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If there was any 'ice' between you or them at work - whether it was you not being platonically friendly enough, whether it was simply them looking down their nose at you - wedding reception and alcohol won't make that go away.

Weddings always seem like a huge anti climax. I find them depressing, hence the need for booze. It's like people who buy into it are officially swept up in some BS social convention that they have no idea why they are doing it other than that it's expected of them, off to do all the boring s**t like having to work in some job they got trapped in to support the kids they have no idea why they had other than their girlfriend claimed that she wouldn't feel whole without a baby, and well, you don't like being alone and you like having sex, so you go with it, then the kids start growing up and getting on the same unquestioning, unthinking BS treadmill primed and ready to repeat all your mistakes 'cause they will not listen to your advice. So they're moaning about getting a new Macbook or an iPhone, so you gotta do overtime or some s**t to pay for it, then you gotta eat some s**t and suck a dick to get promoted, all the while recycling pointlessly because the carbon footprint of you and your kids and your family car will outweigh any good you could ever do by sorting your glass etc. It's all pointless BS, really. I don't really have anything do with it, but family and families of friends do unfortunately and sometimes my opinions aren't welcome heheh

Does anyone here watch parks & rec?
I loved April and Andy's wedding. They invited their friends and family over for like a potluck housewarming party and surprised them with their wedding. Simple, adorable, affordable.
There is a lot of cultural and familial pressure to have a big wedding, it stinks, people should be able to do what they want without judgement.
It's about the couple, it's their day, I wish other people would butt out and shush.
All the wedding shows and magazines pushed here bug me even more when marriage isn't even legal for everyone in this country

As far as the dancing goes...I don't know, your culture is different from mine so the reasons I'm thinking probably aren't applicable
I wouldn't totally discount some awkwardness or attitude issue peeking through being a contributing factor, but I know you do so..

LOL. I can't disagree! I liked Anakin and Padme's secret wedding. If I can ever get my Aspie to talk to me again, I think it should be something like that. (My mother would raise hell, of course, but whatever.) What would your ideal wedding be like?

I wanted to marry my ex in Vegas. She was death on weddings too. And babies. We're not American, so it's meaningless in the eyes of the law, but there's still a commitment there, despite being anti-marriage and we'd have made a holiday of it.

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Depends how tall they all are, in heels or not. All my past gf's and encounters bar a couple were at least 3 inches shorter than me.

Are you a good/indifferent/bad dancer?

Back in the days when I went to events which involved dancing I would be embarrassed if dancing with someone who was a bit of a show-off on the dance floor, or who got too close. I don't like attracting attention, so dancing with someone like that made me feel uncomfortable. That said, I would continue to dance with them until the song finished, then thank them and escape!

Gah weddings.

Don't get it.

Marriage, what's that all about then?!

Tax breaks, power of attorney, custodial issues, societal recognition, a show of commitment.

marriage=!wedding

Did you mean =/=?

I get marriage, totally.
I don't get weddings.
Mainly from a financial viewpoint.
Or the social aspect.
Er....yeah, I don't get it.

=! If i recall is how its written for computer coding.

yes, sorry

Oh! Okay. I gots it now. Thankums.

That's why my fiance (I have trouble saying that because seriously, he's been "boyfriend" for five years and it annoys me to say something different) and I never planned on getting married. What's the point for us? Then as we've changed and grown together over the years we're more intimate and have a better relationship and are thinking more seriously about maybe "settling down" together. We just decided that the next step up was "engagement". I think we'll only get married if we decide to have kids because I'd say kids are a "we're in this together now" type of thing.

We decided to change this social status at the beginning of the year, but I never changed facebook status because what was the point? We mentioned it to all the important people. So it came up recently that it wasn't on facebook so I had it changed and all of the sudden there are all sorts of well-wishes and surprised comments like there some crazy thing just happened. So now I feel like I have to make it more official by calling him my fiance instead of my boyfriend.

Help! I'm getting pressured into going with convention before making my own decisions about it!

I'm pretty sure I'd feel more comfortable with a more open-concept type of relationship. The whole idea about being with one person as your closest friend for the rest of your life doesn't appeal that much to me.

Social navigation is a pain in my ass.