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16 Dec 2010, 6:13 pm

hmmm...fetishes...quite a topic. Let see

FA fetish
Furry Art
Dark Humor/Literature
Geekiness/Nerdiness
Intellect
Hippies
Goths

Weapons (the older the better, such as Medieval European)
- Morning Star
- Flail
- Battle Axes!
- all manner of blades
- knives

Kink in various forms


Did I win?!??!?



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27 Jan 2011, 1:22 am

HopefulRomantic wrote:

As I am familiar with the medieval romance canon of Chretien de Troyes (English was one of my majors at Rutgers), I can relate to the knight/damsel in distress paradigm you mention.

That explains why I have noticed some of the things I have....clear, well thought out opinons.. very nice.


HopefulRomantic wrote:
Personally, I don't want (or never have for that matter) wanted a white knight to idealize me (put me on a pedestal of sorts). Perhaps, the idealized is the operative word here. And if something is "idealized", chances are it is unattainable and not grounded in reality.

That's why social idealists and realists both exist. Social idealists think of the possibilities, and the realists ask, "Is this possible?"

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I view a viable romantic match as a man who is a partner with whom I am compatible intellectually, spiritually, physically, ethically, etc. More specifically, in these modern times, I think that stereotypical conventional male/female roles have been rendered outdated.

I agree with you here about outdated roles TOTALLY. Your four (or five) dimensional idea is a great one. All people should consider adopting it for their own lives. I can envision you with a Rennaisance type of individual.

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I don't want someone to take care of me or make me happy. I honestly believe that two partners should take care of each other to the best of their ability. Moreover, I don't think that anyone can or should have the responsibility to make their partner happy.
Ummmm... no. Each person is responsible for his/her own happiness in life. I cannot make you happy; you cannot make me happy. We can make each other happier than what we are, but it cannot be the base of happiness.

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Perhaps, a successful romantic relationship is a partnership that is mutually beneficial for both parties. If the primary reason two people are together is economic, where is the romance? I believe the reason for being with someone is because you want to be and choose to be for the right reasons (as in you are in love with your best friend, your lover and your life partner who has your back and you have theirs without exception)!.

Exactly.. you're spot on.


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27 Jan 2011, 1:35 am

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my alarm clock



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27 Jan 2011, 11:34 am

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What arouses you?


my alarm clock


"The next day, my alarm went off and I JIZZED IN MY PANTS"

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VLnWf1sQkjY[/youtube]

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27 Jan 2011, 11:40 am

Cake tins. Oh mama.



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27 Jan 2011, 6:42 pm

Women.



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28 Jan 2011, 1:38 am

Sally Traffic from BBC Radio 2 for some reason


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28 Jan 2011, 9:42 am

any kind of attention! :D


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28 Jan 2011, 10:30 am

hyperbole wrote:
any kind of attention! :D


Droppin the soap in prison will get you some attention, not neccesarily in a way that favours you.


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28 Jan 2011, 10:34 am

Laz wrote:
hyperbole wrote:
any kind of attention! :D


Droppin the soap in prison will get you some attention, not neccesarily in a way that favours you.


lucky for me I'm not in prison and won't be any time in the future.


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28 Jan 2011, 10:38 am

hyperbole wrote:
Laz wrote:
hyperbole wrote:
any kind of attention! :D


Droppin the soap in prison will get you some attention, not neccesarily in a way that favours you.


lucky for me I'm not in prison and won't be any time in the future.


You never know

In the event that you do, consider it a free colonic irrigation therapy


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28 Jan 2011, 10:47 am

Laz wrote:
hyperbole wrote:
Laz wrote:
hyperbole wrote:
any kind of attention! :D


Droppin the soap in prison will get you some attention, not neccesarily in a way that favours you.


lucky for me I'm not in prison and won't be any time in the future.


You never know

In the event that you do, consider it a free colonic irrigation therapy


I don't do anything illegal.


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29 Jan 2011, 4:02 pm

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Oh okay - I see. :D

& i have a whole bunch of fetishes.


ditto.



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29 Jan 2011, 4:04 pm

Trampolines.


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29 Jan 2011, 4:06 pm

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Trampolines.


Me too, but only when girls are jumping on them ;)



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29 Jan 2011, 8:55 pm

JazzofLife wrote:
HopefulRomantic wrote:

As I am familiar with the medieval romance canon of Chretien de Troyes (English was one of my majors at Rutgers), I can relate to the knight/damsel in distress paradigm you mention.

That explains why I have noticed some of the things I have....clear, well thought out opinons.. very nice.


HopefulRomantic wrote:
Personally, I don't want (or never have for that matter) wanted a white knight to idealize me (put me on a pedestal of sorts). Perhaps, the idealized is the operative word here. And if something is "idealized", chances are it is unattainable and not grounded in reality.

That's why social idealists and realists both exist. Social idealists think of the possibilities, and the realists ask, "Is this possible?"

HopefulRomantic wrote:
I view a viable romantic match as a man who is a partner with whom I am compatible intellectually, spiritually, physically, ethically, etc. More specifically, in these modern times, I think that stereotypical conventional male/female roles have been rendered outdated.

I agree with you here about outdated roles TOTALLY. Your four (or five) dimensional idea is a great one. All people should consider adopting it for their own lives. I can envision you with a Rennaisance type of individual.

HopefulRomantic wrote:
I don't want someone to take care of me or make me happy. I honestly believe that two partners should take care of each other to the best of their ability. Moreover, I don't think that anyone can or should have the responsibility to make their partner happy.
Ummmm... no. Each person is responsible for his/her own happiness in life. I cannot make you happy; you cannot make me happy. We can make each other happier than what we are, but it cannot be the base of happiness.

HopefulRomantic wrote:
Perhaps, a successful romantic relationship is a partnership that is mutually beneficial for both parties. If the primary reason two people are together is economic, where is the romance? I believe the reason for being with someone is because you want to be and choose to be for the right reasons (as in you are in love with your best friend, your lover and your life partner who has your back and you have theirs without exception)!.

Exactly.. you're spot on.



Thank you very much! Isn't love grand?

Leslie