Match.com: What was I thinking?

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Yeah, he probably has to adapt , at least a little bit.

Of course you're right, there must be a "pearl" in there somewhere, but how are you supposed to find it when most of the profiles are the same and therefore could not possibly be realistic enough to know?

I suppose those profiles are just like campaign promises, forgotten by everyone the day after the election. Not a big deal unless you are hyper-dependent on words, which of course I am.

I guess I'll just stop worrying about it and just write to someone who is "hot".

I take offense to that. I have super strength powers.

Mods...ban this guy for being racist against superheros

I don't know. These sites can't do everything for you ... you still have to do your legwork

And how are you so sure they're not "realistic", anyway?



If you base your choice solely on looks, you're simply repeating the same mistake men make when they pick out someone at a bar or whatever. You're just doing it from behind a keyboard instead of from behind a pool table. You're setting yourself up for the same kind of failure.

I don't mean to sound bitchy, but I think you might be expecting too much from online sites. They're the cyber equivalent to mixers. They bring people together, in a manner of speaking, but you still have to meet these people and establish some kind of connection with them.

Good luck

on here, they usually can

also women don't like sexist a holes

@CaroleTucson

Yes, my natural tendency is to hang on every word of a profile and take each as immutable truth - probably not a good idea, but I plead "Aspie"

Of course the "hot" thing was a joke (although it certainly doesn't hurt)...

Thanks so much for the help...

Honestly, I would show off the fact that you have a lot of money. You might attract shallow women. So, be sure to find ways to legally protect your assets as best as possible.



Your personality still turns me on though.......too bad im into women more than men dude.


I think you would be popular in the gay world

I'll have to pass on hanging out the Goldigger bait, my policy is to simply make it clear that I am comfortably self-sufficient and let them find the rest out later, it usually never gets that far though.

Regarding the gay thing, I am not even the tiniest bit interested in men - they are sexually on a par with dandelions or caterpillars to me, non-entities in this regard.

I'll be OK, just fell into a funk after spending a week in Europe alone - it just seems like it would be so easy to find someone to share my adventures with, and it's very frustrating...

I can tell you as an aspie bodybuilder....I have females coming up to me that are married to men like you...willing to just f**k and run.



I don't do that s**t though.

How noble of you.

I'm sure they were profoundly disappointed.

At the risk of repeating someone else's suggestion, why not ditch the dating sites and get involved in a group centered around an interest of yours? Dating sites put the pressure on right away. Other avenues might allow you to make a decision about who you'd like to get to know better in a more comfortable way.

Thanks for the suggestion, I belong to a couple of different naturalist groups but never met anyone "datable" there.

Besides, the theory behind the online thing is that I might be able to get a few words in before they run away in terror...

Oh ... sorry! ...

*giggle*

I've made my rounds at dating sites(Okcupid, Match, Plenyoffish, Yahoo, and several others... even Adult Friend Finder). Pretty got the same results everywhere I looked. Same kind of well-off women with the same tastes and apparently looking for the same guy. I did this for years and only got to meet one person who quickly flaked out. Many others I managed to chat to, but also flaked out and of course the dozens upon dozens of intro messages that went ignored. I just gave up on the whole nonsense and it was more depressing than fulfilling.

I've learned over time I prefer to observe how some people act and behave before trying to talk to them. Looking a list of a person's junk on a profile just doesn't do it for me. So yeah, I suppose taking part in forums of interest and talking with many many others is probably the better way to go. Still leaves a lot up to chance though but things will probably work out more naturally.