17 Aug 2011, 5:43 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I got this "if only all guys were like you" too.
Are their brains synchronized with each others across the oceans?
Are their brains synchronized with each others across the oceans?
The way I see it, girls say things like that when they feel they should be attracted to you, but for whatever reason (maybe a visible lack of confidence or low self-esteem, lack of conviction etc), they just aren't. I've never taken it personally, it's clear that I have more room for development. In fact, it shows that while I may be not be invoking latent qualities that would make me more attractive, I'm doing something right in other ways. (either that or these girls are lying to us
lol)
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17 Aug 2011, 5:52 pm
MountZion wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I got this "if only all guys were like you" too.
Are their brains synchronized with each others across the oceans?
Are their brains synchronized with each others across the oceans?
The way I see it, girls say things like that when they feel they should be attracted to you, but for whatever reason (maybe a visible lack of confidence or low self-esteem, lack of conviction etc), they just aren't. I've never taken it personally, it's clear that I have more room for development. In fact, it shows that while I may be not be invoking latent qualities that would make me more attractive, I'm doing something right in other ways. (either that or these girls are lying to us
lol)But if someone is really that desirable and that amazing then he wouldn't find that much hard time to get a partner. Those statements make the person sounds as if he doesn't lack anything.
17 Aug 2011, 6:06 pm
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
MountZion wrote:
The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
I got this "if only all guys were like you" too.
Are their brains synchronized with each others across the oceans?
Are their brains synchronized with each others across the oceans?
The way I see it, girls say things like that when they feel they should be attracted to you, but for whatever reason (maybe a visible lack of confidence or low self-esteem, lack of conviction etc), they just aren't. I've never taken it personally, it's clear that I have more room for development. In fact, it shows that while I may be not be invoking latent qualities that would make me more attractive, I'm doing something right in other ways. (either that or these girls are lying to us
lol)But if someone is really that desirable and that amazing then he wouldn't find that much hard time to get a partner. Those statements make the person sounds as if he doesn't lack anything.
Believe me, I used to think that same way. I feel it's not something that they consciously understand. There is just that "spark" or as I call it, the "jaPOW". Being around a lot of the male friends I have had, I begin to understand it a little bit. It's not something that I can honestly pinpoint yet, but I'm guessing it is natural social and emotional intelligence that enables you to augment your personality without changing yourself, thus you can amplify your already noticeable qualities AND boost those all-attractive qualities and bring them to the surface of your character.
Not sure if it made 100% sense to you, but it made perfect sense to me lol
18 Aug 2011, 5:28 am
hale_bopp wrote:
They do it because they think they're being nice. They don't know that people don't like it.
Actually, I'd add a caveat to this. Consider the context in which this 'compliment' is being offered. Likely the conversation is at a point where one is lamenting their romantic prospects. My sense is that the person replies in such a way to make THEMSELVES feel better as much as they believe they're being nice. It makes them feel good to be a 'cheerleader' for you.
My friends tend to tell me "You'll find someone someday!" Gee, thanks!
They been saying that for 10+ years now...haha.
18 Aug 2011, 10:34 am
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