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19 Sep 2010, 5:51 pm

MizLiz wrote:
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Yes. I have cancer and don't want to be abandoned.
this stopped my breath for a moment. my heart goes out to you.

in my line of work we offer sickness insurance benefts (among other types) to people who can't work due to illness or injury. i have spoken to a few people whose spouses left on hearing the "c" diagnosis. i understand that there must be other factors involved, but it is truly heartbreaking that some persons cannot handle supporting a spouse when they are confronting the horrible possibility of death or permanent disability.

i hope you find love.

Thanks. I used to not even care but now that the possibility of finding love is kind of shot to hell I find that I really REALLY do.


I'm not sure if this will help but maybe you can try focusing on friendships & family instead. I find I'm feeling a bit better about things lately now that I've given up on relationships. I'm much less stressed-out about things.


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21 Sep 2010, 4:16 pm

MizLiz wrote:
hyperlexian wrote:
MizLiz wrote:
Yes. I have cancer and don't want to be abandoned.
this stopped my breath for a moment. my heart goes out to you.

in my line of work we offer sickness insurance benefts (among other types) to people who can't work due to illness or injury. i have spoken to a few people whose spouses left on hearing the "c" diagnosis. i understand that there must be other factors involved, but it is truly heartbreaking that some persons cannot handle supporting a spouse when they are confronting the horrible possibility of death or permanent disability.

i hope you find love.

Thanks. I used to not even care but now that the possibility of finding love is kind of shot to hell I find that I really REALLY do.


Stay strong. That's all I can say.

But about arranged marriage? I'm all for it, and personally, I won't be telling who my kids can and can't marry, but if they have a significant other whose is a real whackjob, I might take issue.



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25 Sep 2010, 3:06 pm

Interesting - my daughter would love it (she spends long hours at work) and my son would hate it. In any case, I think the person entering the marriage should have the right to say no. Looking back, I would have been OK with my father or aunt arranging a marriage for me, but not my mother. I think a matchmaker might be Okay, but they are in it for the profit. Basically, some people would like a lot of the weeding steps done for them. I have seen some great arranged marriages, and some very poor choose-it-yourself.
Now from the point of a parent, it scares me - what if I unknowingly joined my offspring with some brutal jerk? Even if they did forgive me - I would feel terrible. Better I should suggest that this one or that looks interesting because ...