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26 Dec 2010, 1:10 pm

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why do I bother

Bother?! Where! People are still in flux. If you bothered, then you would show that you cared. Showing that you cared would yield results.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:13 pm

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I just feel my time is going to run out soon. Unless a girl is so f**** in the head, I doubt I can find a girlfriend even though everyone says I have a lot going for me. I might as well just kill myself.

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:14 pm

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There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

Thats what I was told once. Then I told the person that I need to experience having someone actually there in a girlfriend role.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:17 pm

Craig28 wrote:

Kilroy wrote:

why do I bother

Bother?! Where! People are still in flux. If you bothered, then you would show that you cared. Showing that you cared would yield results.

care about what?
that you think you have the biggest problems in the world?

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26 Dec 2010, 1:17 pm

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There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

And I don't get that at all! I don't care what people say about there's good things in store for me. I'm sad, lonely and depressed. My parents are oppressive. I've never had a girlfriend nor lost my virginity yet. I've never felt loved before. I just see my parents as an ATM - they've never truly loved me. I don't think I'll ever have a girlfriend until it's too late - in my late 30s or my early 40s.

Maybe I should have killed myself years ago. I am a truly sh***y person.

Maybe I do need professional help to see the person I truly am.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:18 pm

Craig28 wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

Thats what I was told once. Then I told the person that I need to experience having someone actually there in a girlfriend role.

The point is that you need to stop acting like you have problems stopping you from getting a girlfriend, because people with worse problems have done it fine. You say you want someone "in a girlfriend role", then stop making excuses and actually make an attempt at getting a girlfriend.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:18 pm

Craig28 wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

Thats what I was told once. Then I told the person that I need to experience having someone actually there in a girlfriend role.

coming from a person who sees prostitutes... :roll:

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26 Dec 2010, 1:19 pm

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There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

That line of thinking isn't helping anything, and I suggest that, if that is your true view of yourself and your situation, that you visit the doctor and get yourself sorted.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:21 pm

nthach wrote:

Craig28 wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

Thats what I was told once. Then I told the person that I need to experience having someone actually there in a girlfriend role.

coming from a person who sees prostitutes... :roll:

So? I don't enjoy it. I just needed the whole "I've had sex now" thing.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:28 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

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nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

That line of thinking isn't helping anything, and I suggest that, if that is your true view of yourself and your situation, that you visit the doctor and get yourself sorted.

Not an option. They're give me a dangerous band-aid fix in a pill like Prozac or Zyprexa. Been there, NEVER doing that again.

I just want this void in my life filled. I want the pain I feel everyday to end. I'd wish I wasn't Asian or an aspie. I think God has cursed me and given me the short end of stick with this double whammy.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:31 pm

Craig28 wrote:

nthach wrote:

Craig28 wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

Thats what I was told once. Then I told the person that I need to experience having someone actually there in a girlfriend role.

coming from a person who sees prostitutes... :roll:

So? I don't enjoy it. I just needed the whole "I've had sex now" thing.

kind of ruins the idea, I imagine the whole idea is to get respect from people, but few are gonna respect you for losing your virginity to a prostitute

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26 Dec 2010, 1:31 pm

nthach wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

That line of thinking isn't helping anything, and I suggest that, if that is your true view of yourself and your situation, that you visit the doctor and get yourself sorted.

Go to a psychiatrist or something then. I can't help you on a forum, but someone can, and someone needs to.

You can't change your genetics, but you can change your attitude.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:35 pm

nthach wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

That line of thinking isn't helping anything, and I suggest that, if that is your true view of yourself and your situation, that you visit the doctor and get yourself sorted.

you don't necessarily need drugs, but you definitely need therapy NOW. like, an emergency support line. we can support each other on WP a little, but we are not trained and knowledgeable in the specific area in which you need assistance. and we don't live near you so we don't know what resources are available.

having a girlfriend will not help you at all if you think you are worthless without one. with real assistance you can feel worthwhile with or without a girlfriend.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:36 pm

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

Asp-Z wrote:

nthach wrote:

There are people with worse problems than you who have girlfriends.

That line of thinking isn't helping anything, and I suggest that, if that is your true view of yourself and your situation, that you visit the doctor and get yourself sorted.

Go to a psychiatrist or something then. I can't help you on a forum, but someone can, and someone needs to.

You can't change your genetics, but you can change your attitude.

Psychiarists don't do jack s**t. They're pill pushers. The last time I attempted suicide because of my social issues was back in high school when I was on Zoloft. Antidepressants and antipsychotics don't solve problems, they only make them worse.

I think the only solution I have left is take myself out of the gene pool.

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26 Dec 2010, 1:40 pm

a woman won't solve your problems

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26 Dec 2010, 1:42 pm

nthach, you seriously need help. Ring a help hotline or whatever, as hyperlexian said. Just do something.

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