Why do WPers in relationships stop posting?

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01 Aug 2011, 3:47 am

Well in my experience WP relationships became WP breakups and they were public and embarassing

Maybe some of those WP relationships weren't as stable as they made to be and they just needed to remove any potential "arenas" for relationship conflict. Could have been anything really, you don't know, they could have been jealous/spiteful of each others friends here and decided to leave to make the other happy. Could be that they want their interactions with each other to be unspoiled by the masses.

If you do meet someone here and they don't exactly turn out to be Mr or Mrs Right, this place no longer becomes a sacred means of online support. If you need to ask for relationship advice about them where do you go? Can't exactly ask for advice about them on WP when you know they're reading your posts.

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01 Aug 2011, 3:48 am

Because you no longer need to whinge about being single on here if you're in a relationship?

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01 Aug 2011, 4:44 am

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Maybe some of those WP relationships weren't as stable as they made to be and they just needed to remove any potential "arenas" for relationship conflict. Could have been anything really, you don't know, they could have been jealous/spiteful of each others friends here and decided to leave to make the other happy. Could be that they want their interactions with each other to be unspoiled by the masses.

Yeah. This.
Also it could have been that they didn't have the guts to stay around and face the conflict that they'd fostered, or to stand up for themselves against perfectly true things that were said against them.
Or that they didn't have the balls to stand up for themselves/their friendships against their partner, nor the balls to stick around and deal with the fact that they'd hurt their friends.

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01 Aug 2011, 6:24 am

I still post on here and i am seeing someone off of here.

He reads all my posts by doing the "see all posts by this user" thing.

:waves hello:

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01 Aug 2011, 7:24 am

hyperlexian wrote:

for me, WP is in kind of an escape from aspects of my life, so i suppose that if i did not need to escape those things anymore then i might post less. but i really love the community and some of the people here, so maybe not. let's just consider me an obsessive anomaly k?

Me too. High five!

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01 Aug 2011, 8:07 am

emlion wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

Me too. High five!

Me three!

*attempts high five, misses*

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01 Aug 2011, 8:18 am

I leave WP when I get bored with it, I'm never in a relationship.

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01 Aug 2011, 10:51 am

Grisha wrote:

emlion wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

Me too. High five!

Me three!

*attempts high five, misses*

+4

Why would a WPer post more when they're in a relationship here if they are not posting about their relationship :?:

My girl Megz wasn't much of a poster at all but I think she's ben posting a little more lately thou she hasn't been here in a few days due to problem with her laptop; battery might be bad or something

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01 Aug 2011, 11:30 pm

nick007 wrote:

Grisha wrote:

emlion wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

Me too. High five!

Me three!

*attempts high five, misses*

Word.

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02 Aug 2011, 7:07 am

curlyfry wrote:

nick007 wrote:

Grisha wrote:

emlion wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

Me too. High five!

Me three!

*attempts high five, misses*

Word.

*cough* excuse me, but by definition i can't be an anomaly if you all agree with me. you're ruining my reputation as a lone wolf. :lol:

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02 Aug 2011, 9:06 am

Never noticed this as such; it's the amount of people in relationships who do post that I notice.

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02 Aug 2011, 9:47 am

Adam82 wrote:

Because you no longer need to whinge about being single on here if you're in a relationship?

Lol, especially the males in the L&D forum.

Which is ironic in that's the greatest non-obvious evidence that aspies aren't destined to singlehood as many of those males frequently imply or post about.

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02 Aug 2011, 12:30 pm

swbluto wrote:

Adam82 wrote:

Because you no longer need to whinge about being single on here if you're in a relationship?

Very true for me

It doesn't seem ironic to me. How many of those relationships last? In my case she's an Aspie herself & the ratio of Aspie guys to Aspie girls is 4 to 1 so some guys are destined to single-hood if they cant adjust, adapt & conform to NT women because there is not enough AS girls for AS guys. I'm extremely lucky we found each other because she is perfect for me :heart:

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02 Aug 2011, 1:39 pm

nick007 wrote:

swbluto wrote:

Adam82 wrote:

Because you no longer need to whinge about being single on here if you're in a relationship?

Very true for me

That is all they really have to do: Adjust to what's available. Sure, she might not be the prettiest, sexiest or most attractive women out there (She might even be... *gasp*... asexual), but I believe there's almost always "someone" available for most people. (Except for the wooorst case types.)

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02 Aug 2011, 2:14 pm

swbluto wrote:

nick007 wrote:

swbluto wrote:

Adam82 wrote:

Because you no longer need to whinge about being single on here if you're in a relationship?

Very true for me

Some Aspies like me can adjust to that stuff you mentioned; that is NOT important to me. But I think I have major problems adjusting to NTs & I think that could be the big problem for lots of Aspies. This discussion would probably be best continued by starting another topic

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04 Aug 2011, 11:36 am

I have a slightly different spin on this: While yes, having a limited amount of time and spending it on a relationship (or in my case, potential relationships), can be cause for posting less, I tend to get "peopled out" very quickly. It takes me a fair amount of effort to put thoughts into words, so I can't do it for hours on end. If I spend time working on a relationship for any extended period, the last thing that I want to do is to try to put a post together, even if I have the time. I might read some, but something non-verbal is more relaxing.

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