Where are you successful with men / women?

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Where am I successful with women? Anywhere except the standard mainstream places, I think.

Discos, parties, bars, dance halls, night clubs, pick-up joints, forget it.

Let's see.......the locations of my "successes"

1. While performing in an amateur play (I got noticed)
2. Postal dating agency, then her place
3. At a party (the exception that proves the rule)
4. In the grounds of my workplace and in each other's houses
5. In my room in a shared house
6. Workplace and in the woods nearby
7. While living and working communally in a mixed group
8. While living and working communally in a mixed group
9. Postal dating agency, then her place
10 Postal dating agency, then parks and each other's homes
11. Postal dating agency, then each other's homes
12. Web forum (not a dating website)
13. On a charity committee

So I guess it's mostly workplaces and agencies. I don't think it makes a lot of difference where it is, as long as the background distractions are reasonably low. But I wouldn't call anything on my list "successful." I ended up with some kind of partner every time, but I failed to assess compatibility and the relationships all collapsed.

Morgue? No one ever gets up and walks away, anyway...

I seem to have better luck on plenety of fish. Peviously, I was very sceptical of dating agencies being heavily disadvantage to
men. Women prefering alpa male types who are not likely to need a dating agency, and also the unbalanced ratio men to woman.

But I gave it a last try and it seem to work very well. I have been on 4 dates already, 5 if didn't have to cancel one. One date was pure evil, an aspie should have to go though that BS. The other 3, it shouldn't be difficult to arrange another date. Though neither of them are quite an ideal match. One of them is better. She even likes geeks, opposed to just black men. I have another date for the weekend if I get though the phone stage.

That's a nice hoody you have also.

Not for any political bent mind you, I just like soviet realist artwork and design.

Well if I'm to be serious about an answer, I just got back from a coffee shop and noticed that there are a disproportionate number of people that aren't traveling in packs there. I imagine if one had the correct indicators of wealth or a pretentious enough sweater vest they might have some luck there. (It is not easy to find a sufficiently pretentious sweater vest.)

Didn't really seem to be as social a place as I thought coffee shops were supposed to be. People generally hid behind books, study materials or their devices, not much conversation going on. Online may be a better bet.

I seem to get hit on just about anywhere. I'm currently dealing with my first case of a co-worker who is married and flirting with me. At first I thought he was just trying to be cute, joking about it being "no pants day" when I'm wearing a skirt, but he started giving me a neck massage this week, so he's trying to take it to a physical level. Eep! (And no, it's not sexual harassment, before anyone jumps on that bandwagon. It's just run-of-the-mill attempted adultery in which I'm not planning on participating.)

I like meeting people and talking with them, so that may be what makes a big difference, as I'm pretty outgoing and flirty in general. I really prefer when I meet people via friends, because then we already have friends in common and we can do group activities without so much pressure to impress the other person's friends. Most boyfriends I've met through work or college. My only boyfriend when I was in high school I met when I was 13 and on a weekend bowling league outside of school, and he was 6 years older than me and no longer in school. We started dating after being friends for a couple of years, and I probably would have married him if he didn't run off to another state for work during my senior year. I ended up dumping him as I couldn't handle the long distance relationship. I had zero luck with guys in junior high and high school, probably because I was too busy with activities to really care so much about dating, although I had lots of male friends, and I didn't go to my prom because I didn't have a date. I also went to a residential summer camp for 5 years, both as a camper and as a counselor, and there was always flirting going on between everyone each year.

I prefer to start with websites and move on from there
I have a pretty good succes rate with that.