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Yes. Same thing with gambling, drinking, smoking and online gaming.

I think, An important point has been made here about the manipulation of abusers. As in the article I linked to, abusers can put on a mask of rationality and charm. The abusive side usually isn't obvious until a committed relationship is entered into.

And violence and real threat of death is a common event when a woman leaves an abusive partner.


So, I think we've answered Tim_Tex's first question.

Especially if you add that in with someone who feels downtrodden, like they didn't deserve to have anyone to begin with - and in comes Mr./Miss Wonderful who quite likely knows the craft of making them feel like a million dollars to get them hooked; I can see where it could be tantamount to quitting smack cold turkey.

The fact that people will stay in abusive relationships, because they feel that it's "better than nothing", makes me think that there is no hope for me, even though I would never dream of being abusive or controlling.

It leads me to believe that people will only date me when nobody else will give them the time of day.

That kind of makes it sound like she has low confidence and believes that she deserves to be treated poorly. That could have been a problem she's had all along, or it could be something that arose out of the abuse (abusive people also tend to be very good at convincing the target of their abuse that they are actually doing something to cause the abuse, and it is therefore their own fault). Either way, she will need some help convincing herself that no matter her own flaws she does not deserve to be treated that way.