How NOT to pick up a woman

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18 Apr 2012, 9:40 am

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Haters gonna hate.

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18 Apr 2012, 10:37 am

lol

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18 Apr 2012, 11:55 am

spongy wrote:

hyperlexian wrote:

do people ever really respond positively to a stranger making conversation like that? i am shocked she even gave her facebook details.

It depends on the settings I guess.

I have seen it happen at:
-You are both in a line waiting for something
-Parks. Not sure why is this but Ive seen it happen with one person staring then the other one replies then one of them says something as they are leaving to give the other one a chance to start a convo (I guess)

As for the fb thing: I met a someone for the first time this sunday, we spent less than an hour talking, in this short time we exchanged fb just so we could keep in touch(new in town, still getting used to Spanish...).
A while ago asking someone for their fb details seemed like a bold move(even when it was a friend or something) but some people have helped me overcome this and most people(regardless of their gender) seem to give out their fb details quite easily.

This is quite scary considering the whole gps thing that was recently put on fb but quite a few people around here do give their fb details easily.

That being said I guess it can vary depending on the age of the people you are asking since those that are a bit older are more concerned about private details... everyone should be but sadly this isnt the case.

yeah, i didn't realise people treat FB differently than other modes of contact. on reflection i guess it feels more "public" maybe, so it's not too personal. i have people on FB who requested friendship with some kind of line like, "you're hot, i want to get to know you better." i accept their friendship but as soon as they started sending PMs or being pushy in some way then i delete them.

so i suppose i treat Facebook incautiously too, although i've not given my details to someone i just met in person. i don't like people just randomly talking to me to chat me up, but it sounds like it is just me.

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18 Apr 2012, 12:20 pm

Tequila wrote:

If you want to make a woman dislike you, just steal her chips.

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18 Apr 2012, 1:03 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:

Tequila wrote:

If you want to make a woman dislike you, just steal her chips.

Nah bro, that'd be a neg and then she'd love you forever.

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18 Apr 2012, 3:12 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Unless if she gets impressed later of what he has in his FB profile: pics with friends, travel pics, cars, interests....

Important point, especially for Aspie guys. The Aspie guys I've met impressed me with intelligence, weird sense of humor, reliability, honesty, and ethics but it took time for them to demonstrate this.

How well do these PUA ideas work for Aspies? Maybe they work in general for the average NT guy, but the Aspie guys I've met took much longer to get to know. It took time for them to grow on me, mostly because they had to overcome the initial red flags they raised - we can't always figure you out (ummn that's what led me to WP in the first place...). It doesn't hurt to try and hang around enough to let the girl get a feel for you and the longer you do this the better the chance you have.

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18 Apr 2012, 4:03 pm

nomadder wrote:

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:

Unless if she gets impressed later of what he has in his FB profile: pics with friends, travel pics, cars, interests....

*phew* someone with common sense...at last...

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18 Apr 2012, 5:23 pm

I think the PUA game only really applies to (hetero) NT girls. It may apply to aspie girls, but they seem to work completely different. So someone has to figure out that game. Otoh, aspie girls tend to work more naturally for me it seems

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18 Apr 2012, 6:28 pm

Gosh. How many times does this need to be said?

This thread has NOTHING to do with PUA pickup artistry.

It was just some naive nice-guy who didn't know when to hold em and when to fold em.

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18 Apr 2012, 7:44 pm

Well, I've learned that no eye contact and one-sided conversations are a major stop sign. It's only happened to me once or twice but still, emotional cold is an easy thing to pick up on.

You never know, really. The girl at the library could've had a boyfriend already, could've been a lesbian, the possibilities are endless, really. No offense to the OP, but I've seen many failed pick-up attempts, and the last thing I care to do is post the play-by-play on the internet. Let's hear what to do, not what not to do.

Edit: could this be related? :!: http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt195942.html

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18 Apr 2012, 8:23 pm

Facebook is a different form of communication. It's a more generic and less personal way of communication than a phone number, lets say.

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http://www.wrongplanet.net/postt195942.html

The first part of your post, 100% correct.

The second part, there is no list of things you have to do. Everyone is different. And there are so many diverse success stories. However, there are things that you should not do.

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19 Apr 2012, 2:59 pm

hyperlexian wrote:

do people ever really respond positively to a stranger making conversation like that? i am shocked she even gave her facebook details.

I suppose some people do. But when they do they typically don't respond the way the lady in this story did.

(Whoops, here I go derailing threads again...)

The thing no one seems to have mentioned so far is: "Where was the guy's dignity during all of this, outside leaning on the library doorway calling in buy orders for the day??"

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19 Apr 2012, 3:51 pm

Why would she bother with his dignity?, what does he "loose" ..?

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