"Why are you still single?"

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Yes. people ask, but its more like a snarky comment about why I'm not like them. not, "Why are you single?"

It's odd, but although everyone I associate with regularly knows I'm single, no one seems to question it. Kind of like "well of course he's single." If I gave a crap what they think I might be offended, but luckily I don't.

Actually I like this question better than hearing "You have a girlfriend?!"

Heard that one more than once...

I dread that question, especially if it's a lead-in to someone trying to set me up. If you've already told them you're single, it can be hard to tactfully get out of that one.

Once I responded to a coworker by changing the subject and asking about her marriage, since she doesn't seem to be happily married and that shut her up pretty quickly. I guess I should remember that technique since I only seem to get questioned about my 'status' by people in unhealthy or boring relationships. It's like they feel a need to drag me down with them ...

or maybe they're trying to subtly figure out if you're available instead of their current partner? (hope springs eternal...even after being bludgeoned to death)

In high school it was "Why aren't you going to the dance?"

Usually while we were running in cross.]

I would say something like: "I don't know who to ask"

Those who would venture to provide names told me people that I would be uncomfortable with....and I'd have to be the one asking. If I'm asking, I want it to be someone who I am semi-comfortable with.

I get this, "So is there anyone your seeing?" At every family gathering. They mean well and I was surprised my Dad even blurted out "you could go younger," LOL. My sister who is a scientist, mentioned someone she knows who is older but might still be able to keep up. So who knows.

I don't get asked often, but when I do, I just tell them it's because I don't know anyone I want to date.

To every stupid "why" question, my father would reply, "To make you ask."

There is really no response to that. It is a real conversation-stopper.

Since stopping stupid questions is now a hobby of mine, I also reply, "To make you ask."

This influences people to stop asking you "why" forever. They will walk away looking vaguely unsettled and confused, which also has the benefit of being amusing.

The few people who have asked me a question like that did like me at least as a person because if they didn't, they wouldn't care to know but my answer is always the same, I'm simply not ready yet and I'm not focusing on that aspect of my life right now.

I'm always asked why I have no friends, never been asked why I'm still single though lol.

Pretty sure some people think I'm gay though....>_>