Have Any of You Dated a Neurotypical Female?

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Sure it is, but that's just because it takes a woman longer to get to know them.

There are a lot of women that most would find ugly that get me rock hard. So it's not as simple as that.

People are people and all want different things. We are not all the same. Some of my preferences would repulse most people. That's up to them.

And can I ask you why on Earth you have me as your avatar hale_bopp?

Well You're different to most guys - not shallow, and it's a refreshing change. So many guys around here all want a "hot" girl and whine about it.

And the avatar is me!

Then why do women prefer lthe "loud, boisterous, extroverted" types? Before you say "I don't!" okay fine, but I've never met women like this in real life. Ever. Sure, I've had plenty on the internet claim it, but actions speaks louder than words.

I love confident guys.
But the ones who need to show it off?
Once you get past being a teenager that's boring and tiresome.
Action speak louder than words indeed - hence why i'm dating a guy who is confident but quiet and reserved.

They don't. They prefer confidence, and faked confidence is good enough for some of them. You can tell if a guy is confident or not without talking to him, so a quiet confident guy doesn't need to yell about it, confidence is like a aura that can be detected.

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Or maybe those men with AS who make a lot of money just have certain personality characteristics which both enable them to make money and attract a woman.

Too often I hear men....and not just men with AS, conclude that they can't get a woman because they don't make enough money. But they over look the fact that most men who don't make a lot of money have partners. The reality is that these men who harbor such misconceptions just can't accept, or realize, that the reason they don't have a partner either has something to do with luck, how they are going about things, or their personality.

And concerning women liking loud, bolsterous types, is every woman with a boyfriend or husband dragging around some loud mouthed ass? No.

They just have men who know how to talk to *them*, and probably assert himself in situations that he should rightly do so. If you don't talk to a girl, she generally thinks you don't like her. As it turns out, most shy people are misinterpreted as stuck up or uninterested.

When I first met my friend with PDD-NOS, I initially thought he wanted nothing to do with me because he did not say anything to me the entire time we were together. I thought he was not happy to be there and not enjoying our outing.

Had he been a romantic prospect and this outing had been a date, I would have written him off immediately and not responded to any more of his correspondences because I would have thought he was just indecisive, or settling, or had ill intentions or what have you.

But he wasn't a romantic prospect and so I went on a few more outings with him, which he had invited me to, and I eventually realized that he was on the spectrum and shy. He was very lucky I had only figured out to be more outgoing with people myself a few months prior, and I had the sense to consider he had the same difficulties I had.

He came very close to not making a friend.

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I'm quiet and reserved, so why am I not coming off as confident?

because you're not confident?
wtf, thats a completely different point all together.
not ALL quiet guys are confident.
not ALL loud guys are confident.
i could go on forever.
you cannot generalise ALL people.

this, this SO MUCH THIS.

A lot of guys who have money are liked not for the fact they have money, the fact they've got the great personality and great skills.

+157482 points.

+1

I think they just pick whatever they think they lack, which is often money, but if they had money it would be something else, and try to pin their problems on it.

It makes it even better if whatever they pick allows them to portray women as "shallow" for rejecting them for it.

Personality is probably the real culprit 99% of the time...

and attitude to themselves and others.

You guys are making a straw man argument.

I didn't say lack of money was the reason I can't get a woman. Aspergers and lack of social skills is the reason I can't get one. I'm just saying that a woman would probably overlook it if I did have a lot of money. In my experience, the ONLY Aspies who have had girlfriends had money. Does this mean money is everything? NO, but it's one way Aspies can compensate for their poor social skills.

That's true. Attitude and personality play a huge role.

Maybe you should look around this forum a bit more, not looking for what you want to see but for what's actually here. None of the guys here with GFs probably have a lot of money, and there are a LOT of them.