stop complaining.

I don't get how this is going. If Sly isn't attracted to very fat women then he's right not to ask them out. Nobody should ask out people they're not attracted to. We all have an idea of what we find unattractive in the opposite sex (or the same sex) and yes it does limit us a bit, but it is not an attack on the people we don't find attractive. I don't think Sly's being too fussy at all.

I’m unable to edit my post, but was replying to this:



I wasn’t saying Sly should be attracted to anyone he doesn’t like. No one should have to date who they don’t like.

I thought the fox had a bird in it's mouth... oopsie.

Don't call me sweetness, that's catcalling and thus a microaggression. Also I don't care about your age.

Well well, I was not joking or being sarcastic. Now please go on and explain how being against sexual harassment makes me a jackhole or a religious fundamentalist.

I used the words "scum and freaks" because they deserve it for sexually harassing people. I wouldn't say anything to people who use nude pics dedicated apps and sites, because it's their choice. This is not about sexual preferences. I've been explaining it for days, do you finally understand?

It's not about ableism, if people criticize me for what I write I want them to at least read it with some basic attention.
I am not sure that I would be so lenient towards functional illiteracy, they need to pay more attention to things they talk about, read or get interested in. Because of this phemonenon and the Dunning-Kruger Effect we have people like flat-earthers, hoax believers, odd conspiracy theorists, vaccine refuters and so on. I have conversations with such people and I can assure you that they are waaaaay less nice than I am.

I don't mind being called "Sweetness."

Not being called nice names is sort of a "microaggression."

It was very obvious in your post that “freaks and scums” was refering to dick pics senders and not to homosexual people.

Why she falsely accused you of being a religious fundie? I have a theory why, check your pm.