Who here has never been in a relationship?

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@Willard - Wow! I love the eyes on the wrist (least colorful, but would be so weird/excellent to see IRL!). Are there actually stones embedded in the last one (on the shoulder) - or is that a technique? So interesting. The guy with the heart ripped out (need we say more), the flapper/jester, pretty dove....all of them are so cool. I really like the one on the shoulder, but I'd like it smaller - how long did that one take? (And does the doll watch you work?)

Sorry OP, didn't mean to jack you.

No stones in the butterfly - that girl got out the door before I could snap a pic, and she happened to pop back in a couple days later with her BF, so I grabbed her then. So after the first 48 hrs, the texture you're seeing there is a touch of the normal scabbing process. That little thing took no more than thirty minutes, setup to wipe-down, but it's tiny - you could almost cover it with a half-dollar.

I'm a qualified nun, not even kissed I met someone online, that flopped, I wouldn't know to class it as a relationship, never met anyone in person. I think that says it all. I am now waiting for Mr. Right. I am too shy to even look, hopefully heaven will allow someone to fall from the sky

zeldapsychology, if you claim to be not all that attractive then certain parts of my Darwinian brain will not allow me to desire you, even if you're smart. I hate being human, even though I'm almost not. But if you're not sure, you could always send me a photo.

I am almost a hermit. But once upon a time I went to high school every single day; I went to college every single day; I went to work every single day... and nothing ever happened.

Everyone else, thanks for your comments, I enjoy them all, and keep posting if you want to.

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Check on the kissing. The dating is debatable; one time when I was 17 I believed I got a date with someone, went out and she just wasn't interested in a second, but I was later informed by someone that she had the wrong idea.

I dunno. There's the old adage "better to have loved and lost than to never have loved at all", but is that really true? On the one hand, there's the creeping insecurity around no girl seeing anything in you, on the other, there's the aftermath of feeling like you had a good relationship going and it crumbling; missing sexual intimacy and having a girlfriend and the like. I don't have the authority to say which is worse than the other.

Trust me, as an Aspie who spent years building up romance and intimacy in his head...you're better off not knowing. You'll just want more, and when she dumps you, which inevitably happens, even if it takes a while, you'll be worse off than before. Sure, you'll know that you were at once wanted by someone, but it won't be enough.

As it is, I'm going to go on a hormone suppressor so I stop thinking about women, romance, sex, and my ex as much.

Here we go again, aspies expecting a beauty pagent girlfriend again and complaining because they're alone.

I am extremely picky. Not so much about looks, but for the guy in general.. but guess what.. I don't complain when I can't get one.

Never even kissed anyone.

you're right, it's called being an aspie. you sound neurotypical to me so why do you even post here

Hector & therange, I think it's better to experience intimacy and lose it then wait for the "right one". What if the right one never comes along? And how does one know that the right one came along when she did? I'd rather develop those memories then not. This is the most important of human experiences.

Miss hale bopp, you are a female and wouldn't understand. Looks are much more important to males than they are to females. This is a fact about human psychology. Like I said, I'm not happy about it, but there's nothing I can do.

Well, let's be reasonable here. It doesn't apply to all aspies.

I would think it is pretty normal for a forced celibate, though. Whoever count as what is in your mind as someone who you thought you had a chance with at some point the blown chance will hurt a lot more than for someone who has been in relationships before.

You say that now, but until you experience it, you have no idea. Think of ordering a new dish at a restaurant, having a bite of it and it's really good, then the waiter takes it away and says you can't have any more.

^ Well said and true... But then, I'm a sucker for analogies.

Um, no it isn't, its called working yourself up into an obsession and imagining you're with someone when you aren't, so it's LIKE you were in a relationship, even though you have never had any intimacy with someone, its NOT an aspie trait, its a trait of dellusion and people can fix it by getting more in their lives and not sitting in a room alone obsessing about another person like they're your girlfriend.

Don't give me the whole "aspie" crap, it's a choice to fantasise about yourself in a relationship with someone unattainable, it's your choice to delude yourself into thinking they like you when they have never done anything to imply that, and its easy, even for an aspie to learn not to read into things when there is nothing to read into.

I have done it in the past and I stopped myself because deep down I know there is no point reading into things. I cannot tolerate people who use their diagnosis as an excuse. Obsessing over an unattainable human being is a waste of time. I am trying to let go of someone I was in love with and its painful but its stupid dwelling on him.

Having your heart broken is not a nice feeling. It is a physical feeling as well as emotional. The term was coined I guess as you feel like there is a lump of coal in your chest where your heart is.. literally. Its physically and emotionally uncomfortable.

There is no reason someone you've never had anything with should break your heart in a romantic way unless

a) They're a cock tease
b) You're being dellusional

I beat a servere Obsessive compulive disorder that was damaging my life due to training my mind. It can be done with this.

Are females really that hard to keep? Why did your girlfriend leave you? Was there nothing you could have said or done to change her mind about leaving? I think that if I were in such a situation I would have been able to make her reconsider leaving me. Sorry if this sounds rude, but if I ever got a hold of someone I would leave such a strong imprint in her mind, that if she ever left me the world would look bland & boring to her without my uniqueness.