Women: How important is ________ to you?

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Phew! I'm safe then. Now, in this modern world where there's equal job rights and pay for both sexes, do I only need enough money to cover my own maintenance costs? If I need more, what would it be spent on?

spend it on toys lol.

i spent several years as the major breadwinner in my household. there were a few occasions and reasons, like when my husband was in university, or over the summers when he was a stay-at-home dad, or when we were living in a region of over 50% unemployment. he had his own projects, i.e. he made a short film, started an online bookstore, wrote philosophy stuff, created art, etc.

right now he makes more money than me, but it was not important to me either way. we each contributed in different ways over the years.

Being employed - Extremely High
Quality of job - High
Prospects for future advancement - Extremely High
Having a car - Extremely High
Quality of car - High
Hair style - Indifferent
Size of living accommodations - Indifferent
Good neighborhood - High
Nice furniture - High
Organized, clean home - High
Muscle tone - Indifferent
Skin - High
Smile - High
Facial Hair (either way) - Low (I dislike facial hair on men)
Clothing style - High
Body shape - Indifferent
Shared interests - High
Sensitivity - Indifferent
Intelligence - High
Effort - High
Sense of humor - High
Confidence - High
Courage - High
Giving attention - Indifferent
Sexual prowess - Indifferent
Flirtation - Indifferent
Romantic behavior - High
Persistence - High
Respectfulness - High
Playfulness - High
Spontaneity - High
Forethought - High
Assertiveness - High
Aggressiveness - High
Submissiveness - Low
Flattery - Low
Openness/Sharing - Indifferent
Intensity - Indifferent
Light-heartedness - Indifferent
Carefulness - High
Fearlessness - High


With me on how I see things, its "either, or, I don't really care." You are who you are, I have no right to change that.

Being employed Not important, many people go through phases without work. It depends on the reason for it.

Quality of job Again not important, but I would prefer they didnt have a job where they get gross stuff in their fingernails, ie toilet emptier (Kenny The Toilet Man)

Prospects for future advancement It would be nice if they had an ok income but then again I dont either so it is not even relevant

Having a car That is only good in a place where a car is needed. If there is a lot of public transport it is not a problem if they dont have a car.

Quality of car As long as it doesnt smell or have a greasy inside, and isnt unsafe. Though when i was younger I was once embarassed by the car this guy who wanted to date me had. It looked very conspicuous and people looked at us. I would also prefer they drove safely.

Hair style It would be nice if they had a nice hairstyle, I like hair, but looks arent important as personality.

Size of living accommodations Im not concerned if it is a little small as long as it doesnt gross me out or doesnt have asbestos or something.

Good neighborhood Reasonable, I dont mind a mix of ethnic people as long as the street isnt dangerous.

Nice furniture I do like furniture. I dont like grimy or smelly furniture though, or scary colour combos.
Organized, clean home Not important, to an extent. Im pretty messy myself.
Muscle tone Not important
Skin Hopefully nice, but not important
Smile
Facial Hair (either way)
Clothing style
Body shape
Shared interests
Sensitivity
Intelligence
Effort
Sense of humor
Confidence
Courage
Giving attention
Sexual prowess
Flirtation
Romantic behavior
Persistence
Respectfulness
Playfulness
Spontaneity
Forethought
Assertiveness
Aggressiveness
Submissiveness
Flattery
Openness/Sharing
Intensity
Light-heartedness
Carefulness
Fearlessness



its going to take me days to do this.i will come back later.

Interesting though.

(Some of my answers might come off a bit materialistic; if so, it's because I was married to a man who took advantage of my trusting nature and student loan money. My answers are also targeted toward men in their 20s because I'm 23 and look for potential mates close to my age. I'm a student, so I understand not being 100% put together, but I do expect a guy to want to be put together someday.)

Being employed: Very important.
Quality of job: Not important, if he intends to advance.
Prospects for future advancement: Important; if you complain every day about hating your job and do nothing to change it, that is not something I want to deal with.
Having a car: Kind of necessary if you have a job, unless you live in a place with great public transportation or are within walking distance of your job.
Quality of car: Doesn't matter.
Size of living accommodations: Doesn't matter.
Good neighborhood: Matters a little. I don't want to get shanked when I visit you.
Nice furniture: Doesn't matter, but there should be the standard things -- a bed, a couch, chairs, whatever is logical. Here's an example of illogical -- if you have a PS3 and a big screen TV but lack furniture to sleep on. (I've known younger men who've done this.)
Organized, clean home: Some disorganization is okay. Leaving food around to rot and smell bad is not okay.

Muscle tone: Doesn't matter.
Skin: Doesn't matter.
Smile: Doesn't matter.
Facial Hair (either way): Doesn't matter.
Clothing style: Lacking food stains.
Body shape: Doesn't matter.
Hair style: Doesn't matter.
(I mean, there are certain physical things I like more than others, but personality is what attracts me.)

Shared interests: Very important. I'm a good listener, but he has to care about my life, too.
Sensitivity: Very important. (Part of why I'm here on this forum is to learn why my current partner, an aspie, doesn't comes off as insensitive when he doesn't mean to.)
Intelligence: Very important.
Effort: In what, exactly? Probably very important, though, because I dislike laziness.
Sense of humor: Very important.
Confidence: Neutral; I'm a supportive person.
Courage: Not sure what you mean here.
Giving attention: Depends on the situation, but don't ignore me.
Sexual prowess: I want someone accepting, enthusiastic, and willing to both teach and learn. Skill will follow.
Flirtation: I used to really want this, but my current guy doesn't understand flirting and I don't know if that's any loss.
Romantic behavior: Like what, gifts and crap? No. Physical closeness and saying nice things are great, though.

Persistence: Not sure what you mean here.
Respectfulness: Very important.
Playfulness: Important.
Spontaneity: I don't expect 100% randomness, but I don't want someone 100% stuck in routine, either.
Forethought: Meaning what? Thinking through one's actions? Necessary.
Assertiveness: Important. I want someone who will say what they mean.
Aggressiveness: Some is good, too much is bad.
Submissiveness: Some is good, too much is bad.
Flattery: Not very important, though sometimes it is nice.
Openness/Sharing: Very important.
Intensity: Some is good, too much is bad. I don't want someone that always brings me down.
Light-heartedness: Some is good, too much is bad. I don't want someone that can never be serious.
Carefulness: Some is good, too much is bad. Inaction is worse than making bad choices.
Fearlessness: Some is good, too much is bad. Decisions should be thought through.


(Being able to hold a real conversation is also very important, but not explicitly stated on the list; I can't be with someone who doesn't know how to talk to me. Maturity is important. Understanding that I'm a busy student is important. Understanding that I have different needs than you do is important.)