Do you think this should be given consideration?

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If I hear one more person blather about how women have it easier, I'll vomit all over my keyboard.

I only just found a boyfriend over the internet after being single for 4 years. And he is in another f*****g country. Yeah, I had everything handed to me on a plate.

The problem with this idea is that in practice, it will either be unfair to someone, or simply will not work. Think it through. Say that you set up a group for people who have a difficult time dating. Who are the only people who will join? Those who have a hard time dating. Which is a great recipe to end up with a room divided in the middle, the men on one side, whispering to each other about how unfair the women are, and the women on the other side, whispering to each other about how unfair the men are... Unless you could force some people to join - which would be totally unfair - that's all you'd get out of such a group. A mutual hatred society.

Dating isn't inherently "fair" or "unfair", it is simply the best method anyone has yet figured out to allow people to find each other. Sure, there are women any sane man would want to avoid - just as there are men any sane woman would want to avoid. But everyone, NT or AS, must just keep "looking through the pile" until you find someone who works for you. NTs don't have it any easier - a lot of them establish relationships that end up in disaster. And the only thing women have an easier time at is finding one night stands; there are enough guys out there unwilling to consider more that all women - NT and AS - could just as easily claim the dating world is unfair to them.

People get hurt dating. All people. Men, women, NT, AS. I've never seen any indication any of them like that part of it. But it is just part of being human. Keep on looking through the hurt, or give up, those are the only choices you have.

To be honest, I would guess (I don't know you, so this is only a guess) that your biggest obstacle to successfully dating is this very idea that life is somehow "unfair" to you because a woman doesn't just throw herself at your feet. It doesn't work that way, not even for NTs. There's a whole genre of literature - romance - which makes that pretty plain. But, as long as you expect women to just accept you and have a relationship with you because you want it, you're not going to see that relationships only happen when you do your part in working to make them happen. And, even once you learn that much, you'll probably go through a number of relationships that don't work out, struggle to make them work only to have your heart broken. That's the reality every single person faces. Yes, there are a few lucky ones who marry their high school sweetheart and live happily ever after - but even they have to work hard to make that last.

Now, I've said all this assuming you want a real relationship. If that's what you're looking for, my advice stands. If what you're really after is just a chance to jump in some girl's pants... why should she say yes unless she wants you, too? If a lonely, horny gay guy came on to you, would you feel it was only "fair" to let him have a night's fun with you? I didn't think so. Okay, so we've established that even if you're only looking for sex, it is only fair when both parties want it. So, still, you have to work to find someone who is willing to climb into your bed, and chances are, she isn't going to look much like the girls you see on TV shows and in movies. NTs don't get girls who look like that, either, by the way... For that matter, you probably don't look much like the guys playing opposite those girls, either, so you've got nothing to complain about.

I look like keanu reeves.