Reasons why you're a bad catch

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Skinny girl's wrists

I don't care how thin yours are, mine are worse - I literally have the narrowest bone structure of any male I have ever seen in my 44 years on this planet, and my legs are even worse...

Pretty sure he meant skinny girls' wrists aren't strong enough to catch him.

Sorry, I'm kind of self-conscious on the issue

I blame my Asperger's (tm)

I completely understand body image issues. I've got a bit of my own, apparently.

I always thought body image issues were by definition in conflict with reality - like a shockingly thin woman who thinks she is fat.

My bones are very thin and I've heard/overheard people mocking them my entire life - as recently as one year ago in a professional setting(!)

The worst part is that there is literally nothing that can be done for this condition - not even plastic surgery. I just have to find someone that will accept this significant flaw...

It's the fact that you see it as a flaw that makes it a body image issue.

But it is a flaw - my ex-wife used to try and talk me out of wearing (quite long) shorts - I refused, I did that for many years and I'm not going back. People stare at them, it's awful. I sometimes wonder if it is the unspoken "fatal flaw" that has ruined my romantic life...

Wearing clothes that flatter you is essential, but unflattering clothes don't make your bone structure a flaw.

I know it can be hard to not believe the sh***y opinions of someone that verbally/emotionally/psychologically abused you, but you may want to work on your perspective a bit.

My penis is too big

"You have my divided attention," from my signature line, says it all. It's funny and true, but the reality is it has some( probably many) down consequences.

I've noticed married folks communicate and do things on all levels, most of the time. I'm "self absorbed" and the things I do with others amounts to a part of my time. I'm going to blame it on ADD. The hyperfocus, or "obsessions" are hard to clear out and occupy / displace out things outside of its scope. And I just get bored, plain and simple. I think Meyers-Brigs INTJ, my type, probably makes this transaction challenging in of itself, without the inattention.

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I take things too literally
I don't like lot of touch
I don't like naked sex
I have obsessions and spend time with them
I am not into sex all that much
I prefer to be alone most of the time
I have anxiety
I am too obsessed with money
I have a short attention span
I'm lazy
I suck with emotional support and empathy
I don't care for fashion
I'm shy and probably have social anxiety
I say the wrong things
I have problems with being spontaneous and abrupt change (gotten better at it though)
I get very upset over stuff lot of people wouldn't get upset about
I don't like to cook and have troubles with it

Grisha from the photos I've seen of you, including your fb ones, you look completely fine to me. I don't see any flaws in any of your pictures, apart from slightly dubious highlights in one of them.

The only thing I possess that's really worth a damn to anyone is my pretty face, but that isn't enough to keep anyone around for long.

I agree with all of this except for the highlights.

I am a bad catch because I expect the girl with me to do important things in life, I expect her to be active and think she can manage the whole world. Some girls I have been were happy by being a secondary person in the world, and they didn't handle the pressure I input about that specific fact.