Constant rejection from women is making me suicidal

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^this, yes.

I hope this thread is over but just wanted to say that some guys here incl Chronos, AsteroidNap and Ancalagon have made some great comments and the OP would be stupid to just ignore their advice completely and stay bitter.

No one is trying to hurt you. We are trying to help you.

Meh, hate to say it but some people can't be helped no matter what.

I really hope you are talking about someone else and not me! I recall you sent me a few PM's talking about your job search and asking about the job market in my area, so I'd responded with the little bit of advice and info I was able to give. If those messages had any romantic/flirty undertones to them, it went right over my head and I apologize for not handling the situation with a little more sensitivity.

Just remember: you are not alone. There are many other people in the world who are in the same situation as you are. Many even suffer from worse troubles in life then just not being able to get a girl.

This is why I choose to be asexual and indifferent to the opposite sex. Women are way overrated anyway and some are not worth the trouble.

^ You can't choose to be asexual, you either are or your not.

I feel for you.

I used to be "the virgin". It is quite rough to see.

Like hearing embarassing stories of yourself as a kid.

Rejection hurts. That's why I very rarely approach women...almost never. I used to get obsessed with the fact that I was afraid to approach women and that I got rejected when I did approach women (unless I knew in advance that they were attracted to me). I have been so hopeless that I have contemplated suicide many times. However, this is just one of the things I beat myself up about. I can come up with a lot of other things to hate myself for if I allow myself to. That is because I have depression. It affects the way I view reality. I can very easily get sucked into negative thinking if I am not doing the things I need to do to stay not depressed.

My concern is the fact that you're suicidal and obsessed with self-harm, not the fact that you attribute it to rejection from women. There are some deeper issues going on. I am not saying this to be judgmental or sound better than you. I am saying this out of empathy. I have been where you are right now emotionally. Please seek professional help.

I know happy people, people in committed relationships, who didn't had their first relationship until they were in their 30's. Don't give up hope!

he's not a virgin.

I can choose to label myself as asexual though.

Hire an escort.

Really, I have been there, but not to the point of feeling suicidal

Are there any other social problems or any problems a part from lack of relationships, I think there must be, as I think you may need counseling or something.

he has done so, and he is still depressed and apparently hates women.

EDIT: i agree about the counselling.

Last edited by hyperlexian on 27 Jul 2011, 11:52 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Never confuse politeness with interest, or interest with love.

Perhaps you should start seeing women as regular people, not potential girlfriends. That's the problem most self proclaimed "nice guys" have.

I thought there was going to be a "Practical attempt at keeping mouth shut #2"

well, I think that might be a common problem of the aspie (or socially akward) guy, I mean, can you really say that the problems with understanding social rules and cues cannot lead to problems with the friends vs girlfriends issue towards the opposite sex, specially in the cases when the guy has never had any female acquaintance and friend? I think these kind of issues are to be expected in these cases, when the physical attraction is part of the problem.

I only considered women who I was not attracted at all as "regular people", while I couldn't even talk to the ones I was attracted to.

Now, this is not to justify nor defend the OP's bitterness, but I think that specific issue has its understandable origin.

You misunderstand what I mean. I can't talk to people I'm attracted to either. But I don't go looking around shopping around for a boyfriend, I look around shopping to get to know people.