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Or the attention he gets for it. 29 page threads as he continues his woe-is-me Eeyore character-like persona. Sometimes I wonder if he really is that depressed, or if he turns it up to 11 just to get more attention in threads like this no matter how absurd his posts become. Either way, very real, or playing it up, it isn't a state of mind and being that I'd want to be living my life in and I don't envy him for either nor the attention he gets for whichever it is.

I dont know about your government but the us give loves to track every thing s out us.
The 3,000 more men is from my cities population data. It’s all well documented and compiled into spreadsheets anyone can access. You take the female population then men and subtract to get the extra men.

I dont know I don’t read his posts as all they do is make me depressed. So I am trying my best to avoid his negative thoughts.

The fox is cute. He just wants hugs but everyone assume he’s after their chickens. Sad fox. Should I be happy nonwoman wants me? . Why so yiu can feel good because someone else being sad ruins your day? Isn’t my responsibility to not ruin others days, I don’t make people read my threads. I refuse to fake happiness to satisfy others. My life sucks I won’t pretend it doesn’t. I want love and companionship but society deems me not good enough for it.
I won’t stop venting and I won’t stop trying to find love.

One can manipulate statistics to suit any narrative they choose to believe. From the very same stats, let's say there's 50,000 women and 53,000 men, one could choose to say "There's only one of me and 50,000 women to choose from!" & be optimistic about their chances of finding one to be with. Instead sly is as negative and pessimistic as he can be, justifying his depressed world view via statistics.

Lol my thoughts aren't negative. They're generally pretty positive. Further, my posts cannot depress sly. Sly refuses to accept that only his own thoughts about my posts (or anything) can depress him & that on the flip side only positive thoughts can make him feel happy. Instead he claims that every psychiatrist and author on the subject in the history of mankind is wrong and that he can only experience happiness by being around other people or a partner. Wrong. It's simply that he thinks happier thoughts when he's with those people. Once sly accepts that the quality of his thoughts dictate the quality of his life he'll be able to begin healing.

Sly deems himself not good enough for anyone, pure and simple. He's stated so countless times.

Why do you continue to bother me?
Yes there’s only one me, but I’m not a man women want. If there’s 53000 people and only 5000 jobs. 3,000 people can’t get jobs, the company will hire the best people. If you aren’t a best person yiu won’t get hired. Employment and dating is competition. I’m in competition with all those other men for women. Even women here said they’d take the better man over worse men. Well I’m ugly, fat, lowly employed and on social security. Who will women pick me or a guy working making 25 and hour who is also handsome and thin? It’s not rock science. So excuse me for find my seemingly hopeless situation depressing.

Also you may live in a bubble, with just you but the rest of us live in the real world with other people. Where things others do and say effect us. If I lie and say someone stole at work that effects them. My work will investigate them they might get fired. No amount of believing they only effect themselves will change that. I, a human with emotions things other says effects me just like everyone else. It’s why they made that stupid song about sticks and bones to try to cheer kids up. It’s why bullying is so effective it’s why there’s s legal term for emotional abuse. Words to hurt. So long as humans have emotions words will always hurt. It’s why it’s not cool to call women sluts cause that makes them sad and feel bad. Do you go around calling women sluts and whores then telling the, they should be happy cause you calling them slurs can’t hurt them. What about the n word? Is it ok now since people can only user themselves? No of course it as it’s a racial slur and hurts black people. I’m so tired of your crazy believes. I don’t want to join your odd beleife system. Words hurt others. Others words hurt us. It’s being human.

No I find your posts quite negative, I don’t want to be told to give up, just learn to be happy alone, so telling,s thst is negative, no better then telling someone struggling t walk again to accept he can’t walk, just give up be happy bing unable to walk. You dhave nt do thst. You tell them to keep trying thst they can do it that they’re walk again. Telling peopl tomjust accept that crap in life and be happy is horrible.

So no I don’t want your crap advice. NO thanks, but much like the religious people thst commto ur door once a week yiu won’t stop trying to spread your believes to people who have no interest in them.

No others deem me not good enough, I just couldn’t ignore them anymore. Why don’t yiu go fight with them instead.

I thought it was cute. But it is how I feel about women too I guess. So I spoke to me.
That’s all I’m good enough to be to women is an acquaintance. To serve used and be thrown away. I want love and companionship just like other men and women. I didn’t ask to be born defective and broken and so unlovable. I’d rather just not been born. If there was a operation to fix aspergers I’d take it.

I’m trying to fix the things I can but it doesn’t matter it’s not enough. And I can’t fix the other stuff

So then, what are you doing to improve yourself to make yourself more attractive to women & employers?

It remains your own thoughts & reactions to things that dictate your emotions. Sure, horrible words are hurtful, however, I do not use horrible language towards you. I encourage you to do things that would make you think and feel better. YOU are the one who uses negative language about yourself, stating that you're worthless & hopeless etc.

I have never once told you to give up. Ever. I'm a never EVER give up kind of person. I suggested that a partner won't be able to bestow happiness upon you & that finding peace, balance, and happiness in yourself first is a MUCH better path to entering a relationship than trying to date someone while feeling suicidally depressed. Personally, when I was extremely depressed I avoided ALL friends like the plague rather than subject them to my extreme depression. Myself and others have suggested that you deal with your depression first, feel content, and feel like you have something positive to contribute to another human being in a relationship prior to trying to enter one. It's a MUCH better recipe for success rather than what you continually put yourself through that is not working.

I've never once told you to "accept that crap in life." Don't put words in my mouth & misquote me. I've simply suggested that the way you're going about things is not getting you the results you want so you should consider altering course and trying what's worked for countless others. Treat and overcome your depression BEFORE trying to enter the dating world and you'll have MUCH better results. Feel whole and complete without a partner and you won't feel you NEED one to survive, and you'll be much more attractive to others - too - and much more likely to actually start dating.

You seem to have no interest in treating or overcoming your depression. You seem to thrive on the attention you get by complaining about it all the time. You almost seem to WANT to stay depressed so you don't lose your identity as a depressed person who gets attention on the forums for 30 pages of discussion & advice you'll shoot down or completely ignore, continue doing the same old things & getting the same old results to complain about over and over again instead of trying something new/different in an attempt to actually think & feel better. It's your life & existence, thoughts and emotions. You're the one who has to live with your choices, not me. Myself? I'll choose treatment & improvement, all day, every day.

Because, sly, fighting with them does nothing. We cannot change EVERYONE ELSE in the world to fit our narrative as ASD people or depressed people or whatever. We can ONLY change ourselves. I change myself for myself. I'm merely suggesting that you try changing yourself, for yourself, because you are never EVER in a million years going to change all the women who you feel reject you. Your efforts would be much more productively focused on changing yourself to be happier & more attractive vs. screaming at the world until you're blue in the face wishing that women would be attracted to a suicidally depressed man. Never. Gonna. Happen. And I debate with you about it because I'd prefer to read you post that you Tried something new/different until you figured out what DOES work to treat & overcome your depression. That'd be such a breath of fresh air to read vs. another 30 pages of self hate.

Would you? I wouldn't, maybe it's because I thought all the Asperger stuff was just me for so long that I've come to accept it all and not see it as something I have but just me. The thought of being normal/like most people actually makes me feel sick. I would like to be less obsessive and anxious though, but I'm working on those things.



One step at a time, everyone's diet goes to s**t over Christmas, you'll get there.

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And what if there were a diet/natural medicine, supplements, and probiotic treatment protocol? Would you do that. Because there is. I've been sharing about it here for over 4 years.

But it seems others are only interested in instant gratification. An operation or a single dose of a magic pill. No one wants to do any hard work to get things they want. That's why so many people remain unhealthy & unhappy. Same reason so many people remain fat, too. Same reason so many people remain poor, too.

How much does that cost per week inc all food?

Be cured ? Yes so I could be normal and work good jobs and get s gf have a family and be happy. Yes I’d take a cure. Certainly be better then how I am. Yes it’s who I am but who I am is wrong and defective and unwanted by most women. It’s why I can’t work a good job. It’s why I suck socializing with women. Why does being normal make you feel sick?
I’ve always found it funny most normal people say they’d rather be wierd but they have no idea what it’s reslly like how it’s like to be shunned by just about everyone and be teased and made fun of. But even if they act wierd end of the day they can just go back to being normal.

Yeah I gained 3-4 pounds November-January
And I fell off the gym track so now I have to work hard to go again and start all over :/
Had animals die then I got sick. I was going start again in January but now with this cold or flu lasting weeks it probably won’t be til February:(

Ignore him. Autism can’t be cured with diet if he’s symptoms were it’s likely he didn’t have autism. If it could companies would be heavily marketing it. 1/5 people have autism I’ve heard. That’s a lot of money to be made. Scientists don’t onow what causes it but it’s a Braine miswire not a stomach issue. A cure would probably require brain surgery

Reality is they won’t be a cure. Closest thing is testing and then abortion. Two people who don’t have autism can have a autistic kid. It seems random.

So when I said I’d take a cure it’s hypothetical as there isn’t one and it’s too late for me if there was one. If I had a kid non born and they said we can do this procedure that will cure his autism before they born I’d do it. Give them a good normal life. But at 30 it’s be too late.

In the very beginning my basic food costs were covered by trading my labour for a roof over my head & healthy meals to eat. When I began doing any of this my MONTHLY income was $150 & 100% of that was spent on herbs/oils etc that would make the greatest positive impact on my health, until I could work and earn more money & reinvest my wage earnings into myself faster and faster. Some of these items are very cheap, others kinda pricey. I'd GUESSTIMATE that the most I ever spent per week on food & natural medicines would be about $150 or so. There MIGHT have been one week where I spent $200. (Canadian) MAXIMUM, while I was taking HUGE doses of the most expensive things I consumed.

In my regular diet now, which is much less medicinal, I probably spend approximately $100-125/week on food, at most, BUT that's also when I'm working hard, exercising a lot, at eating 6-8 meals per day, every day.

So, it's flexible. Can start very very low, and with improved health & mental clarity, earn more money, then spend more of it on healthy herbs/supplements/probiotics etc.

To put a very rough guesstimate on on an average amount for food/medicine/teas etc per week during the more medicinal phase of my diet *shrug* $80? I was only eating a few times a day then like a regular person vs. fuelling athletic muscle mass. It's not exactly free, but it's not exorbitantly expensive to buy things like garlic, turmeric, and onions, either - especially in bulk. I also bought a few supplements on amazon etc. I've detailed in my story over 4 years ago how I sourced things to optimize my health/nutrition as inexpensively as possible, out of necessity.

Overall I may spend a bit more on groceries than many, but not the most. And I spend LESS than a lot of people who opt to eat fast food that only serves to negatively impact their health vs. heal them.

It can't be cured at all. It can be treated, though.

Why would companies market & promote something that doesn't make them exorbitant profits? Keeping people on antidepressant & antianxietal pills for life is much more profitable than teaching them how to be healthy and balanced via diet.

Why do you think 1/5 (if that's true) now present with ASD symptoms? The only thing that's changed so dramatically over the years are peoples' diets. We consume the garbage toxic food supply that makes us ill.

I don't believe it's random. I believe it's due to viruses, gut bacteria, funguses etc & the health of the mother during pregnancy. If she has an infection, of various types, it's passed along to the baby & the baby develops under it's influence and our nervous system and brain wiring get all tripped into making odd non-NT connections. There may also be a genetic component that makes all of this possible. These are experienced based guesses & theories, I do not have a lab nor statistical evidence from many people studied.

It's only too late when you're dead. I didn't discover how to treat my ASD until I was 30, and here I am now 35 with symptoms under control so I can live my life.

As for infants, here's a true story: My friend's son was very ill at 1 year old. Eventually doctors realized he had a massive infection. They pumped him full of antibiotics to save his life. The infection cleared, but it also killed off his probiotics big time. Then he presented with the infant signs of ASD that I recognized clear as day - they were textbook. His avoiding eye contact, being lethargic & uninterested in things etc etc. I did not tell my friends I saw these signs in him. (His maternal grandmother presents with ASD symptoms, btw, so could be genetic and/or inherited via gut bacteria.) I told my friends that the antibiotics killed his probiotics and to feed him a bunch of probiotics. They took my advice, since it could not hurt any and they wanted the best for their son, and fed him LOTS of probiotics over many months. It was like watching a withered house plant come back to life after being watered a week late. He sprang back to life and is fine. He's 6 years old now and does not present with ASD symptoms. I believe antibiotics play a large role in ASD development and that it can in fact be headed off in infants via probiotics.

This also correlates strongly to the fact that many of us, myself included, suffered from ear infections as infants and were pumped full of antibiotics month after month after month & never given doses of probiotics to rebalance our guts - which are the second brain.

You seriously need to be redpilled out of that fantasy love-apartheid'ed world you built for yourself, Sly. I am not very smart but a genius is not required to see that you are purposefully misunderstanding the statistics. Most of those single people are IN NO WAY chronically dateless and desperate like you or me. Why are you saying such utter BS?

You are the negative person here, he is trying to help you. Unless you are fond of this misery, that is...

Wild foxes don't want hugs and prefer chickens.

Also you are waaaaaaaaay overstimating your impact on my day, do you seriously believe what you wrote? I just like to call BS when I see it and to help people sometimes.

I find this interesting, are these probiotics you speak of like yogurts and stuff like that? And is the diet necessary too?