Maaan, the friendzone is tough!

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11 Apr 2011, 4:20 am

To each their own, I suppose.

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11 Apr 2011, 7:03 am

I'd like to say, when working on getting past the friend-zone, never admit it to other friends or family. If ever one of them blurt it out or use it against you (probably because you were mean to them earlier), it is a good chance it will freak-out the person-of-interest.

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11 Apr 2011, 11:10 pm

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A story about the Friend Zone...

my mum went to the salon today and when she came back she said "remember L, you used to go to her 5 years ago... well anyway I havent seen her for 5 years either. Remember she was engaged back then? Well she told me today that she had been engaged to the same guy for ages, and then was engaged to another guy, they both turned out to be jerks, and she realised that she was barking up the wrong tree going out with guys like them. Anyway, she had this male friend, and after the second engagement didnt work out, she looked at him and thought "Why dont I go out with him?" So she asked him out, and he said "What took you so long?" Apparently he had been waiting for quite a while for her to take an interest. Well, now they have a baby together..."

so that is the story, I was told just today by my mum, and this demonstrates that being friend zoned may not necessarily be a bad thing.

Rarely happens. She settled. And she doesn't love him....most likely.

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11 Apr 2011, 11:14 pm

You can't possibly know that, Chronos.

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11 Apr 2011, 11:25 pm

I just asked my mum, and she said that the girl seemed really happy, and said that "it was the best thing that has happened" or some words to that respect. This guy was someone whose character she knew, and it took a while for her to see him with new eyes, but it happened. Feelings can change.

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11 Apr 2011, 11:29 pm

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

You can't possibly know that, Chronos.

I said "most likely"

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11 Apr 2011, 11:31 pm

Chronos wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

You can't possibly know that, Chronos.

I said "most likely"

I know you did.

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11 Apr 2011, 11:37 pm

Chronos wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

Rarely happens. She settled. And she doesn't love him....most likely.

Maybe she doesn't have the impulsive "I'm hot for you" feeling for him as she may have had for other guys but chances are she does love him.

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11 Apr 2011, 11:57 pm

You never know that. You can fall in love with someone you have known for quite a while. And who needs the drama of chasing the inaccessible man you had crazy passion with anyway?

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12 Apr 2011, 1:06 am

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You never know that. You can fall in love with someone you have known for quite a while. And who needs the drama of chasing the inaccessible man you had crazy passion with anyway?

I have always avoided people that sparked that kind of passion in me.

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12 Apr 2011, 1:39 am

I agree with Chronos on this one.

I hardly believe that she "waked up" after all these years and decided to love him out of the blue. Love (and attraction) can't be a decision.

Btw, she probably knew that he had a crash on her, NT girls would always know that but they pretend that they don't notice.

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12 Apr 2011, 1:42 am

Love is always a choice. Always.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:01 am

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

You never know that. You can fall in love with someone you have known for quite a while. And who needs the drama of chasing the inaccessible man you had crazy passion with anyway?

I have always avoided people that sparked that kind of passion in me.

I dont mind the person who sparks that kind of passion, but if they are, as I said, "inaccessible" physically, emotionally, mentally, then it is not worth the hassle.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:02 am

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Well, my mum said that she was really happy, she has a good mate as a husband and an adorable baby. Win!

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12 Apr 2011, 2:07 am

zen_mistress wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Well, my mum said that she was really happy, she has a good mate as a husband and an adorable baby. Win!

Yea, and that's the case of many arranged marriages. It is a marriage based on logic more than love.

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12 Apr 2011, 2:13 am

zen_mistress wrote:

TeaEarlGreyHot wrote:

zen_mistress wrote:

You never know that. You can fall in love with someone you have known for quite a while. And who needs the drama of chasing the inaccessible man you had crazy passion with anyway?

I have always avoided people that sparked that kind of passion in me.

I dont mind the person who sparks that kind of passion, but if they are, as I said, "inaccessible" physically, emotionally, mentally, then it is not worth the hassle.

To each their own. I prefer to have control over my emotions and I can't really control passion.

Meh... I'm beginning to think I'm uptight.

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