Narcissists are attractive

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Why are you all confusing narcissism with histrionic personality disorder? Attention seeking is not a necessary trait of someone that is narcissistic.

i find that conceited people are difficult to deal with.

i do not have much time for people who are vain because they can not see anything outside of their own "worth".

there is one person who is supposed to be the software administrator of a company i am contracted to, and he is very reticent to follow directions for the stupid and erroneous reason that he thinks he is "above" having to obey someone like me.

on the rare occasions i have to physically go to the office, i have seen him 3 times, and if i see him for a 4th time, i may not be charitable.

i wear grey tracksuit pants and a white tee shirt and old white velcro strap shoes, and i do not smell of perfume etc.

he wafts about in a cloud of stench (expensive male perfume i am told), and he is very fashion conscious. he wears a shiny suit and he has polished black shoes with pointy toes, and his hair is gelled and his phone is always ringing, and he will not listen to me because he thinks he is a caste above me.

well he is useless as far as i am concerned. one of the managers asked me about whether i was happy with this fellows performance, and i said i will tell him in one week.

if i see him for a 4th time and i am similarly unimpressed, he will be looking for another job the next day.

the moral of all this (to me) is that "narcissism" (or the deeply rooted belief in one's superiority and entitlement) is only an illusion of competence, and the confidence it promotes may look valid, but it is not valid.

he will be jobless soon as a result of his inattention to his directives.

Oh yes, narcissists are attractive.

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There is theory of mind and then there is empathy. Although psychiatry has lumped both as the same they are different.

Autistics have difficulty with theory of mind
Psychopaths and narcissists don't and often use that to manipulate people

Autistics do have compassion and when it's obvious someone is suffering show emotion
Psychopaths and narcissists don't care

When it's made obvious an autistic hurt someone's feelings, the autistic person feels guilt
Psychopaths and narcissists may feign guilt if it will be in their favor but don't really feel guilty.



I think people need to quit stating that we lack empathy and specifically state theory of mind.
Anyone else here have the delayed reaction where it hits later? That is not the same as not having empathy.



The vast majority of people relate empathy with care for others and the actual definition which put simply means

"the ability to understand and share the feelings of another."

http://www.diffen.com/difference/Empathy_vs_Sympathy

Charles Manson did not put himself in his victim's shoes nor could he.

I really wish the lack of theory of mind was not also lumped in with the same lack of empathy narcissists have because it's not. After you meet a narcissist especially if you are different and not easy to sway, you'll see what lack of empathy really is.


http://bpd.about.com/od/glossary/g/empathy.htm

Definition: The ability to understand another person’s circumstances, point of view, thoughts, and feelings. When experiencing empathy, you are able to understand someone else’s internal experiences.

Some psychiatric disorders, including autism, antisocial personality disorder, and narcissistic personality disorder, have been associated with a lack of ability to empathize (or experience empathy).