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01 Feb 2012, 5:07 pm

Tequila wrote:
Lonermutant wrote:
To me it's all about the sex, not the love.


Do you not have a Norwegian version of a website you can basically trawl through to get what you want?


I prefer porn.



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01 Feb 2012, 9:57 pm

I wouldn't believe it so don't bother :)


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02 Feb 2012, 9:59 am

What would Freud say? :scratch:



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02 Feb 2012, 1:08 pm

I would want a girlfriend because of the relationship and intimacy. That's what I'm sorely lacking in my life, and long for. I've had a very long list of romantic rejection; the one possibility I should have pursued (a very attractive girl in high school who was the snow princess in a ballet performance of The Nutcracker, and ASKED ME OUT to the prom) is now happily married to someone else.

I've tried the dating sites, but nothing useful comes out of those, even though I seem to do everything right. My close friends, who do not have Asperger's, cannot understand why I am single, either. On the other hand, they're so used to me that they were very surprised to hear that I had it. I'm very confident and relaxed in social settings.



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02 Feb 2012, 6:20 pm

mds_02 wrote:
In reality, the depression came from low self esteem which came from basing my sense of self-worth on the opinions of others. I ended up doing a lot of stuff I regret, putting myself in very negative situations, degrading myself, so I could feel that "at least I'm good enough for someone."

From things I've seen over and over again posted here, I think there are a lot of guys perfectly willing to do the same. I know how hard it is to find an internal source of self-esteem when it seems that the whole world is telling you that you are not good enough, but the first step toward a healthy relationship is to realize that you are worthy of one.


This, is my answer perfectly worded. If everything else I've pretty much tried has failed, if just one person actually romantically wanted me, then I could feel at least some happiness. It's about all I'm living for, since everything else is lost or stolen from me.

It comes down to self-esteem really. I don't have any, never have.