What Okcupid has taught me about the area I live in

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Yes, I give up the okc thing.

you didn't make most of the changes i had suggested before, but i assume you must have implemented someone else's ideas.

so i guess you have no option except to give up. that is what you want to hear, right?

Last time i changed my profile I did it under your direct guidance.

if im going to quit itll be at more than just okc

you didn't make all of the changes i suggested.

well, if you don't want to give up, then what do you want? do you want people to tell you that you have no chance at ever being successful at dating? do you want people to keep trying to help you?

im quite sure i had done every change you had said at the time.

no, im done changing things in hopes someone will like my profile instead of me. What i look for is to make sure reality and book knowledge are treated fairly

it's easier to blame people's advice instead of making changes. i don't think anyone has ever tried every idea, so at some point they need to accept that they are unwilling to do so and to be aware that it is their own choice. it's not the fault of the people giving advice.

I have made changes based on the advice ive recieved.

I never blamed anyone, but the thing is, most girls I might be interested in on okc already know how i look like already, so adjusting my photo-shootings is kinda useless because it's hard to change others' first impressions anyways. It's not like it's getting a lot of new users anyways.

It's the lack of motivation to do so is the problem. Why keep doing so? It sounds pointless to me. My chances in the gym and in the college this summer (planing to get a second major...) are probably way better.

and oh, here's the thing, most of the time I go out alone, I have no one to take my photos in an outdoor/activities setting.

I notice that I basically never get any reply to my messages, while I do my best to make them not too short, nor too long, but nice messages.

Maybe it is because of my photo? I don't really have a super good photo of myself on the computer.

i wasn't talking to you with that comment. i'm glad that in-person activities are working for you. but you're posting in a thread about OKCupid.


nobody takes my pictures either. you can use a timer and set it down.


people will always give you new advice based on new information. it's up to you whether you want that or not.

I've always thought that, people on dating sites are more likely to judge you on something if you bother to make it availible to judge.

you post a photo, people are more likely to judge you on your photo....
you post your income, people are more likely to judge you on your income....
you post your height, people are more likely to judge you on your height....
and this goes for most people, women and men alike

its because dating site profiles in away make it more likely for people to judge you on things that normaly people would even think about if they met you in real life. Its the lack of the human element really, because instead of a person, people just see pixels, words, and numbers.