Looking for a REAL woman who doesn't turn me down!

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Lots.



I'm 6'2"...doesn't help. Yeah, I know you said ripped too (though I'm not fat either), but I'm just rebutting the common myth that height can help guys out.



You're proving my point that nothing I could do will work. You will just say I am doing the wrong thing. Hobby clubs? Like what? I hate sports.

Why should I make any effort to improve myself when women never do the same for me? And supposedly I'm the one who's entitled? LOL...

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I just want to be a real boy.

Where's the fairy?

SadAspy is sad.

You just rebuffed a woman who was trying to help you by telling her that women
never go out of there way for you. Did I just feel a fluctuation in the space/irony continuum?
I don't want to attack you, but having read this thread I feel like you're going to take everything as an attack or a lie. Oh well, here goes, anyway:
Has it ever occurred to you that you find more geek- friendly women on the Internet because the Internet is a more geek-friendly place than, say... anywhereotherthantheinternet? It's a fantastic resource for misfits. Appreciate it and use it to your advantage rather than mistrusting it, please?

ok, so if you truly think it is hopeless... what would you like to do about that, or what do you expect from other people?

lol i swear eveeery thread i go into ends up this way.

2: I don't know you obviously, so I don't know what your social life is like. Maybe you know hundreds of people and you all sit around talking about the most personal aspects of your selves all the time. That would be highly unusual for anyone, aspy or not. But that's exactly what you get on a forum like this. So you have a high volume of personal interaction here that yourenot going to get at the coffee house. Go sit at the coffee house. Watch 100 girls come and leave. How do you know that none of them are geek-friendly? You don't. And as an aspy you probably have a particular disadvantage in reading body language. Has it ever occurred to you that there ARE wen who are interested in you, and you just aren't getting the signals? This is the situation I find mysf in, now. It's what brought me to WP. I have a painful crush on an aspy and I have no idea how to handle it, since he just. isn't. getting. the signals. No. He is not conventionally handsome, but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Hes not rich or "alpha" (he lives with his parents and drives a modest, older car. But I find him absolutely fascinating and delightful. A lot of that has to do with his enthusiasm and energy. If he was a bitter sad sack who moped around bad mouthing women, I wouldn't want to be anywhere near him.

Heh, I love that. I mean no disrespect to anyone, that just cracked my s*** up.

Yeah, I realize that, but women on the internet pretty much just give me the same harsh rejections as real-life women, so I don't see why they're really any different, even though they insist they are.



If I answer the question truthfully, you'll have baited me into saying something you construe as sexist. Then you'll give me another warning and threaten to ban me.



I've acted on what I thought were signals before....yep, you guessed it...got rejected.

That right there is really and truly sad. If you don't see the point of improving yourself, not even for your own sake, then you my friend are truly lost. I always make posts trying to help you and the other guy (mr20), as I understand your position of feeling hopeless, and share the tips that helped me overcome being hopeless and helpless, and yet you always say the same thing.

Stop caring so much. Let go of some of that anger. I think you and MR20 should take up a Martial Art, something like Wing Chun. That will help get some of that bitterness away and exercise some of that anger that you have. I'm not shaming you, I'm trying to help you. Please heed the advice given, we are only doing it for your benefit, not to make you worse.

Best things I ever did to help myself out of feeling hopeless were

1. GET SOCIAL - I learned how to be more social, I talked to people more, had conversations for the sake of them, I learned how to be funny, charismatic, even flirty at times. You can learn all of these things, there are resources at your disposal. It is hard, and there will at times be rejections, but you gotta learn to roll with the punches like a boxer and come back with a flurry of your own.

2. GET A PURPOSE - Well, I always had one, which was being a musician. But I had hobbies to support being a musician too. I have a life, I know what I want to do. My advice is find the things you want to do in this life and make a go for it, no matter how ridiculous or impossible they may seem.

3. EXPAND YOUR INTERESTS - You say you hate sports - OK, surely there's something else you can do?? Women are everywhere, doing all sorts, and you can never truly expect to get better without putting yourself where they are. Don't worry man, it can all be done, it is definitely not impossble!

I have to stop typing, I have a pinched nerve in my neck, it is very painful and feels like death. But I decided I had to post again to let you and the other guy MR20 know that it is not beyond you, I really wish you would understand this. It wasn't for me, so I refuse to believe it is for any of you

Get off your arse and excersise is another piece of advice I would like to enforce. I agree with the above poster. You don't have to like "sports" but that's no excuse not to excersise. It's great for your health and mood.

Height can help guys out. It doesn't always, but it can. You have more of a chance now than you would if you were 5 foot nothing.

What do you WANT from people on this forum? Why are you here? You don't want advice. The fact you have no desire to improve yourself for your own sake says it all. Enjoy being bitter and lonely forever.

I do exercise...I run. What...I gotta lift weights too? Guess you're just admitting how important looks are.

Again, if I answered the question, I would get flagged for sexism. Nice trap.

I'll try to put it nicely...I want to offer support to men, who like me, have been treated badly by women.

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I never said anything about looks!

Also, your problem is with yourself, not with women. You expect way too much. I can't take much more of this, You're completely poisoning the board with your deluded views.

actually, i agree. so your purpose is the insult women in the hopes warning other men... well, there is a male autism board where you can post misogynistic ideas to your hearts' content.

hale_bopp has been patient and kind to you, and you have treated her very shoddily. i think this says a lot more than you intend.

Where? I just see a women's board here.

I'd like to move to another forum, BUT someone needs to help out the guys who come to this one. They get bad advice from women, who say the problem is lack of confidence, meeting women in the wrong places, or having a bad attitude. You and I both know the problem is ugly looks and low social status, which are difficult, if not impossible, to fix.

nick007 has the men's forum on his signature. it's another site entirely.

they aren't getting bad advice from us... we can help them and have helped them. just because you dislike women doesn't mean other men should. how have you helped them, except to spread anger and hate? have you given useful, positive, supportive advice?

Bad advice? I think they are saying what needs to be said. What girls say here to help this guy out is totally right, I completely do all they say in order to get to know girls and such, until I found one. I didn't need anyone to give me adivce, but if I analyze the way I do it it matches with the advice girls give in here.

So don't blame girls, or anything like that, the problem is HIS, not theirs (the girls). Besides, you are in a world of Aspies, don't expect people to be careful with the words they use, you will find that in this forum we are all pretty direct and straight to the point, we don't have education! lol