well, it's official

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I can't live indepedently either because my health condition is not well at all. I can barely wake up in the morning without feeling sick and vomiting. I can't drive a car to work either because I have car sickness (you know I vomit while inside a car) and other eye problems.

If my father did not support me with his income then I'll be completely destitute, starving in the street in Israel and probably be beaten to death by gangs and by other people who like to abuse homeless people.

if you don't mind my asking, how much control does your father have over certain aspects of your life? like the OP had been talking about, does your father control your internet habits and things like that?

you need to convince yourself that you are ready before you try to convince other people like a judge or your father. i was picking up on a lack of certainty in your wording, and if i can cause you to wobble then it will be fairly easy for your father or a judge to tip you over.

i have no opinion about it at all, so don't take my comments to mean that i think anything one way or the other - i am not in your shoes or your life or your head. you might be absolutely ready to take this step, but only you (and professionals that support you) can really say for sure.

nobody on this forum really knows what is going on with your life and situation, and we are hardly qualified to say what is best for you. we can throw encouragement towards you, but since you are not certain yourself, then how certain can *we* be that it is the right thing for you?

if you went to a bank and said to a loan officer, "i think i might be ready to down a job and pay off a line of credit if you advance it to me. i believe i may be able to keep my expenses lower than i used to"... well, that money is not going to happen.

the decision really lies in your hands, and you need to be really certain before you start taking action. i think that, if you cannot find that certainty inside yourself, then you can get bolstered up by the professionals in your life. if you want people here to tell you that you are ready for something this big, even though they don't really know you, i am sure they will oblige... but that won't help you to make the best informed decision.

Actually, all I have to convince is my dad. I do tell the truth. If I tell him I don't use the computer for porn, he'll believe me.

you just said a couple of posts ago that you did use the computer for porn a couple of times, so that wouldn't actually be the truth.

i'm confused why you need to convince your father. wouldn't you rather get to the point where he doesn't have any control anymore, or do you just want to have internet access?