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19 Dec 2010, 9:22 am

I choose people on personality first - like I said, Hyperlexian's personality is very attractive to me, but I have no idea what she looks like - when considering the question thinking of looks didn't come into it until after i'd posted and thought 'huh, i have no idea what she looks like.'

:roll: way to generalize everyone.

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19 Dec 2010, 9:25 am

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people here do not reply much to people who's pictures they have never seen.

i saw that "post a pic of the real you" thread, and i noted that people who were "pretty" developed a fan club rapidly, and people who were plain got not many comments.

i do not care what a person looks like. if they say what i can understand and identify with, i will take notice of what they write in future.

most people here seem to be biased with respect to what the poster "looks" like, and i am not at all inspired to involve myself in such a group of people.

most people on this site say they value intelligence over looks, but they can not perceive intelligence from people with average looks if they are only listening to who they find physically attractive.

what ever....

Yep, because they can totally tell the intellect of someone based of a picture on a thread :roll:

. Of COURSE, looks will be valued in such a thread as that particular thread is there for that purpose. It isn't like people are looking to get married when they see those threads(I hope not anyway)

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19 Dec 2010, 9:26 am

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way to generalize everyone.

The trouble with forum dating is you are kind of taking a gamble when it comes to dating them. Unless they have a picture...

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19 Dec 2010, 9:35 am

I mean in the context of this thread. Because i've read the posts of people who's personalities are attractive - it's not the same as looking at a dating profile, imo.

I don't think I could use one of those sites for that reason - it's all based on the picture basically. >.<

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19 Dec 2010, 9:45 am

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Yep, because they can totally tell the intellect of someone based of a picture on a thread :roll:

they are only interested in the intellect of those they are physically attracted to.
they could not give a damn for the words from the mouths of whom they do not want to kiss.

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19 Dec 2010, 10:20 am

Oi, no way I'm saying. The age difference makes the thought way too creepy.

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19 Dec 2010, 12:28 pm

b9 wrote:

ApsieGuy wrote:

b9 wrote:

Yep, because they can totally tell the intellect of someone based of a picture on a thread :roll:

they are only interested in the intellect of those they are physically attracted to.
they could not give a damn for the words from the mouths of whom they do not want to kiss.

Your logic is partially flawed when applied to the real world. Most people will give someone they find decent looking a chance. If that person proves to be intellectually stimulating, someone who values intellect will date that person.

Logic FLAWED

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19 Dec 2010, 12:56 pm

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I'm wary of dating via WP now. Relationships here for me have always ended so badly

It's a good thing Sockpuppet left in that case, but things with him are kinda fading to nothing :cry:

i'm still holding out for you, blue_bean. :wink:

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19 Dec 2010, 1:02 pm

b9 wrote:

they are only interested in the intellect of those they are physically attracted to.
they could not give a damn for the words from the mouths of whom they do not want to kiss.

i do agree that on many cases we overlook potentially negative things when a person is good-looking. things like bad behaviour, lower intellect, etc. become less of an issue if we find a person attractive.

i do find that in a mixed group of men and women in real life, many of the men pay closest attention to what the most beautiful woman says, even if she is just repeating the words of mere mortals like me. i am sure that men find the same situation can happen to them.

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19 Dec 2010, 2:02 pm

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b9 wrote:

they are only interested in the intellect of those they are physically attracted to.
they could not give a damn for the words from the mouths of whom they do not want to kiss.

I agree. One potentially negative thing I overlook with women is whether they are not a superhero. Sometimes, I will go "Well, he isn't a superhero, but she is good looking"

That wasn't funny at all. However, it was out of place. So, that should make it funny?

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19 Dec 2010, 2:13 pm

ApsieGuy wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

b9 wrote:

they are only interested in the intellect of those they are physically attracted to.
they could not give a damn for the words from the mouths of whom they do not want to kiss.

actually, it made me laugh. beautiful women are kind of like superheroes - they have minor superpowers that attract a large proportion of all available male attention with a single glance.

if these women are also intelligent, graceful, well-spoken, and socially comfortable, then they are pretty much unstoppable. they make the rest of us look like clumsy, stuttering, attention-seeking, painted clowns. or like boring mortals.

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19 Dec 2010, 2:16 pm

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Because I would really love to meet some people like me who I can become friends with rather than waft through the super cools.

You'd seem like a person I would consider a friend or would want to know more about. If you only lived near San Francisco instead of 15,000+ miles away in New Zealand...

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19 Dec 2010, 3:24 pm

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The cliques here are the reason I don't post anymore, and threads like this.

Just can't get away from it! Every site you go to there are "cool" people and then theres the rest.. can someone give me an example of a site that isn't like that? Because I would really love to meet some people like me who I can become friends with rather than waft through the super cools.

I think cliques have less power on sites where the rules are enforced consistently and fairly. When members who really should be banned are allowed to hang around, there's no incentive for their behavior to improve. Unfortunately, they typically go underground (via sock puppets), or engage in behind-the-scenes rumor mongering, spreading lies about other members, and/or any other type of "whispered" hate campaigns their fragile little minds can concoct. Really disgusting, juvenile and cowardly behavior, IMO. It's too bad, because members who add something to the community are often driven away because they just don't want to deal with all the haters. What a waste.

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19 Dec 2010, 3:25 pm

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Oi, no way I'm saying. The age difference makes the thought way too creepy.

Yeah, but you're the young one, which isn't creepy.

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19 Dec 2010, 3:26 pm

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QFT

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19 Dec 2010, 3:32 pm

I'm not really aware of cliques and cool kids here. Though I see there are certain people who post a lot - I've not considered them popular, just lonely, talkative or obsessive. And I like just about everyone here, and I don't mind these kinds of threads, even if I don't find myself mentioned. They're fun.

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I'd booby-cut mustard with you, Laz. :twisted:

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