Sexism on L&D

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I don't make the moves I expect her to initiate but i don't always expect her to grab my crotch while making out after only knowing her for a short while. I don't mind when i do expect it but not when i don't i know its weird but its how I am. Sometimes when a woman just wants sex out of the blue it kind of freaks me out because i do not expect that at all. When I do know the person enough and she knows me enough and she wants sex and I know it and she knows I want sex in return then that's fine.

Well Tarantella, I am 35 and I don't know how old you are and will not ask because it's impolite to ask a lady her age. I don't know if I can use my age as an accurate comparison but some of the guys I hung with when I was 18-19 confirm that the women you have encountered are right and there are a lot of guys like this. I've encountered a number of them over the years my age and younger.

At 18-19, it was all just so confusing to me and I ended up getting suckered into things and beliefs I should have not let myself get suckered into. I should have used my rational thinking instead of my stupid hormones.

I have a younger brother in law who is having a tough time at job corp and he is an aspie as well. He is taking the program seriously and trying to get through it. This is what happened. His roommate and his boys meaning friends was talking about how they were going to have sex with a young lady. They said in a derogatory way though. They were very inappropriate and they were keeping him up at night. He told on them and they moved him to his own room. They threatened to jump him for being a "snitch." I know exactly the type he is dealing with and honestly I'm a bit worried about him especially since he is a bit more AS than I am.

On the other hand though, I do believe he handled himself with class, way better than I did at 18-19. He did tell them he was being inappropriate and that they were keeping him up at night and if they would be quiet or go somewhere else. They called him "gay", "fa***t" and "p****" and that is when he told on them and the next day they called him a snitch and threatened to jump him. The young ladies you've spoken to Tarantella, have some points. They told me that women were "hoes" and "users" yet what is weird is that I was expected to be the big sport and always be the one who pays for their food when they suggested we go out to eat. They told me that everything I was told about women was a lie and I had to play some game and spit some game. To this day, I still don't know nor understand what "spit some game" even means. It was sort of like describing the matrix. Weird when I think about it now.

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Yes..yes you may .

^All of this. Very well said.

I used to have a few older, right-wing Christian acquaintances who "knew" all sorts of things about the "gay lifestyle." The above sounds *exactly* like the stuff they would say.



Guys have to deal with it too. There are plenty of girls who will play the yes-means-no game to make you take all of the intimate responsibility and do all of the work. Some of them will even use the ambiguity to guilt trip you in the morning in hopes of gaining leverage in the relationship.

I don't go out with girls who seem likely to do that, and cuts into my dating pool in a big way. I'd bet that those girls could do the same thing if they really wanted to. It just sucks.

question. is saying some black people are thieves, racist?
if so why. lets be real some black people, some asians, some whites, some ______ are thieves.

but i was told to say some women are/do _____ is sexist. also just saying women/black/white/_____ doesn't mean all or all would have been before it.

aspie women will bever be my prime dating pool. there isn't enough of them, most seem to have partners, the few there are are so spread out. I met one locally and it went horrible she pushed me to skype then suddenly stopped after she heard what my job was. while I don't hold that against all aspie women, it has also somewhat proved my idea of two aspies being together wouldn't work.

as one of the problem/possible sexist people or whiner . I made my post cause i was depressed, frustrated lonely and seeking help and conversation with aspies. I had been hurt by a lady in September and rejected by tons after, all this taking place after a long internet type relationship that ended bad. I don't see heaven would have helped. it seems more fore people dealing with loss of family/friends, meltdowns, suicidal thoughts etc then love life issues.

I'm not that way. non of my female friends I've had have ever said such things. grooming?? shaving down there? well for me its a matter of not wanting hair in my mouth. not a requirement but i won't want to do it and will be disappointed. as for wearing things does role playing count? there's things that turn me on, that if I had a gf I would ask her to wear. I would wear things for her that turned her on. actually things I would like to wear and hope a potential mate would be into.

reddit is for stuff other then gone wild and talking about trees??? i only go to reddit for gonewild related stuff. better then porn as its women who willing post their pics/video/audio and enjoy doing such things and reading comments on it. now I wouldn't post there and I don't get why so many do. I enjoy following a few though and they enjoy it so seems to work out for all. It also shows just how many beautiful women there are, though I don't find many women ugly. some guys comments can get out of hand but seems over all others will refute them

reddit also has a dating type threads though no one in my state

i've only kissed 3 women. one we spent day together on a first date, then went back to her place and kissed and cuddled. we had talked for a week or two before. I asked to kiss and hug, then if we could cuddle. I had never cuddled and grown needly of it from the internet thing I had, tons of e cuddles and talk of cuddling made me really want it.

the 2nd , we had been talking for few months met once when she tried to hook me up with a friend. after she broke up with the guy over seas, and while she was trying to decide between me and 2 other guys she came to visit me and I asked the first few times to kiss

3rd was a sexual met up.

I would never grab a woman even in a relationship. why would you want to be grabbed?

something I would like to do is come up behind her when shes doing something and hug her from behind while at the same time kiss her neck. Though I don't see how would could do that with asking before, so suppose they'll never happen.

could it be that getting a gf stopped them whining as they thing they whined about wasn't a problem, but if the gf leaves them they would then be on to whine about that?

I don't see how the negtive thoughts I had hurt anyone but me. some people are victims. how do you decide who is or isn't without doing it case by case.

I have to go off how women in my area are. as its where I live. being how they are or rather what they see as must haves for relationships, is what restricts me from having one. I don't see myself as a victim. what I do see myself is as a person and a sh***y situation unlikely to change. If others want to see that as a victim that's up to them.

victim to me is someone who had someone else act on them in a negitive way. as rape, mugging, robbery, murder, etc.

what i blame more is society that has lead to those women believing that a guy who lacks the list of things is not worth giving a chance to. I do get frustrated at the women though as I find it irritating. I don't often follow what society says to do in love regards. or I wouldnt have liked the last lady. she was jobless, has disorders, smokes weed, and chubby. society would say to pass, but she seemed nice , we could talk for hours and I thought she was pretty and attractive.

I honestly feel like my only chance is to win the lottery.




sorry for the lots of me, but I check the forums 3 times a day and a lot that I felt like responding to happen in between.

Hey, I had a terrible experience with my own father, too. Doesn't mean I go projecting my issues with my father onto others from that generation.

To be honest, I don't like it when a lady shaves "down there." LOL

I believe, in general, that people must be exposed to true human interaction in order to be credible. Abstract theories, especially pertaining to human relationships, do not quite cut the mustard. Research frequently only yields generalizing results; I don't find the results of research relevant to my own life.

I take everything on a "case by case" basis. Saying that "all women this" or "all men that" doesn't do it for me. Saying that "Marie does that," or "Sam does that" carries much more credibility.

As for "self help books," same thing: based upon generalizations.

lol It's projecting to say that age doesn't necessarily make someone wise or experienced at life, or to say that age alone doesn't automatically make you worthy of the respect of others? That's projecting too? I was using my dad as an example, but he's not the only person I've met who was older who didn't have the qualities you seem to think that age automatically gives a person, so don't give me that shite either.

Nice try though

Sometimes older people can be even more evil,years of practice.

My dad sucked, therefore all older people suck. The logic there is just BEAUTIFUL. lol

i think your reading comprehension is off--he stated that age doesn't automatically imbue everyone with wisdom. you read that as "all old people suck." try reading his statement again, the actual words he used and not the words coming from the straw man in your mind.

some people are quite resistant to the process of acquiring wisdom from their experience. he is not "projecting" by stating that obvious reality.