How do the older members (30+) cope with singleness?

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Once you wear the ring and get pregnant, you never have time and money for just yourself again. You also have to wait in longer theme park lines.

I'm in my early 30s, and the way I look at it is that while I dislike being single, it's not an entirely active choice..........it would be really hard to find a guy whom I liked, my daughter was okay with, and would fit in with my family.

porn.

That sounds familiar. Same boat here, and while I actually did find someone nice online a couple of days ago, I'm not attracted. Which is unfortunate, because I also have a hard time finding someone in this area that has more than a high school education and/or wants to do more than go hunting or fishing.

people sans a shingle can still be worthy and loving mates, and may pleasantly surprise you now and then with their cognition.

btw, welcome to la cosa aspie nostra!

I feel pretty crappy about it most of the time, mainly because I have always been single. Not only that but I've never even had a reciprocal love of any kind. I just wanna know what it's like to have someone like you back.

That said, not sure I could cope being in a conventional relationship. If it was somewhat open and carefree it might be okay.

I struggle to cope and coexist with being single, because certainly in my experience it has brought baggage.

To tell the truth, I like the singleness, and the ability to do what I want without interference. However, when in life can I do a lot of that? I do my artwork, and really would not mind someone doing the dishes in another room. I grew up in a household of 6 kids, on, and sometimes 2 parents. At one point, 14 people were living in my house. I'm actually used to lots of people, but I tuck myself into my own little world. Right now I have 2 cats, 2 dogs. They kind of make up for the people.

I am going into a line of work now that pays well, IF I Can get out of town on long distance trips. Now more than ever, I want a significant other to take care of my things and animals when I am out of town. I live with a friend, an old guy who has cancer. He is a bummer, and will not do anything for me. I understand he is weak, so I don't ask him.

I also get very stuck in ruts. I do like travel, but getting me out the door is hard. It takes a very hard push to get me to go anywhere. I need someone to push me. My things are long walks (nature walks where I classify plants, and pick up specimens, usually), museums, aquariums and so on. So I do like to "get out of the house." I prefer to be alone, but being with a friend is nice.

Finding someone who is tolerant of my oddities would be very hard. I have an unmarried opposite sex friend now who is occasionally going out with me, but I don't think it will be serious. It never is. I usually never have more than one date.

I think natural selection selected me for extinction.

I think I'm with a lot of singles in that its the lack of viable possibilities (ie. number of people I can actually feel right about things with) that's let me down more than anything else. Seems a bit like once an outlier always an outlier.

apathy, hooray for aspergers at least it's good for something.

Good for you if you have a "special talent"

So many interesting tales from you guys!

Good to know what I can so when I reach 30.

If a girl tells you she's 'kinda quirky'... run.

I take this means she's definitely head-the-ball?

Could you explain this to me? I kind of don't get the term (that is how little knowledge I have). XD

Just kidding. The last girl I went out with (for 6 months - we broke up last November) described herself as 'kinda quirky', turned out she was bipolar and had an anxiety disorder. It was an 'interesting' 6 months.

She didn't cook your rabbit I hope?