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20 Oct 2010, 7:47 am

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No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story.

You're wrong. You see them get together with sexist, misogyinst pigs all the time. Recently someone moved into the share house where I live, and you'd constantly hear him verbally abusing his girlfriend, talking to her worse than you'd talk to a dog. (Thankfully he moved back out a week or two ago.) Was he forced to stay single? You bet he wasn't. So the "Misogyny's what's driving them away" line is a furphy.



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20 Oct 2010, 7:53 am

BPalmer wrote:
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No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story.

You're wrong. You see them get together with sexist, misogyinst pigs all the time. Recently someone moved into the share house where I live, and you'd constantly hear him verbally abusing his girlfriend, talking to her worse than you'd talk to a dog. (Thankfully he moved back out a week or two ago.) Was he forced to stay single? You bet he wasn't. So the "Misogyny's what's driving them away" line is a furphy.


Ok, i'll elaborate further. Sorry to say, but some people might put up with alpha pigs, but noone is going to put up with a sexist pig on the bottom of the social ladder. Thats the worst guy you can get in many womans eyes. (I'm not talking about myself, im talking about many women)



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20 Oct 2010, 7:54 am

BPalmer wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story.

You're wrong. You see them get together with sexist, misogyinst pigs all the time. Recently someone moved into the share house where I live, and you'd constantly hear him verbally abusing his girlfriend, talking to her worse than you'd talk to a dog. (Thankfully he moved back out a week or two ago.) Was he forced to stay single? You bet he wasn't. So the "Misogyny's what's driving them away" line is a furphy.


How about "No well balanced woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story."



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20 Oct 2010, 7:59 am

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Well someone with AS was in a relationship with me for 3 n a half years, so in answer to the original question, yes they do.

Their still as much a pain in the arse as NT women are, moaning, nagging, ego's the size of planets. Always right, no sense of bloody direction what so ever, god never gave her the map my god we'd of ended up in bloody timbuktu through the scenic route....

So yes thats my death sentance pretty much gartunteed now :lol:


My sense of direction is so bad, I can't find my way out of my massive ego. Someone hand me a map before I get lost in here. :P


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20 Oct 2010, 8:04 am

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Sorry to say, but some people might put up with alpha pigs, but noone is going to put up with a sexist pig on the bottom of the social ladder. Thats the worst guy you can get in many womans eyes. (I'm not talking about myself, im talking about many women)

So it's OK for alpha males to be sexist, but not other males, eh?



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20 Oct 2010, 8:06 am

Ah a common afflication i'd help you out but you'd only moan about it afterwards that i didn't give you a chance to work it out yourself and that you would of done it 10,000x better anyway cause you've got more sense then a spazz like me :P



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20 Oct 2010, 8:28 am

BPalmer wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Sorry to say, but some people might put up with alpha pigs, but noone is going to put up with a sexist pig on the bottom of the social ladder. Thats the worst guy you can get in many womans eyes. (I'm not talking about myself, im talking about many women)

So it's OK for alpha males to be sexist, but not other males, eh?


OK? No. It's not ok. But their alpha-ness is a sufficiently huge positive that it offsets the huge negative of being a sexist pig in the minds of some women (not any women on WP-that's pretty clear). Any giant negative needs to be offset with a giant positive. Putting two giant negatives together leads to no interest from women.



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20 Oct 2010, 8:32 am

BPalmer wrote:
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Sorry to say, but some people might put up with alpha pigs, but noone is going to put up with a sexist pig on the bottom of the social ladder. Thats the worst guy you can get in many womans eyes. (I'm not talking about myself, im talking about many women)

So it's OK for alpha males to be sexist, but not other males, eh?


These people usually hide their sexism for a while into the beginning of the relationship, and then once an attachment is there, s**t begins to fly.

That's something I've observed anyway.



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20 Oct 2010, 8:38 am

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Ah a common afflication i'd help you out but you'd only moan about it afterwards that i didn't give you a chance to work it out yourself and that you would of done it 10,000x better anyway cause you've got more sense then a spazz like me :P


I make one simple request, and you can't even handle that, you lazy blah blah blah blah blah blah blah...


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20 Oct 2010, 9:05 am

Janissy wrote:
BPalmer wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
Sorry to say, but some people might put up with alpha pigs, but noone is going to put up with a sexist pig on the bottom of the social ladder. Thats the worst guy you can get in many womans eyes. (I'm not talking about myself, im talking about many women)

So it's OK for alpha males to be sexist, but not other males, eh?


OK? No. It's not ok. But their alpha-ness is a sufficiently huge positive that it offsets the huge negative of being a sexist pig in the minds of some women (not any women on WP-that's pretty clear). Any giant negative needs to be offset with a giant positive. Putting two giant negatives together leads to no interest from women.


This.

Be sexist if you want, but don't expect to get anyone. I'm just telling you the facts. Alpha is a positive trait, Sexism Negative. For a lot of women that positive overpowers the negative.

Some butthurt guy with aspergers?

Two negatives.

You may want to stop challenging me and accept I'm trying to show you how a lot of women think. I am not saying this on behalf of my own beliefs.

Both guys sound like twats to me in said example. :lol:



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20 Oct 2010, 1:04 pm

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No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story.


Why it's a negative trait , it doesn't seem to effect much. In fact, the opposite of sexism (belief in gender equality) is barely an add-value in the eyes of most women:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt131312.html



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20 Oct 2010, 2:14 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story.


Why it's a negative trait , it doesn't seem to effect much. In fact, the opposite of sexism (belief in gender equality) is barely an add-value in the eyes of most women:

http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt131312.html


It actually varies to a great extent depending on the crowd you're in.



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20 Oct 2010, 4:24 pm

Yes, they date people with AS.

However, don't make assessments about whether you would be in such a relationship, under the assumption that everybody is at the same level of functioning. In other words, don't knock it until you try it.

That said, other things to factor in include asexuality, the need for more physical space, sensory issues. If both partners can find ways to work around those things, then there is no reason why it wouldn't work out.


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20 Oct 2010, 7:55 pm

I wouldn't mind dating an AS girl at all.



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21 Oct 2010, 5:52 pm

Gremmie wrote:
BPalmer wrote:
hale_bopp wrote:
No woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story.

You're wrong. You see them get together with sexist, misogyinst pigs all the time. Recently someone moved into the share house where I live, and you'd constantly hear him verbally abusing his girlfriend, talking to her worse than you'd talk to a dog. (Thankfully he moved back out a week or two ago.) Was he forced to stay single? You bet he wasn't. So the "Misogyny's what's driving them away" line is a furphy.


How about "No well balanced woman wants to date a sexist woman hater, end of story."


^ This.

I also agree with the two giant negatives vs one massive negative and one massive positive explanation other posters have given. I also have one further question for you:

You're saying it's unfair that alpha males may be able to get away with being misogynistic pigs and still get a gf but AS males can't. Seriously, why not just NOT be a misogynistic pig in the first place. A giant NEGATIVE helps nobody's chances (even alpha males; I can tell you right now, non-misogynist decent alpha males have way more success in the dating pool than misogynistic pig alpha males).

Yes, the AS can be a giant negative (for both aspie guys and girls ). Life's not fair, we have to make do with what we have and work on our positive traits to outweigh our problematic neurology.

If I were you I would spend less time obsessing about how alpha males can get away with being misogynistic pigs while you can't, and more time looking into yourself, finding your POSITIVE qualities, and working on developing those. Therein lies your best chance of finding a relationship.


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21 Oct 2010, 7:55 pm

I find it interesting that so many Aspie guys here think that Aspie women don't date Aspie men. I work at with engineers where there are quite a few that would probably be somewhere on the Autism spectrum, and they all have NT wives. You'd think in a company with 97% men, there would be a few singles, but there isn't.