When did you loose your virginity?

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22 May 2010, 1:44 pm

I was 20 at the time. The first person I slept with wasn't that great, but the second person was definitely worth it. I just wish I hadn't ended things like I had. (Although, it might not have worked out anyways, so I'm not too upset about it.)

Two bad experiences, one good, I think I know what sort of partner I want.

I'm 21 now, and I'd rather wait until I find someone I can care about enough to make it worth my time. I'm not going to put myself in another situation where I'm just doing it to do it. (No matter how you spin it, bad sex is bad sex.)

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22 May 2010, 4:53 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

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Asp-Z wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

I never answered the actual question.

My first time of completely consensual sex was when I was 24.
16 year old kids "desperate to lose it" aren't doing themselves any favours.

Why do you say that?

Unwanted pregnancies, risk of STD, and most likely someone is taking advantage of someone else...

You can't expect a teenager to really be thinking about the consequences of their actions. Sure, some do, but not enough to prevent stuff like this from happening...

Condoms fix two of those problems, self-control and common sense fix the last.

Again, you can't expect a teenager to really be thinking about the consequences of their actions. A condom only works if the guy actually wears it. You'd be surprised at the mount of unprotected sex that happens, especially among this age group. You wouldn't have all these stories about teen pregnancies otherwise...

You underestimate teenagers... My peers use condoms when they claim to have had sex... Whether or not they actually have sex when they say they do is another matter, but they're very aware of protection etc.

The stats are there to suggest many are not quite so aware. However, I think this applies more to those a lot younger than 16, now.

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23 May 2010, 4:56 pm

rmgh wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

ToadOfSteel wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

I never answered the actual question.

My first time of completely consensual sex was when I was 24.
16 year old kids "desperate to lose it" aren't doing themselves any favours.

Why do you say that?

Condoms fix two of those problems, self-control and common sense fix the last.

The stats are there to suggest many are not quite so aware. However, I think this applies more to those a lot younger than 16, now.

I had someone in my school try to sell me condoms when I was about 13.

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23 May 2010, 7:16 pm

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I am virgin and probably will always be.

I am just not meant for any kind of relationships.

Aw, poor fella, there's a girl out there for u, you just haven't met her yet. (Well that's what I tell myself about guys...he's out there, and he's getting to me as fast as he can, but i haven't met him yet..)

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23 May 2010, 7:17 pm

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That isn't the reason I said he isn't doing himself any favours. You have those risks whether you have sex at 12, or you have sex in your 20s.

What I meant was:

What will it achieve? A 16 year old virgin is so inexperienced it will hardly make any difference how good he is in bed, and all he has to his name is "I'm not a virgin" which means nothing because it's only words. Most school kids lie about that anyway. Plus the maturity thing, he will in no way be a better, more experienced adult, in fact, it won't make any difference at all.

Why are you so desperate to lose it? Answer me that. I don't understand. Is it so you will sort of know what to do the next time? Is it because you want to think you're "normal"? (And I can assure you, MOST people don't have sex really young. Half the people I know were at least 18 before they did anything - the ones who say they do are most likely LYING), Is it so you can tell people "I'm not a virgin"? Because you can tell them that anyway.

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23 May 2010, 7:27 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

Why are you so desperate to lose it? Answer me that. I don't understand. Is it so you will sort of know what to do the next time? Is it because you want to think you're "normal"? (And I can assure you, MOST people don't have sex really young. Half the people I know were at least 18 before they did anything - the ones who say they do are most likely LYING), Is it so you can tell people "I'm not a virgin"? Because you can tell them that anyway.

Y' know, Hale Bopp, that's the most sense I've heard all day. I don't understand what the big rush is, I'd prefer to be a virgin then have sex with a random just to say I had sex?

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23 May 2010, 7:43 pm

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I lost it in September 2009 at age 29.

holy f**k tim! How did this happen? Are you married? Escort? Good for you buddy

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23 May 2010, 7:45 pm

Being a virgin is a sh*tload better than making a terrible, terrible, TERRIBLE mistake. And I mean EVERY word of that.

No bull-sh*ting, no sugar coating, only blatent concern for the people so desperate to lose it. I have my reasons.

Peer pressure is something we all give into. Be more mature than others and don't have sex for the sake of it.

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23 May 2010, 8:17 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

Peer pressure is something we all give into. Be more mature than others and don't have sex for the sake of it.

Does anyone here really want to do it out of peer pressure? I want to do it, but peer pressure doesn't contribute at all. Not even 1/10th of 1%.

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23 May 2010, 10:31 pm

hale_bopp wrote:

Peer pressure is something we all give into. Be more mature than others and don't have sex for the sake of it.

Now that's something i can truly agree with. I'm not one of those "wait until we're married" kind of people, but I know that i want my first time, if that ever does come to pass, to be with someone I'm truly in love with and i have a long-lasting loving relationship with. And if that is never to happen, so be it. I'm not losing any sleep over being a virgin. What I am losing sleep over is that I'm most likely never going to have the requisite loving relationship, which is more of what i want anyway. I'd rather have the relationship with no sex than sex with no relationship...

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23 May 2010, 11:27 pm

MrDiamondMind wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

Peer pressure is something we all give into. Be more mature than others and don't have sex for the sake of it.

Does anyone here really want to do it out of peer pressure? I want to do it, but peer pressure doesn't contribute at all. Not even 1/10th of 1%.

I'm talking about School kids. Your profile says you're 24.
Kids at school think they are lagging behind if they don't have it. That is a form of peer pressure.. that you're "expected" to have had sex by a certain age.

Many women also put up with it. People are surprised and EXPECT you to be experienced in bed, because they EXPECT you to have lost it as a teen. Its all peer pressure to many people.

Anyway I think many of the people here are desperate to lose it because of peer pressure. If you care about losing VIRGINITY, the word VIRGINITY attached to you, you're pressured by society. If you only just care about having sex, and the word virginity doesn't even matter in the play, whether you are one or not, then no, it doesn't apply,

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24 May 2010, 6:05 am

I lost mine back when I was 18.
Am still close friends with the guy, too.

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24 May 2010, 10:13 am

hale_bopp wrote:

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It's human nature to want sex, and as a teenager the hormones you get increase that. This aspect of human nature is good because, without it, we'd be extinct, won't we?

Most people will want to have sex at that age to fulfill that desire, and for NTs it carries a higher social position, which is why they also lie about it.

I reckon most people have done something by the age of 16, even if they haven't had sex yet, and those who actually have done it will have more experience than a virgin - that's just obvious.

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24 May 2010, 10:42 am

Asp-Z wrote:

hale_bopp wrote:

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It's also a huge boost to one's confidence, especially if you've been laboring under low-self esteem for years or feel like this is the milestone to prove to yourself (and maybe others) that you've finally "made it." This doesn't mean that other difficulties, issues, and problems don't come as a result of it, but for many young people, your first full intimate/sexual experience is a significant milestone and the gateway into adulthood. I know I was a different person after my first time, and even my friends could feel it.

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24 May 2010, 11:11 am

Asp-Z wrote:

I'm still a virgin, but I'm 16 in two months and I plan to get it sorted out then, as long I can actually find someone who wants to do it with me.

That made me laugh :lol:

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24 May 2010, 11:14 am

rmgh wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

I'm still a virgin, but I'm 16 in two months and I plan to get it sorted out then, as long I can actually find someone who wants to do it with me.

That made me laugh :lol:

At WP, my pain is your humour! :lol:

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