The Science of One-Night Stands

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MXH
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18 May 2012, 4:49 pm

is that the best comeback you can manage :lol:



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18 May 2012, 4:52 pm

I think your post isn't worth anything but a "meh", it isn't a comeback.

You're to busy tooting your own horn about your "Abilities" in bed.. it's a hallmark of some one who's never actually had sex. There is no physical evidence that a woman has had an orgasm. She doesn't ejaculate fluids, she doesn't do anything except allegedly moan and thrash about. However, that is so cliched and stereotyped now you have no way of knowing if she's doing it because she's getting off or if she's just doing it to get you off her.



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18 May 2012, 4:56 pm

Hallmarklol



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18 May 2012, 4:59 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
Hallmarklol


Err.. does that mean something different in Ireland than in the US?

Hallmark here just means it's a trope or a standard commentary on a given person, place or thing...

did I miss something else?



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18 May 2012, 5:00 pm

rabbittss wrote:
I think your post isn't worth anything but a "meh", it isn't a comeback.

You're to busy tooting your own horn about your "Abilities" in bed.. it's a hallmark of some one who's never actually had sex. There is no physical evidence that a woman has had an orgasm. She doesn't ejaculate fluids, she doesn't do anything except allegedly moan and thrash about. However, that is so cliched and stereotyped now you have no way of knowing if she's doing it because she's getting off or if she's just doing it to get you off her.

Ahh the "not worth a reply" comeback, i havent seen that form of self entitlement in a while.

I wouldnt know my abilities in bed as i cant do myself, what i do have is someone who i know wouldnt lie to me and if anything would teach me to be better. That she hasnt needed to speaks for itself. This shall be for oral. For starters the clitoris will enlarge itself and become erect when you play with it well enough, that is if you know what it is (and no its not a pokemon). Depending on position of your head and her legs you might be able to feel a pulse, and yes ive felt it, obviously if its resting then shes not enjoying it much. If its racing then you're atleast getting her excited. Thirdly moaning is not that common. But the easiest way to tell if you made a woman orgasm, if she asks for more daily. :lol:



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18 May 2012, 5:05 pm

rabbittss wrote:
I think your post isn't worth anything but a "meh", it isn't a comeback.

You're to busy tooting your own horn about your "Abilities" in bed.. it's a hallmark of some one who's never actually had sex. There is no physical evidence that a woman has had an orgasm. She doesn't ejaculate fluids, she doesn't do anything except allegedly moan and thrash about. However, that is so cliched and stereotyped now you have no way of knowing if she's doing it because she's getting off or if she's just doing it to get you off her.


So, urm, people have been studying the physiology of female sexual response since Masters and Johnson, if not before. :lol:

The vaginal canal contracts. Muscles lock. The skin flushes pink or red. Some women DO ejaculate fluids.

There's a bit more to it than 'moaning and thrashing about' (you apparently watch too much porn: many if not most women go silent and rigid during orgasm)- the characterization of it as such is someone who is ignorant of female sexual physiology.


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18 May 2012, 5:06 pm

I can't see how saying you're a decent f**k is a hallmark of someone who hasn't had any. Unless you're 9.



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18 May 2012, 5:08 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
I can't see how saying you're a decent f**k is a hallmark of someone who hasn't had any. Unless you're 9.


I was thinking the same, but it makes sense of someone who complains he cant get what "he desserves" but does nothing to desserve them



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18 May 2012, 5:11 pm

ZX_SpectrumDisorder wrote:
I can't see how saying you're a decent f**k is a hallmark of someone who hasn't had any. Unless you're 9.


This is someone who got a 28 page thread locked for his declaring he didn't want to have gay friends because _______________ (insert homophobic statement here).

We're not dealing with a person with above a middle school level of human sexual intimacy. A little chest-beating is to be expected.


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18 May 2012, 7:55 pm

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researchers sent young men and women on the prowl at a Florida university, instructing them to approach people attractive enough that they would actually consider sleeping with them, and within two sentences of conversation, see if they would agree to a date, a trip back to the questioner’s apartment, or a roll in the hay. (Presumably, for research purposes they didn’t actually need to follow through on the request, merely record the response.) Whereas no women would sleep with the investigators, and only 3% agreed to go back to their apartments, a full 75% of men agreed to sleep with the female questioners, regardless of how cute they were.

before i forget, this was reinvestigated recently and the numbers changed. a higher percentage of women would go home with the questioner... let me see if i can find it.


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18 May 2012, 7:58 pm

ValentineWiggin wrote:
rabbittss wrote:
I think your post isn't worth anything but a "meh", it isn't a comeback.

You're to busy tooting your own horn about your "Abilities" in bed.. it's a hallmark of some one who's never actually had sex. There is no physical evidence that a woman has had an orgasm. She doesn't ejaculate fluids, she doesn't do anything except allegedly moan and thrash about. However, that is so cliched and stereotyped now you have no way of knowing if she's doing it because she's getting off or if she's just doing it to get you off her.


So, urm, people have been studying the physiology of female sexual response since Masters and Johnson, if not before. :lol:

The vaginal canal contracts. Muscles lock. The skin flushes pink or red. Some women DO ejaculate fluids.

There's a bit more to it than 'moaning and thrashing about' (you apparently watch too much porn: many if not most women go silent and rigid during orgasm)- the characterization of it as such is someone who is ignorant of female sexual physiology.


I don't watch porn, it's degrading to women.

Also, why is there no "Report post" feature, since everyone in here has decided to attack me personally, I'm hereby lodging a formal complaint.



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18 May 2012, 9:57 pm

The_Face_of_Boo wrote:
http://healthland.time.com/2009/08/11/the-science-of-one-night-stands/

^ so the path of one-night stands that some male members preach here isn't at all easier....


Average-good-looking/average-looking/ugly guys, you are better off with the long term attempts instead.
I would speculate that the majority of one night stands originate in settings that involve bars/alcohol. I know I don't have the social confidence and with the sensory issues I have,I would feel incredibly anxious in that setting.I would have zero chance of establishing a one night stand .



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18 May 2012, 10:33 pm

MXH wrote:
Yes there is
http://www.psmag.com/culture/casual-sex ... all-28451/
http://www.science20.com/news_articles/ ... ickier_men
And ive also read one that indicated the reason for women being pickier is because they are the "gatekeepers", the study made two groups of people (men/women) and first made men approach women. The men were less picky about who to approach and women more picky about who approached them. They then made women approach and men be the gatekeepers and then the women were less picky over who they approached and men more picky over who approached them.

So yes, there is a magical exception to reproductive strategy, because casual sex is not a reproductive strategy but an emotional one

arrrrgh i went looking for this study but i missed you had already posted it.

safety and sexual satisfaction really are major reasons women would say no, but if those factors are levelled off then women are more likely to say yes.

the original Clark and Hatfield paper Gender Differences in Receptivity to Sexual Offers is actually somewhat questioned in recent times because it falls prey to the belief that college students are representative of all adults. the study apparently mostly shows that college men are more likely to be apt to take risks (about safety and satisfaction) than college girls are. but that doesn't make women less receptive to casual sex under the right circumstances.
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19 May 2012, 3:33 am

rabbittss wrote:
There is no physical evidence that a woman has had an orgasm. She doesn't ejaculate fluids, she doesn't do anything except allegedly moan and thrash about. However, that is so cliched and stereotyped now you have no way of knowing if she's doing it because she's getting off or if she's just doing it to get you off her.

Actually, if you look in Masters & Johnson, you will find a description of the female orgasm and the physical signs of it. One thing that can't easily be faked is tiny beads of sweat that appear all over her body. I don't know that it always happens, but when it does, it's diagnostic. I've only ever seen it once (either I forget to check, or I'm not in the right position to do so without spoiling the atmosphere).........so that's the only time I feel certain that my partner climaxed. Now all I have left to do is work out who she was thinking about at the time. I guess that can't be done, so it's back to learning to trust :x



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19 May 2012, 3:35 am

Not much science behind a one night stand two people sleep together then don't see each other the next day.



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19 May 2012, 3:37 am

Facepalm in 3...2....


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