AS Standards-Likes and dislikes in the opposite sex

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This thread really makes me wonder if some of you have ever had a partner.. wouldn't be surprised if the answer is no, looking at the encycopedias of criteria.

^ Find which traits correlate, then we can shorten all the lists.

Like: Genuine mutual understanding

Dislikes: Lack thereof

Topics like religious orientation, political views, shared interests, perhaps even general personality characteristics also, these are all ultimately indicators to determine if you will feel that emotional connection with someone. However, gaining that level of understanding only requires shared experiences, not shared beliefs and opinions, plus spending enough time and effort with someone to understand them. The two major women of my life were rather different people (Alcoholic, nihalistic, unkind, destructive life, similar intellectual/cultural interests, psychological problems VS none-drinker, Christian, ultrakind, life planned out, not particuarly similar intellectual/cultural interest, psychologically sound) yet I loved them both and both claimed to 'love' me back

likes: that they like me.
dislikes: that they dislike me.
neutrals: that they have no opinion of me.

that is all.

i once thought that that was quite an innocent way to think, but some male friend of mine told me it was borderline psychopathic. he said if my only requirement to like someone is if they like me, then i must be very self centred

i took it as a compliment but he meant it as an insult.

whatever indeed.

Likes:
*Laid-back and easy going
*Open-minded
*Smart
*Caring
*Understanding
*Good sense of humor
*Shares similar values
*Shares similar interests


Dislikes:
*Bitchiness - Everyone b*****s at times, but people that b***h constantly, really annoy me.
*Nosiness
*Naiveness - This can be cute at first, then it usually becomes annoying.
*Selfishness
*Ignorance
*Arrogance
*Drama queens
*Clinginess

Likes:

Warm, caring, passionate, intelligent, witty, curious, honest, non-judgemental, accepting, empathic, patient, has a zest for life, creative, artsy, shares similar values and interests, nice eyes, unique looks (guys - long/shaggy hair of any colour, girls - darker hair. also into feminine looking guys, emos/twinks, and asians).


Dislikes:

Judgemental, biased, ignorant, rude, boorish, gropiness, dishonest, insincere, manipulative or into social games, close-minded, egocentric, only cares about physical aspects, people who talk in 'webspeak', unoriginal, highly religious, "jock" types, clubber types, those who only accept 'mainstream' culture and ideas.

There are people who are truly shallow.
It's not always needed to have deep thoughts to feel at ease and have fun with someone!

Sometimes, it's even much much better!
Relaxing I would say (from the tortured ones)

One more like: Main method of communication is telephone (which may be very difficult while also requiring that she be an Aspie).

I strongly disgust skinny girls, they look total sick, i like girls that dress in training clothes, have a normal body, nice behind, and normal breasts, i would absolutely go out with a not so attractive girl, than a skinny one.

Likes:
pretty eyes
not talkative
likes texting
some sort of physical disability, preferaby paralysis (I realize that's odd)
not into sex

Dislikes:
stupidity
likes going to bars
smokers