I want a relationship NOW!! !

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As Aspies, we're a hindrance to society...we are the unemployed or work entry level jobs unless we have Rain Man like skills in a particular field. We are also the people at the family get-togethers people say "What's up with him/her?"

Damn you're negative! You neglect to mention it's the people who are out of the ordinary who to the extraordinary things! After all, you don't really get anywhere acting like all the other sheep, you only get to be as good as they are, but when you're your own person, your potential is unlimited.

I get the impression that a majority of people on these boards has a meaningful job, and as for those dullards at family get-togethers, it's their fault if they feel a need to point out, in a rather condenscending way, perfectly acceptable behaviour.

Not all of us are like that. Sure my family thinks I'm odd but I'm also one of the few who's getting a college education so they can bugger off. I have friends who don't even know about my AS, they just think I'm eccentric, which is fine with me. Yes I'm unemployed now, lost my job and decided to take the summer off to work on myself a bit. I can get an even better job once I graduate. So there's no real need to assume you're a hindrance just because of the way you're born.

I couldn't even work a 20 hour job doing shipping and receiving...I wanted to kill myself over hating the job. Then after quitting the job, wanted to kill myself over not being able to handle the job.

You not being able to handle something =/= all Aspies not being able to handle something

Then that may have been the wrong job for you. That doesn't mean you couldn't do ANY job.

Hate to be unsympathetic but, that's entirely your problem. You shouldn't project your self-esteem and self-worth issues on us.

My self-esteem is no longer based on my ability to hold a job. I came to terms with my Aspergers and limitations.

Most Aspies I know in general, from the local national aspergers association, are unemployed, work entry level, 10 dollar an hour jobs, or have some savant like skill.

I shouldn't Aspie-bash...I'm quite happy being an Aspie...it means nothing is expected of me, I can live on social security benefits the rest of my life, and I get a free pass from my family. Moreover, I'm free to live the reclusive lifestyle I want and not deal with the sheep and idiotic people.

My only regret is I likely won't have the sex life I dream of, but most guys don't have that unless they're rich or famous.

I have never felt bad about being a 'looser' on benefits as I was born without a work ethic and with strong anti capitalist tendancies, so Im ok with that. (Aswell a lot of aspie type people of the past did ok as they could just do their interests and live off their inheritance (darwin etc) that would have suited me).

I think the rubbish thing about AS is more the not being able to maintain friendships. I think I could live without relationships if I could have companionship and friendships from another source than a lover. Its a lonely life with no one to be close to or share with. Though the ideal thing would be to have a nice lover who you can share times with and be close to and have a never ending supply of sex from!

I hope you do find a woman and be able to hold on to her. It is rubbish haveing the inability to do either

I think this is key to aspie guys difficulties with getting dates. I expect NT women with their mysterious magical powers of body language reading and high EQ's can tell that is what a relationship will be like with aspie guys and so pass them over (NT jerks would be able to mask their bad character with body language and social skills).

I guess I'm lucky that I have a very strong relationship with my parents and brother (who's a year younger than me.) I no longer crave any type of emotional connection with anyone else, because even if I meet a woman who's different from the rest, yada yada yada, it most likely wouldn't be truly unconditional love.

I know my parents won't live forever, but if worst came to worst, I could talk to sympathetic doctors (or doctors doing a good job of pretending to be sympathetic.)

That is very lucky! Im not on speaking terms with anyone in my family and tend to not get on with any of the therapists/psychologists Ive seen. You must be more likeable than I to have good relations with your family, that bodes well for getting a gf.

I had Toad-esque stubbornness (no offense Toad) until age 25. I would often tell my parents, in very harsh language, that I regretted being born. And I fought help for years. What helped was the Asperger diagnosis (at age 23) and also gaining some self-esteem on my own, and developing healthy relationships with my parents. I've always been close with my brother, though. We call him Asperger Light, because he doesn't have Aspergers, but he isn't an extrovert and has out of the box interests.

my childs clinical psychologist said she did not think my problems with people were to do with my aspergers but because of my personality, she said I had the most challengeing personality of anyone she had met. She said she was very taken aback by me until she had got used to me, but she added that she thought it was good to challenge people so I should not feel bad about that.

It was very useful her saying that as it highlighted to me why things go wrong if people find me challenging, I should not expect many people would like being challanged!