Be a woman!!

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OK ok I will... stop screaming at me.

I've seen it said on divorce court. The lady "woman outs" after having a child as if putting on weight is what makes you a woman. I hear several women calling women who are thin "boyish figures" even the ones with apparent breasts and a bottom. Women are just vicious towards each other and I think women are more oppressive to other women than men at times.

"You are the product of your own culture after all", true.

I can understand part of the next sentence, but not all of it.

Whenever anyone tells me to be a man, I tell them to go f**k themselves. I've never once heard something like that from someone I respect. I respect people that respect themselves, and people that respect themselves aren't going to tell me to "be a man" (I AM a man, you dolt!) The only people that give me that are people with no job and no future. No useful skills, no ambition, no creativity, no sense of humor, no spine, no nothing. People I do respect say that, but in a more constructive manner.

As for "be a woman" every woman I've ever met that needs to woman up I never liked in the first place. Then again, most men like that I've never liked in the first place.

You're not a sexist because you're a sexist?

Splain that one.

"Be a man!"

"Alright, I'll seduce you, bang you and leave you for a younger woman after years of treating you like s**t and making false promises."

My response to any woman who says that to me.

That's a pretty accurate depiction of our society's construction of what it means to "Be a man", actually.

Which is why I strive to be in touch with both my masculine and feminine sides.

The problem isn't forcing people into a dichotomy, the problem is the existence of the dichotomy in the first place.

I think that women hear "Be a Woman" ALL. THE. TIME.
However, they don't hear it in those words.
Rather, women constantly hear:
"Be thin, eat right, exercise, get a degree, get a career, be independent, get a man, have babies, stay sexy, wear this, wear that, say what you mean but be nice about it..."

Women get put in their place plenty.

You know, I've heard OF the phrases 'man up' and such, but never really experienced them in real life (I mostly saw them used on TV). I think its just an oudated notion of what it means to be a man. How is a man a failure for being human? Why does being male mean one cannot express emotions, or have weaknesses? Its silly trivial stuff from a time when gender roles had more meaning.

But if I had to choose one for women, it would be... hmmm... "Passive up"? Naw... but something that expressed that women are or were supposed to be passive and subservient, weak, and so forth.

EGGREGUYOUS: The 'talk too much' part? For many women this is how they vent emotions. Studies have shown that men and women experience the same frequency of emotions. However, women tend to experience more negative emotions than men. This is also true for those who:
a. make less money or
b. are in a position of diminished power
Thus women may experience more negative emotions because, for all of the gains we have made, we are NOT treated as equals and we daily know it. If you would like I can find a link to the specific study I am referring to. Men, from my experience, are also quite fragile, they just tend to have a greater capacity for emotional management. I think its an ongoing atrocity in society that women are allowed or supposed to neglect this aspect of themselves (or on the other hand, that men are discouraged from a healthy examination of their feelings)

Mainly because of womens rights. Women fought for their rights to be equal to men so its more acceptable for a women to be masculine then it is for a guy to be feminine. Dont get me wrong, we aint that far in womens rights to the point where its socially acceptable for women to be all out masculine. If she is, shes seen as butch, lesbian. Whereas if a guy is exhibits feminine behavior he is seen as a wussy, weak, etc. Its very offensive to the majority of guys to be viewed as "weak" and incapable.



That would imply femininity. Its telling a women to back down from power and be submissive which equals insulting. I mean back in the old days, people used to tell strong women to be more feminine, submissive, lady like. Back in the old days if a women exhibited power, she was seen as a disgrace to society.



Idk. I think the idea of a real man is complete BS.

Oh yes, I know that talking for women is the equivalent of a dude lifting weights to relieve stress, I also know women are constantly fearing for their life, criticizing themselves, stuff talks to them if it's out of place, multitask, they also don't know that men are not just hairy women.

How can I truly be a woman, if I wish to be a man?

Aww man, totally awesome. I will now imagine all men as hairy women. It will make grabbing their chests so much more entertaining...

Even in this day men are expected to be way more proactive, at least when it comes to dating. The notion that women are more passive, as outdated as it is starting to be, still causes this lack of change.



To survive, withstand misery and pain. But to allow and express emotions as well.



Yes, anybody really, every idiot with a mouth or keyboard can do it. It's up to others how much they want to let it define their reality.