The hardest thing about being single

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Moving the 65" DLP TV in the living room. It's too heavy for one person to lift.

Nah, not heavy - just awkward.

First four i definitely agree with. But in my experience nobody "fixes me up" with anyone. Nor do any women, drunk or not, try to propositon me. At least you have options (if not the best ones).

thx TEGH
although you may not do amusement parks the general idea works for many other circumstances. It helps to have an idea how to avoid the uncomfortable situations and to plan a way around it.

See, I like challenges like this. Although I don't own a TV, I did move all the furniture in my apartment by myself. It was quite fun figuring out how to get the heavier pieces to bend to my will.

Viktor e. Frankl was a psychologist who was imprisoned in Auschwitz concentration camp during World war II, and wrote about his experiences in his book Man's Search for Meaning .In the midst of appallingly bleak suffering and privation, he is comforted by thoughts of his wife:

"But my mind clung to my wife's image, imagining it with an uncanny acuteness. I heard her answering me, saw her smile, her frank and encouraging look. Real or not, her look was then more luminous than the sun which was beginning to rise. Athought transfixed me; for the first time in my life I saw the truth as it is set into song by so many poets, proclaimed as the final wisdom by so many thinkers. The truth- that love is the ultimate and the greatest goal o which man can aspire. then I grasped the meaning of the greatest secret that human poetry and human thought and belief have have to impart: The salvation of man is through love and in love . I understood how a man who has nothing left in this world still may know bliss, be it only for a brief moment, in the contemplation of his beloved. In a position of utter desolation, when man cannot express himself in positive action, when his only achievement may consist in enduring his sufferings in the right way,- an honourable way- in such a position man can, through loving contemplation of the image he carries of his beloved, achieve fulfilment. For the first time in my life I was able to understand the meaning of the words, "The angels are lost in perpetual contemplation of an infinite glory"

so there you are, that's what I feel I'm misssing out on.... now back to the Neil Strauss

The lack of someone that makes me feel like I matter and that I am not wasted space is the hardest thing about being single.

My last girlfriend was spectacular in how patient she was listening to my monologues and actively being involved with my interests! She also hugged me a lot.

LOL. I've hung drywall by myself. Beat that!

In case you're wondering how, I hung the upper sections first. I temporarily screwed 2x4s into the studs at the proper height, dragged the drywall to the wall, put a drill with pail of drywall screws & magnetic driver bit on a table next to me, then lifted the drywall up & heaved it over and onto the 2x4. From that point, I positioned it horizontally, held it with one hand, grabbed the drill (drywall screw already loaded into the magnetic driver bit), screwed it in about 2/3 of the way up in the middle, then put in the rest of the middle column of screws. From that point, I just worked my way out to the edges, then removed the supporting 2x4. Voila. Drywall sheets, hung by me alone. The lower sections were similar, except I had to also use shims to get them up to the right height. I actually lost 7 pounds in 3 days hanging new drywall in my living room.

I have hung drywall by myself. Guess how old I was?

14. Really. I love working with my hands.

actually Im going to alter this, the hardest thing for me is going into baby scans as everyone in the waiting room has an adoring partner gazing at them, squeezing their hand and it makes me feel such a revolting, unloved looser.

I expect the thing which will be worse than that though will be going in for my caesarian on my own, that will be so frightening and lonely.

i'm sorry. how desolate the feeling. is there no way out of the C-section type of delivery?

I just have to wait and see, my placenta is too low, there is still quite a chance it may move, Ive got ages yet so loads of time to ruminate on it and scare myself, Im really scared of c-sections and they dont let you hold the baby for ages as it takes over half an hour to be sown up.

Im full of self pity at the moment.

On the topic, lately I've noticed more and more, as I get older it's hard to enjoy beautiful days alone. I guess when I was younger I at least had a couple of friends and some family members to share it with. It gets harder to get up and have a "purpose" so to speak. When it comes to sexuality, I've always found myself frustrated in that area so it's nothing new but whenever I hear people talking about how great their sex lives are I get jealous.

*Awkward aspie hug*

oh never mind, I would rather have the c-section without pain relief than have to see my ex again.

I think thats the trouble with a lot of the things which have the potential of being harder without a partner is the 'real' partner (rather than a 'fantasy' partner) actually makes things worse, is critical, cruel and not supportive so the doing it alone is actually better than doing it with them.

(Im feeling really cross as my ex stalked my post and sent me a cruel and nasty email about it, I will have to make a new account )

This is most definitely true. I'm sorry he's being such an ass to you.