What Are Your Dating Deal Breakers?

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If he is rude
If he doesn't try to live the standards I ascribe to:
*no sex before marriage
*no drugs
*no alcohol
*no swearing
*no tattoos
*being a good person
Wants the same things from a relationship that I do
Abusive
Wants me to change myself dramatically...small changes for the better are ok


Non deal-breakers
If he is shy
If he isn't rich
If he isn't too much smarter or stupider than me
If he older than me (to the extent of 10 years...then it's just creepy )
If he has a weird style....guys clothes don't have that much variation anyways
If he is aspie
If he has a cheesy sense of humor
If he is somewhat clingy...however clingy he is, I am clingier

nali, good list. seems like you have a good idea of who you want for yourself.

Violence, morbid obesity.

1) Flighty/immature
2) Closed-minded, sees desire to learn about life or have different interest as weakness/failure to conform.
3) Current meth or heroin problem.
4) More than two kids

1. Beats me or puts me down
2. Abuses drugs and/or alcohol
3. Dishonest or just not genuine/authentic
4. Allows mother or ex's to interfere with relationship
5. Lives at home and has no plans or motivation to move out (hitting hard times and having to live at home temporarily doesn't phase me, though)
6. Cannot depend upon or trust him
7. Baby-Mama drama
8. Has been spoiled or coddled too much
9. Way too young or way too old

Clingy
Laughs at things I say that are not funny
preppy women
shallow
girls who are strait edge
girls that dont like sports
hates animals
doesnt like to cuddle
is a bad kisser

My Deal Breakers:

1. Watches reality shows or Sex in the City.
2. Conceit or vanity. (Don't care how good looking a girl is)
3. Smoker or 420 user.
4. "Fag hags"
5. Constantly compares or puts down other women.
6. Kids from previous relationships.
7. Has a "tramp stamp".
8. Drives an SUV and/or doesn't like motorcycles. (I'm avid motorcyclist)
9. Too much of a social butterfly or "attention whore". "..You need everyone's eyes just to feel seen".
10. Poor personal hygiene.
11. Likes watching sports. (Seems fake to me).
12. Flakey and can't keep their word.
13. Swearing, especially around kids.
14. Promiscuous and/or has daddy issues.
...plenty more, but I'll stop here...

My non-deal breakers:

1. "Meekness in beauty". I love it when a very attractive woman is totally oblivious to the strength of her beauty, or is not concerned to live based on it. Sexy!!
2. Wisdom and intuition.
3. Drives a stick-shift car.
4. Class
5. Free of typical female sensitivities, like asking her age.
6. Likes cats. 'Cuz all cats have AS!
7. A curious trait and high motivation to improve one's self. Not complacent.
8. Not freaked out by AS, of course!!
9. Has a nerdy side, likes to read, and watch documentaries.
10. Conservative or good with money.

Tough but I have a few.

1: slu*ty
2: Bad hygeine
3: Ignorant
4: A wallflower.
5: A man. ( Joke, joke. )
6: Doesn't like anime. I know, this may seem shallow, but I do enjoy it and if I get serious with her, I want to at least be with a woman that enjoys it, even only now and then.
7: Too religious.

I guess there is a lot of stuff I don't really like, but there is so much of it that I prefer to think of what will turn me on. I generally ignore everything else if she meets these criteria:

Intelligent (being able to understand basic calculus is probably a minimum, although I don't care if she shares my interest in calculus)

Tolerant

Direct (especially in confrontations)

Reasonably healthy physically

Between the ages of 15 and 30

A little egotistical (people who only care about their relationships with other people are boring)

I desperately want children, but I'd still date a girl who didn't want any (but I'd probably be on the look out for someone who did in this case)

Very few deal breakers: Abusive/violent, any untreated substance abuse problems (including smoking...yecch), bad hygiene, untrustworthy/dishonest...can't think of too many...I think whoever said the list decreases as we get older was right

~Kate