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I wish it was that simple, but then I probably wouldn't be here

hahahaha good point. people sometimes give it away with their words like, "you must be pretty to get _X_". or they get a sneer as they glance at the size of your hips when you ask them to dance. or yesterday, in a waiting room, people were rolling their eyes at what one girl was wearing, and nobody wanted to sit by her. i've read a few body language books, maybe it "helped" (though who really wants to know? maybe it's better to be in the dark).

Changing your life and attitude is easier said than done-I have lost weight and now know why I have the difficulties I have and try to work through them and my AS and this person I like who I now believe really doesn't like me but likes to hang out for other reasons-keeps telling me about age difference and all that-so that person gets there eye on another person bigger than me and only 3 years younger than me-wow the age difference hang up went out the window pretty fast and it was because of the age difference belief I never pushed for anything more with this person-and all of a sudden it really boils down to not be age difference but something else-what it is I will never know and this other person has to have at least 50-100 pounds more on me-I have tried to improve myself and it didn't make a difference.

AWESOME suggestion! it could really help i think. MsBugaloo, excellent advice. i could use a dose of reality like that, myself.

I was thinking the same thing as I was reading through this thread, you guys.

Ive been making too many spanish posts elsewhere Im trying to make my posts here thoughtfull ones, glad to see that we agree.

Well, my preference in girls can be summed up as "look like a b***h, act like a lady", not the other way around. But then, i have Aspergers and a quite a few points above the average IQ, and i don't go after idiots that treat men like s**t. These b*****s usually end up with kids and a mortgage quite fast - and then when divorce hits them in the face, they realise that they have two ball-and-chains around their necks that few single men wants. Dating sites are OVERFLOWING with them.

(P.S: If you had read my posts, then you'd know that i'm no la-la-land optimist when it comes to relationships and the other sex. You sound like a very nice and diplomatic version of me actually - if that is saying something).

I'm borderline legally blind & spent 6 months at a training center for people with low vision some of who were blind. The most attractive thing to blind people are others personalities & your personality is extremely ugly. You b!tdh here about how others won't give you a chance because of your looks & then you rant about fat people & accuse everyone of being mean to you. You are UGLY as sin because you are extremely rude & hateful. You are obviously alone because of your extremity nasty personality NOT because of your looks.

Well said, Nick. She's using something external as an excuse to justify her biased generalizations and hatred towards other people. It's the worst thing someone can do, play the victim to get sympathy and use it as position to vent out at others in passive aggressive manner. I think the most she can learn from this thread is that venting out in a passive aggressive way and blaming others for her negative attitude isn't going to solve anything.

hyperlexian, being ugly doesn't mean I'm not allowed to judge other people. I have my own opinions about others, believe it or not, I'm not some doormat that accepts everyone no matter how obnoxious they are to me. And yes, I have eyes, I can see when someone's fat or when someone's beautiful. Others can also see, if you can't believe that it's okay, but in reality people's subconscious mind produces instinctive reactions based on other people's appearance that change their demeanor and behaviour.

Yeah, how do they get dates? Maybe someone asked. I have plenty of fat and average women in successful relationships around me. They were asked for dates. I wasn't. We acted exactly the same. What was the difference? Use your head. Sometimes people are so ugly NOONE is attracted to them. Reality. Weird how that's hard for everyone else to accept when I'm the one that has to deal with it.

Seriously, if anyone thinks I was born with this attitude and am going around with it ALL THE TIME, they're too stupid to bother arguing with them, so I'm just going to ignore comments about attitude and whatever. Believe what you want to make reality seem nicer to you in your little bubble where everything is nice and fair and everyone ends up happily forever in love, no matter the appearance or whether anyone's actually attracted to them or not.

Wolfheart, where did I say everyone was nasty? I said men and dykes are nasty to me no matter how I act, not women:D Guess what I did to get beaten up? If your guess was breathe, you guessed right. Thank god she came out, they wouldn't do anything in front of her.

A few experiences? I've been going out almost every weekend for 2 years with my friends. I have more eperiences than I know what to do with, with both males and dykes of every variety. I have experiences with jobs, school. Oh wow, you've had bad relationships and have gotten beaten up (sounds like every guy that has ever lived, since guys are so superficial. You ever wonder why you have bad relationships? Maybe because of your superficial criteria based on which you pick, hypocrite). Boo-hoo, I'd take that a million times over NEVER having ANYONE show you ANY affection in a romantic way.

Of course it doesn't solve anything, since everyone decided to go off on their own topics and attack me with their own judgements of me instead of answering my question. You're a bully, nothing more and nothing better than the people who've mistreated me in my real life. And the opinions of bullies mean nothing.

zen_mistress - What dating? I've never been on a date.

MsBugaloo - how the f do you know whether I do good things for people or not? I don't want any part of organized charity, that's my decision. You think that somehow magically radiated from inside of me far before I felt any need to rant anywhere and still had faith in ALL people and making connections and whatnot, fine. People believe all sorts of crazy stuff.

The only affection I need is the romantic kind. Maybe you have a huge ego to judge someone without having any idea what it's like to be them. Let me guess, you're happily married/have had happy relationships/plenty of male attention? Shut your dumb trap.

Deformities and bad skin are different from having ALL OF YOUR FACIAL FEATURES be nasty-looking, for your information. Ever considered that maybe my skeletal deformity is worse? Of course not, that'd require you to actually think instead of spill out your own dumb prejudgements on the attitude of a total stranger whose problems and life you have never experienced.

Does smiling at men and dykes drive them away? Crap, I've been doing it all wrong. Maybe I should treat them like they treat me and step on their feet, throw stuff at them or elbowing them out the way on the dance floor.

I had no idea males and dykes were so different from straight women and gay guys I have no problem with. I used to treat them all the same, silly me:D

So, in general, you know where you can shove your naive, childish opinions about the personality of someone you've never met. If people treated you like I get treated for NO REASON I'd like to see how positive you are.

Oh, and to finally knock down the attitude argument, my friends who've actually MET me have said how it's sad that I'm still single and they feel for me. They also offer makeovers but not a word on my attitude or behaviour, guess why? Cause there is NO PROBLEM with either my attitude or behaviour. Noone has ever said there was, until I posted this, and all of a sudden based on words on a screen everyone knows exactly how I conduct myself. What a bunch of psychics we have here:D

That's still biased and a generalization in itself, making you look very narrow minded.



I'm not obliged to like you, the world isn't obligated to you, it doesn't owe you anything. I didn't realize you had a sense of entitlement in which all men should instantly fall at your feet and give you special treatment.



The only person that has been insulting and negative in an abusive manner towards myself and other people in this thread is you. You are the only who has been using derogatory and sexist terms.

I have to agree with bluerose. I read a book one month ago, the power and paradox of physical attractiveness. I used to have the ugly duckling syndrome and got better looking as I got older... Obviously not good enough to escape all insults. Anyways, job opportunities are largely dependent on physical attractiveness. Basically everything in life is dependent on ones physical attractiveness. It doesn't mean that looks are everthing. Think about the positives: alpha males get all the beautiful females and are likely to cheat on their BEAUTIFUL wife regardless of how attractive she is. That's one area where beautiful women fall behind.. and to me, the most important area.

it took me a while to understand the eye-rolling thing, and yeah I was happier not knowing



the answer to your question is: "no".

I don't feel that's always the case unless you're seeking a job in a profession that requires you to look presentable. I feel that's the wrong attitude. Perhaps you'd be best getting work that isn't focused on image or appearance. If you're going to pursue a career in fashion or be a receptionist, yes there's going to be lots of other beautiful women applying for that job. If you're going to be a systems architect, an engineer, a forensic anthropologist, I wouldn't think it would matter as much provided you excelled in your profession.

Wolfheart - So if every dyke I ever meet I have a negative experience with I can't call them what I want to and they're allowed to call me whatever they want? Nice to see your flawed concept of justice. And don't tell me about expectations. If every woman you meet from now on spits on you for no reason, no matter how you act, how long would it take you to start "generalizing?"Never? Really? So you'll just let yourself be spat on, you won't tell or complain to anyone because very few if any would know what you're going through and be able to relate? What would your opinion of women be after that? Would you go around calling them all respectable ladies?

Fall at my feet? It'd be nice if they gave me grades based on my intellect, didn't call me a dog, didn't nudge me, push me, and use physical violence at me, didn't harass me on the street asking what happened to my face after I've made an effort to look nice, stop physically grabbing me or tripping me on the street, not counting the times they've tripped me accidentally because they were running to open the door for a more lucky woman who was born with a nicer set of facial features while letting it slam in my face. Now, does that sound horribly princessy, demanding all that? Geez, it does sound spoiled, does it:D I should just accept abuse because, well, you think it's narrowminded to complain about it, right? BULLY. You support bullies, you are a bully, heck you are a male, wouldn't want to run into you on the street, it'd probably be a lot worse than nagging to me about the terminology I use, as if anyone gives a s**t about that.

Really? Calling me ugly on the inside isn't abusive? What world do you live in? Oh, wait, I forgot, la-la-land:D

Oh, and you don't feel like it's the case? Well, it must not be the case then:D:D All-knowing Wolfheart knows exactly the hiring criteria of all rich middle-aged men, provided they be in the right industry, because in the right industries people stop being people and making decisions based on their instincts:D Oh, and what makes you think if an UGLY woman and a man apply for the same job, the man wouldn't be chosen? It doesn't have to just be about beautiful women. People don't instinctively like ugly women, newsflash for the naive.