Why do a lot of women do this...?

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That's why I'm single I can't deal with the way women like to control everything in the realthionship and when things don't go their way they get mad and they have double standards.

But at some point this all becomes laughable because you can't blame an entire gender for you being single (you meaning the general you, not a specific poster). Yes there are women like that, and there are also women who are not like that. Yes there are men who try to change women and there are men who don't.

The gender sweeping brush that gets thrown around this joint is quite a big one. You would think we would learn from the other 23479708 posts we've had that do this.

I have to agree with LPP (*gasp* ) that the poop would have hit the fan by the third post if a guy had posted that information.

CelticGoddess, I agree with you; not all women are like that. However, most that I have encountered were (I guess it's bad luck?). Oh, as for my post earlier - Men should NEVER try to change women either (or especially, control). Just respect that the one has interests that the other doesn't have and vice versa.

My friend's boyfriend calls himself the "hausfrau"(and camps it up when he says so). He is a bit OCD about tidying and cleanliness and technology, she is more lackadaisical. She works very long hours in a job she loathes, he does part time work. As the years have gone on, they have switched roles a few times, depending on who was working and who was studying. They are not particularly PC, or concerned with gender politics, it's a practicality issue, if you both want to live in a certain level of habitation, the bulk of the maintainance goes to whoever has the most time to do it. I suppose after so many years, they have the same standards when it comes to their surroundings, maybe because they got together in their early teens, so they have grown up together. Maybe when people bring different priorities to a shared situation, and don't change to harmonise this doesn't happen.

They bicker/nag, but it's just banter, which goes surreal and into comedy. As they told me, if they didn't diffuse the stresses as they went along, and make a joke of it, they'd just end up having an enormous row that they would pile every resentment into at once. They are both my friends, as individuals not just as a homogenised "couple", they do diffferent things seperately yet are the most stable relationship I know of.

Aspie1 has a point. And what Janissy said about NT men is not correct, it bothers them as well.
Why is there a women's forum here but not a men's forum?

I guess women are set up differently emotionally to men. Yes they can nag. Yes they can be high maintenance. But it is these qualities that also contribute to the positive side of womanhood. Women nag because they care.

They are high maintenance because they tend to have more of their brain devoted to emotion.. this is necessary for motherhood as why else would a woman pretty much let other little human beings hijack her life for 20+ years if there was no neurological drive to be so focused on other people?

Men are more often than not wired to be out in the world, looking for things to contribute, or helping protect others from harm. Of course they have their parental instinct but that is often more expressed in practical ways. I think the lines can be blurred, particularly the gender lines with AS people, which is why we are having such a discussion.

Come to think about it, I'm wondering why too. I'd never do that.

In fact, maybe when I do get married (IF I get married), my husband might consider himself lucky if he knows how most women act. I'd let him spend as much "me time" as he wants, and if doing all the house work is expected of me, then that's what I'll do. I'll only ask for occasional help, never complain. If he comes home drunk, I will not question where he has been (but he must not abuse me at all). In fact, I will not do any of the stupid things that most women do.