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26 Jan 2012, 5:26 am

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I think it's funny how many fathers AND mothers want and expect their sons to become Don Juans once they're teenagers yet they often don't teach them the required skills to be any close of that, they just say stupid things like "women will surely throw themselves at him".


I also find it funny that parents are desperately trying to protect their daughters form hormone-driven boys who only want one thing, while the same parents are bursting with pride when their equally hormone-driven son brings a girlfriend home and tells them he's going to "study" with her in his room :D


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26 Jan 2012, 9:16 am

Hehe :) Great minds think alike.



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26 Jan 2012, 10:48 am

^^^i was happy for my daughter when she was dating, and i was proud of the men/boys she introduced to us. i was glad that people find her attractive. not everyone has a skewed view of sons vs. daughters.

i should note that i am also proud that she decided to take a break from dating and is focusing on her studies.


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26 Jan 2012, 3:07 pm

This "wanting Grandchildren" thing led to the most hurtful comment I ever heard my mother make (she didn't realize I COULD hear her, a common mistake. See the General Forum for WHY):
"Why couldn't it have been Matthew?" when talking to my grandparent's about my sister's death in a car wreck.

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26 Jan 2012, 3:18 pm

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This "wanting Grandchildren" thing led to the most hurtful comment I ever heard my mother make (she didn't realize I COULD hear her, a common mistake. See the General Forum for WHY):
"Why couldn't it have been Matthew?" when talking to my grandparent's about my sister's death in a car wreck.

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Matt


Wow. NOT COOL. I'm going to chalk it up to extreme grief, and offer you an awkward Aspie hug.



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26 Jan 2012, 3:20 pm

When my dad started bugging me about when I was going to get a girlfriend, I told him, "As soon as you find me one". Of course, he got angry over my answer, and told me that it wasn't up to him. But from then on, he stopped asking.



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26 Jan 2012, 3:25 pm

Thanks. Time has passed, so I realize that. But I also know they long suspected me of being Autistic. And that she went on frequent guilt trips about not giving me a better life..
Harder to forgive, is her manipulative ways, but that is another thread for some other time!

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And I loved wetching her squirm when my girlfriend used to come over & play board games at my house.



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26 Jan 2012, 4:19 pm

hyperlexian wrote:
^^^i was happy for my daughter when she was dating, and i was proud of the men/boys she introduced to us. i was glad that people find her attractive. not everyone has a skewed view of sons vs. daughters.

i should note that i am also proud that she decided to take a break from dating and is focusing on her studies.


Off-topic question: is your daughter diagnosed aspie?



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26 Jan 2012, 5:32 pm

mv wrote:
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This "wanting Grandchildren" thing led to the most hurtful comment I ever heard my mother make (she didn't realize I COULD hear her, a common mistake. See the General Forum for WHY):
"Why couldn't it have been Matthew?" when talking to my grandparent's about my sister's death in a car wreck.

People!

Sincerely,
Matt


Wow. NOT COOL. I'm going to chalk it up to extreme grief, and offer you an awkward Aspie hug.


Or a f****d up personality.



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26 Jan 2012, 5:40 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
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^^^i was happy for my daughter when she was dating, and i was proud of the men/boys she introduced to us. i was glad that people find her attractive. not everyone has a skewed view of sons vs. daughters.

i should note that i am also proud that she decided to take a break from dating and is focusing on her studies.


Off-topic question: is your daughter diagnosed aspie?

not diagnosed no. she has a learning disability and ADHD. i suspected she may be an aspie but she is too social and good with body language and stuff.


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27 Jan 2012, 3:53 pm

I've known for years that my mom has issues. Not sure why or what, but not a happy person.
Sadly, I'm part of the problem. But she has a cruel/nasty streak that I don't understand. Wondering about her own mental status in regards to my problems.

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27 Jan 2012, 4:01 pm

Matt62 wrote:
I've known for years that my mom has issues. Not sure why or what, but not a happy person.
Sadly, I'm part of the problem. But she has a cruel/nasty streak that I don't understand. Wondering about her own mental status in regards to my problems.

Sincerely,
Matt


How old are you? as soon you get a job, move out and rent a flat.... if it's feasible.



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04 Feb 2012, 3:44 am

My parents didn't even allow dating until I was 16, and rarely hassled me about it. They've only known about one boyfriend before the one I'm living on the other side of the world with (HUGE decision there). At one point, before my parents knew about him, I had put in my msn name "I'm in love, from the first time I laid my eyes on you <3", and my dad asked about that. "Is it that new obsession of yours?" "erm, yeah..." -dad looks all disappointed- "I was hoping it was a real boy..."

what a shock it was to him when, three months later, he finds out it IS a real boy (he calls internet people my "imaginary friends" like I'm some kind of mental patient), and then a further three months later he's suddenly flying from Australia to Canada, with consent from both sets of parents for him to come and stay with us xD

my family has actually joked about us getting married at this point o.O They used to be freaked out by the idea of "their little girl" marrying "some internet guy", but they see how happy we are and how compatible we are, and now he's earned their approval (:


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04 Feb 2012, 3:00 pm

I *DID* move out. However, now her caretaker myself.
Twist of fate much?

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Matthew
PS. 62 is my birth year.