When's the last time you had the courage to ask anyone out?

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When I asked her to marry me last year; our relationship prior to that was more of a morphing evolution than anything with a definitive 'step'.


M.

4 months ago, I started work as a floor girl in my local gastro pub. One night, a man I'd had a slight crush on for several weeks popped in for a quiet drink. I always thought he was quite interesting as he wore a fedora, had long blonde hair and a bushy beard.
I'm not exactly sure where it came from but prehaps it was the fact that being in a job were I interact with the public that boasted my social confidence.
Anyways, we struck up a conversation about the god that is Stephen Fry and before I knew it, I was hooked.
I almost got yelled at by my boss, though for being so chatty. :p
Anyhoo, I finished my bar shift and gave him my number. We had our first date the following week and 4 months on, we're now hunting for our first flat together.

Best thing about him, though?

HE'S ALSO AN ASPIE!! *happy dance*

I usually initiate the correspondence if I come across someone I find interesting.

Within the last 4 months or so.

I wasn't particularly attracted to her, but I gave it a shot since there were at least some signals. I phrased it somewhat casually, got shot down, and decided to just leave it as a friendship. Since I managed to not creep her out (always a big risk), she didn't hate me afterward, and things went on as usual.

Before that, 2 years ago. Things didn't go as well that time.

reply to original post: Ha, try never. I've never seen any signs of anyone liking me like that and my confidence and self-esteem's been dead and buried 19 years now. i'm not one to take a chance on something that shows no signs of any possible reciprocation of feelings, or even interest for that matter. in that regard, you'd have to pretty much threaten me with a cattle-prod to get me to flirt with anyone 'cause my will to do so is trapped behind a wall of mortal fear of rejection

Courage is a problem - I've asked a few people out and always been turned down. It's the rejection and the inevitable embarrassment that follows. My appearance probably does not help but I do not know anyone locally that I would feel compatible with. I'm 21 and haven't been kissed yet and it's beginning to become a pain in the arse, frankly. I don't even have any friends away from the pub and drinking. My social life outside of that is non-existent to be honest.

Pretty regularly. Who cares if you get rejected? It doesn't mean you're a bad or worthless person, it just means that the combination of what you're offering and they're looking for didn't work out. It's good practice even (some would say especially) if they say no.

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