do you find autistic girls attractive?

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I find them attractive, but I am concerned that if I did find one, she would either be (a) asexual, and (b) hesitant to travel or just outright refuse to because of the disruptions in routine that would be involved. Traveling is one of my interests (although my current financial situation crimps my ability to do much traveling).

I typed one reply and had to delete it. I like being alone, i don't find the idea of a relationship for the sake of a relationship too appetizing. If I'm going to sacrifice bits of my independence i want something better than just making it work. For that reason i don't find myself attracted to very many people at all. And that doesn't mean i have ridiculously high standards either, it's not like that at all. We all inhabit the same planet but we all see the world differently so in a sense we're all living in our own little worlds. When i find someone that sees the world the same as me i know i've found someone worth being serious about.

I could see why i could be attracted to an autistic girl, yes.

Same. I'll admit though, she doesn't even need to see the world exactly as I do, she just has to be able to relate to my view enough to understand and respect me on it. I don't mind being challenged a bit either so long as its a challenge to move my thinking uphill more or learn more in an area that she has better or more complete knowledge on.

I havent seen many but at least a couple of them are gorgeous, Kirsten Lindsmith (current featured article) and AspergersGirl on youtube are both lovely. Show me more pictures and I can decide properly.

Depends what you mean by "Attractive".

Physically it's the luck of the dice, just like everyone else you meet, you get not so good looking ones, good looking ones and stunners.

Personality wise, you'll find that more are honest about their feelings and don't fall for the trends that most other girls would find attractive in a man.

For me, I haven't met another like myself and I doubt I ever will...but I wouldn't know personally.

I think you can fall for an Aspie girl more easier then what you would call an NT girl due to their openness about things but on the other end, they would just be as hard to understand as an NT girl.

All in all, it's taste I guess...I would say that NT guys would find Aspie woman for attractive Personality wise as they come off as "Unique and cute" whilst Aspie guys come off as "weird and creepy".

I want to give a nerdy, socially awkward girl a huge hug.

I think being sheltered and awkward is cute I couldn't be around someone who is socially skilled, because I can't "read" NTs or highly functioning neurodiverse people. I'd rather someone openly tells me what they think and want, and NTs never do that in my experience. (Not that I'm looking for anybody at all, because my social anxiety makes it impossible to live with anybody, autistic or not).

Anyway, I don't understand why you make this about autistic girls / women? Female auties and aspies have a much easier time finding a partner than autistic males, imho. Men are supposed to be confident and self-assured, and most autistic men couldn't be further from that ideal.

Being honest about my feelings kicks me in the ass sometimes. Guys are really used to girls who play games, and when they meet someone straightforward they don't know what to make of it.

I have a niche market. You know, nerdy indie rockers who would love to date Bjork or something.

And the terms "confident" and "self-assured" have never been adequately defined on here.

Yes, to the OP. I do.

I can say i dont think ive ever met an autistic girl. If I have I didnt know it. Im usually too concerned with my own weirdness that i dont notice other people, unless they are total jerks. Then i notice.
I would prefer to date someone with autism or aspergers or anyone with anything similar to my situation, as I think it would make them more understanding, instead of just giving me lip service that they understand and dont care.
I dont really care all that much about looks or awkwardness. I find it offputting when someone puts too much focus on looks. I know i dont think im attractive, but ive had women tell me they think I am, and im totally put off by it. dont know why, i just am. It totally annoyed my therapist that I couldnt explain it too him. so i tend to not really think about it in others. sure there are women i find attractive, but the physical doesnt really ever play an important part in who i tend to like.

First off, I find autistic girls and girls with Asperger's attractive. I don't mind dating one of them. I also know that one day, I'll have a beautiful girlfriend of my choice, even if she has autism or Asperger's.

Cute awkward girls are cute....

I think the one thing either party wants is just to be understood.

For an AS person, chances are they probably would be because someone with AS would have a higher chance of understanding them than an NT.

However, because NT outnumbers AS by such a large proportion; a fair amount of AS fail in finding love, especially once they get to the point of emotional damage where they start thinking about suicide (I'd have put stays indoors all day; but to be realistic all of us do that to some extent)

I've never met one in person, but I've seen videos of one or two on youtube, and they look plenty attractive.

If anything, I've learned about myself recently that I actually PREFER "awkward", since I feel like I don't have to be as much "on guard" as I do with NTs. And, it can be cute.

But, I've never even entertained the possibility that someone would find me attractive being awkward, so this is all new to me. I've spent my entire life trying to correct awkwardness with extremely limited success.

I am pretty sure that I was married to one.

But she does not know it. Back then I didn't know it, nor about myself. In our age group, it was either a diagnosis of anything else or "just an a-hole".


Now imagine two people who have issues reading each other and expressing to each other. One gets angry and that's taken as hate, the other shuts down and that's taken as hate...

Here's some help: imagine the deepest level of hell without the fire.